This is our third baby, and second homebirth, and I've invited my mom to come up (4 hrs away) in advance of the birth to be there. I think she's pretty happy to be invited! At the first two, we wanted NO family members. I told her I will decide that day if I'll have her in the room or have her come in after, but it'll be nice to have her to take care of our two kids and not worry about a friend picking them up.
I went into labor around 39 weeks with my first two. I want her to be able to stay a couple weeks after, but understand if she doesn't want to be away from my dad and special needs brother for 4 weeks or so if I have her come too early. Any suggestions on determining a day to come? She could come in a couple of days notice, if we played it by ear partially. I thought of having her come around 38.5 weeks.
Also, who all will you have? With my mom, we'll have a midwife, midwife assistant/student, doula and my DH.