Bleeding. Waiting. « Back to Group Discussions

[mattie426]

This is scary stuff for me, and I could really use some support, stories about you experiences, etc. That being said PLEASE do not feel obligated to read if you are not comfortable, or don't want to think about this stuff.

The day before yesterday, I had some very light spotting, but didn't think much about it. We had sex the day before, and I had some spotting earlier on that went away. Yesterday I had more light spotting and a little cramping, especially after a long walk. I was worried, but knew that the only thing to do was watch it. It stopped overnight, but came back after a shower this morning. Today, it got darker and I finally paged my midwife. She told me there was nothing to do but wait and see, but that I should go home from work to do it. I went home, and it got a bit worse (definitely actual blood, but not enough to fill even a panty liner really, but a good amount when wiping), but eased up after trying to take a nap and watching a movie. I checked in with the midwife, and she said at this point it can go either way.

She told me what to expect if I miscarry, and that it is not because of anything I did. She said that if it stays the same by Monday, or even if it gets better, they can send me for an ultrasound to see what it going on. She will check in with me in the morning.

I have had a bit more lighter spotting since talking to her, but not as much as earlier, and am super sensitive to every little cramp and twinge.

I'm not looking for an answer really. It could go either way. I don't have a good feeling about it though, and the waiting really sucks, so I guess just some company while I wait?

Thanks for reading.

[CookAMH]

UGH that waiting is sooooo hard! Why does this stuff have to happen over the weekend? It's so hard to wait! Are you leaning toward the u/s to know either way?

Would you say overall you don't have very much cramping, just that one time after walking? Bleeding plus cramping is usually concerning, but it sounds like you don't have a lot of cramping. I think your midwife is right that it could go either way.  Seems like it would continue to progress this weekend with more and more bleeding, if it's a miscarriage. Maybe someone else could weigh in whether they had slow and on and off bleeding for 3-4 days and still miscarried.

I'm so sorry you're facing this and will be waiting to see whatever results you're able to get early this next week. Waiting is HARD.

[mattie426]

Thank you. The cramping has been on and off. Right now it seems sharper I know that's not a good sign.

If I haven't miscarried by Monday, I will definitely get the ultrasound. Not knowing is so horrible, and if there is something else going on, maybe they can figure out what.

[Jennyanydots]

I'm sorry, mattie426 that is a stressful thing to go through. I had bleeding and cramping with DS, oh I guess about 6 weeks through 8 weeks, if memory serves. I'm not entirely sure of the timing, but it happened on at least two occasions and lasted several days, both times beginning after sex. We were very unnerved, partly because of fear of miscarriage, and partly because I'd had a ruptured ectopic a few months earlier and I was very sensitive to any pains at all.

I also had a late first trimester miscarriage last September, and it did not begin at all like what you're going through. There was no bleeding initially, but severe contraction-like cramps leading up to, well, delivery.

I know those are just anecdotes and may not be reassuring. Every body and every pregnancy is different and all that. I hope this is just a little spell that passes and all will be fine. Looking forward to your updates.

[nettlesoup]

I have nothing helpful to say but wanted to give you positive vibes. I hope all turns out to be fine.
 

[serena76]

When I m/c it started with spotting in the morning and by evening it was full blown like a bad period with really severe cramps and back ache. I have my fingers crossed for u

[haurelia]

Sending good vibes...I'm sorry you're going through this. ((Hugs))

[dakipode]

mattie, I'm sorry I have no reassurances for you. I can only send you moral support and sticky vibes. Stay strong!

[SuzieSmiles]

mattie - so very sorry you're going through this, sending you much love, support, big hugs and sticky vibes. Please let us know how you're doing when you can. 

[mattie426]

Thank you all so so much! This helps more that I can say.

I only had very light spotting on TP last night and this AM. Still kinda crampy, but feeling more hopeful. Just waiting for the midwife to call, and definitely doing an US on Monday if It hasn't happened.

[toothfairy2be]

Sending positive thoughts Mattie. I feel like I spend at least 50% of my awake hours worrying about miscarriage. It is such a long wait from one day to the next. Hoping for you the spotting goes away & everything is good on your u/s.

[amanda bee]

mattie...sending hugs, sticky vibes & support!

[naturallyme]

I had heavy bleeding for 10 days starting at 10 1/2 weeks with my first son. He is 18 now  Then with my third son, I had bleeding, not as heavy for a few days at 12 weeks. It all started after having sex. I hope this helped you a little.

Praying for you and your little one. (((Hugs)))

[LivingSky]

mattie - I hope you are still doing well this morning and that you get your ultrasound and it shows that everything is alright! Sending positive vibes your way!

[toothfairy2be]

Just checking in on you Mattie. Hope all is well.

[CookAMH]

Thinking of you too!

[serena76]

Going no news is good news

[serena76]

*hoping not going

[mattie426]

Bad news.

I had cramping all night.  I haven't had a baby before, so I don't know what contractions feel like, but I know they come and go, and if they feel like sharp cramps sort of between diarrhea and period cramps, then that is what I was having.  Anyway I started the actual miscarriage around 6AM and was pretty much done with that part by 9.  DH paged the midwife, and they are going to check back in later today, but it seems like everything happened the way it is supposed to.

I don't really know how I feel right now.  When I knew it was going to happen, I kept thinking, "I don't want to do this part," but now I just kind of feel like, "OK, well that was an experience."  Maybe I am still in shock a little.  DH was great.  It was really hard for him to not be able to DO anything to help me.  I think he is having a harder time than me accepting that these things just happen sometimes.  He wants to know why, and how we can prevent it.

Thank you all SO SO SO much for all your kind words and support!  Hopefully I will see you again on other groups when we have our rainbow baby.  My best wishes to each and every one of you.  May your families be happy and healthy!

[nettlesoup]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you conceive again quickly and have a nice, squishy rainbow baby. Sending you hugs.