We're having some issues with my in-laws. My daughter is sensitive to gluten and gets mouth ulcers and messy bowel movements when she eats it. Unfortunately we can't get an answer from a doctor here as they can only test for Coeliacs, so I have no proof aside from her symptoms.
We have told her grandparents countless times that she can't eat gluten, and have mentioned taking her to the doctors as well as her symptoms, but it makes no difference. We have even kept her away for a week, which worked for about a week and then they went back to their usual defiant selves. They are giving her cake every week and then lying to us about it and telling her not to tell us. Every time we bring it up, her Granny goes defensive and starts a huge argument over the whole thing as if we are the ones being unfair. I honestly think she mustn't believe in gluten intolerance or that we're just making it up to control what she eats.
But we are at the stage where there is nothing we can do to get them to stop. We can't keep her away either, because despite this, they are really good to us and help us out a lot. They are also the only people she can stay with for the afternoon. So of course we don't want to stop her seeing them, but I don't know what else to do.
Can anyone give me a link to an article or anything to explain why you shouldn't give gluten to a gluten intolerant child? The only thing I can think of to do now is post articles on Facebook about why they shouldn't do it, but I can't find anything of any use. So any help would be much appreciated; the whole thing is driving us mad and leaving us feeling completely powerless over our own daughter.