My DH and I have agreed to find out this time (#3). The first two were surprises, such fun, but DH really wants to try finding out, so I'm cool with going for that. But, we lean toward keeping it a secret from everyone else. I wonder if that is worse torture for our families than not finding out and not hearing any names, LOL. What would you think of friends who did that? I'm not usually concerned about what people think of my life in general, but my DH is a pastor and I don't want broadly offend a lot of people if they think I'm being a prick for not telling.
Has anyone found out gender but kept it a secret?
Of course he broke down and told her, and then you know, you can't have one grandma know something and leave the other one in the dark... So the cat was out of the bag and there was no party :P
DH and I found out the sex last time but didn't tell anyone the sex until at our baby shower, to prevent people from getting us gender specific gifts. We asked everyone for "green gifts" - green in color and/or 'green' environmentally. Then at the shower we had cupcakes and we filled the cupcakes with blue icing so everyone found out the sex when they bit in to their cupcake. It was fun and meant we didn't have to keep the secret for too long, and it kept our friends from pestering us too much about the sex of the baby because they knew they would find out at the party.
I have also heard another variation where the parents have the US tech write the sex in an envelope which they give to the baker who makes the cake and then everyone gets to find out together at the shower. I kind of think this is an interesting idea.
I'm glad to hear various thoughts! We won't be having any showers since it's our third, and the main reason we wouldn't tell is to keep a lot of the fun of the actual birth and anticipation of it. We discussed too, that if we tell our kids, everyone will know, so oh well. We're still on the fence. I love the old fashioned way of everything being a surprise at the end - gender and name, but want to honor DH's wish to find out and I'm liking that idea of finding out, while still trying to keep some surprise there.