I have a couple of questions I need help with. The quick background...my 5YO daughter is a very sensitive child (everything from touch,sight, smell, etc). We absolutely think she is wonderful and her personality is just one thing that makes her so perfect in our eyes. We appreciate all of the little things about her! But...we are quickly seeing how some friends and family see her personality as a "problem" or like something is wrong with her.
1) We are SO tired of people calling her shy to her face. And now that she is older she is starting to ask me what shy means. I don't want her to label herself like that. So, how can we handle others when they say something about her "being so shy"?
2) People are now comparing her to her 19mo sister, who is much more extroverted. They say things like, "oh your sister isn't shy like you" or "how did you get so shy and your sister isn't". I don't know how much of this she is picking up, but I don't want her to feel as though something is wrong with her. What can we say when people say these things?
3) Manners. When she is greeted by a familiar family member or friend, she has no "issues". But when a stranger or not-so-familiar person greets or talks to her, she usually looks away towards me or puts her head on me. She doesn't respond to their questions. I guess I'm wondering...where the difference between being shy and having poor manners is. Others who have sensitive children...do you force your child to say hello or answer questions, etc?