I am a stay-at-home mama and have been attachment parenting from the start. So, naturally my DD and I are very attached. I've felt good about our attachment and proud of the way my husband and I have chosen to raise our little one all along. But, I recently saw a random thread on a doula's Facebook page about leaving your baby for the first time. The doula had posed the question "how old was your baby when you first left him/her?" As I read through the responses I started to feel very anxious. I felt anxious because my DD is 9-months-old and I have yet to leave her. And when I say "leave her," I mean truly leave like for a whole day or large chunk of time. I take breaks and hand her off to my hubby regularly, and have gone on very short trips (literally down the road) to go to the post office, vote or take a quick walk/run. But, I still do not feel ready to leave for hours, and definitely not at night because we co-sleep and DD has always had extreme anxiety about sleeping alone. I co-sleep with her for naps (or my husband does) and go to bed with her at night (which also helps me get some much needed rest). DD is also highly attached to my breast and wants to nurse herself to sleep throughout the night. (So, my husband and I find other times of day to spend time together)
The responses I saw on the FB thread were saying they left their babies at 1 month, 3 months, etc. and there was no way I was leaving my baby back then. But, those responses made me question myself (hate that!!) I have simply been following my baby's lead and my strong instincts all along. Overall, I've been growing more comfortable with child's independence as she has naturally become more independent over time. We both independently (and happily) do our own thing in the same room for the portion of the day that I am not wearing her, co-sleeping during naps or attending to her needs (i.e. bathing, feeding, nursing). So, I don't feel like either of us is smothering the other at all. It's just impossible to not be very closely bonded while attachment parenting and being a stay-at-home mama.
My point is: is it really that crazy that I haven't left my baby yet at 9-months?