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[Tear78]

Originally Posted by spughy 

Wildmansmom - personally, I think AP isn't just about attachments to parents, it's about facilitating healthy attachments to other people as well, especially other people like grandparents.  Nuclear families aren't particularly natural, our culture is about the only one that doesn't heavily involve grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. in child-rearing.  If your LO is familiar with your MIL and happy with her and she wants to have some special time with him, I say take her up on it. 

This is so well said, and something that it helps me to hear, too. DD just spent the night with Nana and Grandpa last night for the third time, and she did great. It was good for DH and me to have some "us" time, and I think it really helps us be fresh and ready to shower DD with the love and attention I want to always give her. She loves them, too, and I think it can only be good for her to feel safe and loved with a broader circle. Anyway, what spughy said. ;-)

afm - I was wondering why my BH and period-like feelings and everything seemed to pretty much go away for the past week. Then it hit me: they pretty much stopped when I found out my grandfather was on comfort care. Now that his memorial service is over and I'm out on medical leave, I think I need to start thinking relaxing and welcoming thoughts for this little one. Plus, DH just finished his wardrobe (he built it from scratch) so I think we're both feeling like...ok, now he can come. Hear that, little one? Ready when you are!

[Chapsie]

Originally Posted by spughy 

Wildmansmom - personally, I think AP isn't just about attachments to parents, it's about facilitating healthy attachments to other people as well, especially other people like grandparents.  Nuclear families aren't particularly natural, our culture is about the only one that doesn't heavily involve grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. in child-rearing.  If your LO is familiar with your MIL and happy with her and she wants to have some special time with him, I say take her up on it. 

Yes, I agree, too!  AP is all about letting the baby learn to trust and feel secure in his/her world.  Once a secure attachment is made with a primary caregiver, the child feels that he/she can trust other adults, too.  :)   

[wildmansmom]

Thanks everyone - DS has an amazing relationship with his Nana and Papa.  He's stayed the night with them once before and did great, but never more than one night and never 4 hours away!  And they are wonderful about following our wishes even when we aren't around and they let him co-sleep with them at night.

I think I'm going to let him go and pray that being alone in the house will be a good thing for me.

[sunshinelove]

I personally wouldn't have him stay that long, that far away, if its going to make me uncomfortable in any way. Yes AP is about enabling children to create healthy attachments with, ideally, more than simply their parents but there are limits and mama typically is the best judge for knowing what those limits are. I'm not trying to tell you what you should do, wildmansmom, just giving a different perspective. I know, for me, if i had any doubt that my child being gone that long at that far of a distance would make me uncomfortable i wouldnt do it. There are pros and cons, of course, but ultimately it is up to one's own judgment about what feels best.

[RainGardenMama]

Baby born was born at home this morning!

[Bena]

Originally Posted by RainGardenMama 

Baby born was born at home this morning!

Hurray! Can't wait for the details!!!

[cabbitdancer]

Yay, Raingardenmama! Congrats!

[MPsSweetie]

Congratulations!

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

I was having a permacontraction a week ago (I overdid it during the day) and I climbed into the warm tub and it went away instantly. I also chugged a bunch of water. It was no fun, though, and made me a little timid of the real thing. The contractions I had last time (which I only felt at the beginning) weren't painful, just intense somehow. I was hoping they'd feel that way this time, at least at first.

(eee!  again).  My midwife said to me (when I was complaining "I just want a BREAK!" during my labor with Maggie, "You ARE getting breaks, you just need to use them."  Just remember to use the breaks to really relax (permacontraction sounds like no fun!).  You'll be great :)  I'm sure at first they'll feel intense, like you said.  I've read that if you can feel sexy ish while you're in labor (massage yourself and stuff) that it can feel really nice too.  But it sounded soooo unappealing to me during labor that I didn't even try.  Did your midwife check your cervix at your appointment (today?) or are you still opting to forego the checks (forgot to ask you this when we were on the phone--I'm just curious...I know it doesn't mean anything and all, but still.)?

