Originally Posted by BonsaiBirth
Its fantastic that your husband is committed to support you in the best way he can. Gaining the know how through classes for this experience is a great step. Having the support of someone else who knows the birth process and has both you and your husbands interests in mind is a great tool to add to your birth bag. Midwives are there for the medical portion while a doula is there for the emotional support, physical comfort techniques, and informational when the midwife is occupied. A doula can be very impactful. Good luck with your decision! Have a blessed birth.
I agree with everything above.
In addition, you don't know what you are going to want/need in labour.
My DH was wonderful, and very supportive. We have a great, close relationship and good communication. We attended classes together before DS was born, and I let him know that I would want his support and encouragement during L&D, to be near to me, to tell me encouraging things.
Fast forward to actual labour, I didn't want him to talk to me at all. If he tried to tell me I was doing great, he got a look of death because in my mind at the time how the heck could he know if I was doing well or not? He had never been to a birth before!! My doula, I trusted. When she told me I was doing great, I believed her. When she suggested things to do, I did them, because I trusted and believed her. DH was still there, he still supported me, he held my leg as I pushed DS out, but I needed more than him to be there for me.
So, notwithstand the fact that you may have a great, supportive DH and you are both informed, you may want the type of support a doula can bring that your husband can't despite being well informed.
We are having a HB with a midwife this go-around, and we are hiring a doula again.