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78 
DD just spent the night with Nana and Grandpa last night for the third time, and she did great. It was good for DH and me to have some "us" time, and I think it really helps us be fresh and ready to shower DD with the love and attention I want to always give her. She loves them, too.

I'm just so jealous of this and so happy for your dd, and ds (!) and mom and dad, and you guys.  It's just SO great to see how close they are--mom was talking about watching your dd during your birth, and the way she was talking about her reminded me of how I talk about my kids - just really connected and really knowledgeable about how they respond to things or what they'll need to support them.  It was really sweet.  We're pretty lucky to have such great grandparents for our kids, and you were super smart to move so close... :)

[sunshinelove]

Yay raingardenmama!! . I am so happy for you! Enjoy your little one and post some pictures when you get a chance

[wildmansmom]

Yeah RGM -so happy for you!

Sunshine - I have a deal with my MIL that if, for any reason, either DS or I become antsy she will bring him back immediately.  I think he'll do great and I know it will be very relaxing and restful the first day or so. I'm hoping that I'll be in the hospital after that and won't have time to be anxious!

[scruffy too]

Originally Posted by RainGardenMama 

Baby born was born at home this morning!

Congrats RainGardenMama!!!!!!!  Hope you and babe are feeling great!

[chocolatechip]

Congratulations RainGardenMama! So happy for you!!

[wildmansmom]

So despite not having any contractions today I did lose a little of my mucous plug and my hips are feeling pretty loose and wobbly.  They are even popping/cracking when I walk which not something I remember happening with DS.  Anyone else have this feeling?

[eternalw]

Originally Posted by wildmansmom 

So despite not having any contractions today I did lose a little of my mucous plug and my hips are feeling pretty loose and wobbly.  They are even popping/cracking when I walk which not something I remember happening with DS.  Anyone else have this feeling?

My hips are totally like that...

[SamiPolizzi]

Originally Posted by wildmansmom 

So despite not having any contractions today I did lose a little of my mucous plug and my hips are feeling pretty loose and wobbly.  They are even popping/cracking when I walk which not something I remember happening with DS.  Anyone else have this feeling?

My hips have been cracking and popping for a couple weeks now. Mostly when I roll over in bed or go from laying down to sitting. And it HURTS! 

I've been having really regular contractions for the past few hours. But they don't hurt or anything. I'm sure it doesn't mean anything. Especially since I'm only 38 weeks. It'd be nice, though...

[storygirlcindy]

Mine haven't been cracking and popping, but increasingly over the last few weeks everything just feels loose and wobbly. I feel like I have to walk carefully or I will just all spontaneously fall apart! ;)

[writermama12]

I went to my second acupuncture appt yesterday and afterward I had strong BH that were painless every 4-5 min for a few hours. They fizzled when I went to sleep. But I slept awful. I had to pee every 2 hours (usually I only get up once a night), I had the most disgusting night sweats (I was totally drenched and so was my sheet) and my hips, hip connectors, and pelvic symphasis are SOOOOO painful. I am 40 weeks today and remind myself frequently that I could go into labor today or tomorrow or next week, so I have quit timing contractions or paying attention to them unless they feel stronger or closer together, like yesterday. I actually only timed them last night because I was curious about the frequency as it related to acupuncture but they were still only BH.

[eternalw]

Originally Posted by writermama12 

I went to my second acupuncture appt yesterday and afterward I had strong BH that were painless every 4-5 min for a few hours. They fizzled when I went to sleep. But I slept awful. I had to pee every 2 hours (usually I only get up once a night), I had the most disgusting night sweats (I was totally drenched and so was my sheet) and my hips, hip connectors, and pelvic symphasis are SOOOOO painful. I am 40 weeks today and remind myself frequently that I could go into labor today or tomorrow or next week, so I have quit timing contractions or paying attention to them unless they feel stronger or closer together, like yesterday. I actually only timed them last night because I was curious about the frequency as it related to acupuncture but they were still only BH.

Writermama12- that happened to me after my last acupuncture treatment, but things settled right down for a few days and I was able to sleep deeply and "catch up"... Hope it does whatever you need it to do soon... :)