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I have an appointment later today so we'll definitely talk about it.

 

How did it go?  (*mwuh*)

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Talking about the whole induction-thing,

 

My OB (before I switched to a midwife) in my last pregnancy wanted to schedule my repeat cesarean at 39 weeks.  I went into labor and VBAC'd my baby 15 days later.  Its amazing to me that she would have lost out on over two weeks in the womb!  The week before I delivered, I had a friend who did have a repeat c/s at 39 weeks and her son wound up in NICU for TTN (transient tachypnea of the newborn-- respiratory distress).  

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I saw this picture today of a baby born "en caul" and it made me think of you guys so i thought i'd post it:
http://imageshack.us/a/img22/6290/imagefnir.jpg

So beautiful, almost breath-taking love.gif
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Thanks again, you guys! Chocolatechip, my midwife said basically exactly what you said, that testing positive before means I'm a carrier and no surprise I tested positive again. She also said that they would give me an antibiotic that lasts 8 hours so no IV pole needed and I could totally walk around and be in the birthing tub. Thanks for reminding me that this has nothing to do with pre-e. I feel a lot better. Thanks for the advice about alternatives to antibiotics. I'll think about them, but I think based on what she said I probably just want to go with the cautious side. We had to fight t keep DD out of the NICU because she was small and her temp was fluctuating. I can only imagin the battle (and pqersonal worry) if I hadn't taken antibiotics. My mw also said that she will write me a note to stay out of work at any point when it gets to be too much. I said...lol..um..now? But seriously, DH and I talked abut it and I think next Friday will be my last day. I'll be 38 1/2 weeks. I feel so relieved! Teaching is just getting t be sooooo exhausting. Thanks for listening everybody! I have to go get ready for said jobs. Love and hugs!
post #125 of 164
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Thanks again, you guys! Chocolatechip, my midwife said basically exactly what you said, that testing positive before means I'm a carrier and no surprise I tested positive again. She also said that they would give me an antibiotic that lasts 8 hours so no IV pole needed and I could totally walk around and be in the birthing tub. Thanks for reminding me that this has nothing to do with pre-e. I feel a lot better. Thanks for the advice about alternatives to antibiotics. I'll think about them, but I think based on what she said I probably just want to go with the cautious side. We had to fight t keep DD out of the NICU because she was small and her temp was fluctuating. I can only imagin the battle (and pqersonal worry) if I hadn't taken antibiotics. My mw also said that she will write me a note to stay out of work at any point when it gets to be too much. I said...lol..um..now? But seriously, DH and I talked abut it and I think next Friday will be my last day. I'll be 38 1/2 weeks. I feel so relieved! Teaching is just getting t be sooooo exhausting. Thanks for listening everybody! I have to go get ready for said jobs. Love and hugs!


joy.gif  I'm so glad you will get to take some time off before birth.  I think it helps women prepare (mentally) if they can do that!  At least it did for me...and it IS all about me, right?  So is the antibiotic they're going to give you still an IV antibiotic?  I read somewhere that oral are not effective and that you ideally should have 2 doses, so I'm assuming she means some fancy dancy new long lasting IV or something.  That's cool.  I do think this baby will be bigger than Ani though, she was so early and it really seems like you're going to get to wait until this one is fully baked!  So EXCITING!  Maybe you'll get to experience both the teensy tinsy baby and the "birthing a 3 month old sized baby" way of doing it!  orngtongue.gif  I kid.  I kid.  I probably should not do that because you are seriously preggers.  But I figure I can get away with it because you can't reach me from here.  love.gif  I am going to explode pretty soon...you are actually required to post here (or somewhere) every day, you know that right?

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Tear, I hear you on wanting to be done with work!  I am working the next three days in a row (I'm exhausted just thinking about it!) then I'll have a week off and work one more day at 39.5 weeks!  Then done!  (For my measly 6 week disability).  

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So last night I went out for a decaf caramel macchiato and cookies with some friends. It was really nice to have adult time. I've have been really cooped up and hormonal surges have made me feel totally distant from friends so last night was great. One woman I still just getting to know volunteered to be my "doula" for free (she is actually a stage manager) and another volunteered to be my go-to childcare during the day if I need it so I feel pretty supported right now. (sigh of relief) 

 

But I had moderate to strongish BH all night. Once I got home, it was hard not to notice my heart was racing with each one and I was short of breath and there was no way I could rest so I stayed up pretty late. When I finally did go to bed, each contraction brought on a surge of adrenaline and anxiety feelings and dread. Crazy!! I woke up DH to rub my hair and talk to me to distract me from the feelings. We talked a bit about it and I realized that not only is this happening physiologically, but I also think I am having some feelings of fear about the birth that I am not acknowledging. I cannot visualize it...I am so confused about what to want the birth to be like or how I feel about it. 

 

Thankfully, DH reminded me that I can't control this, even though my rational brain wants to try to organize the experience and micromanage the experience, birth isn't that way. It is totally about acceptance and trusting my body-being to do what it was made to do. He reminded me that I don't need to "do" anything but calm down and cope with the sensations and maybe get into a helpful position for birth and that's about it. it made me feel so much better I fell right asleep. 

 

Today I plan to really dig in to my fears and come up with a positive birth to visualize over and over. I may watch some birth videos and read a bunch of stories. Funny that I had been doing that for over a month straight at this point last time I was pregnant and I had a solid footing in the kind of birth experience I wanted and it was a quick and easy labor. 

 

Edit to add: the quick and easy labor, I am thinking, was also pretty scary. Maybe there is some trauma wrapped up in how that labor began (fast, unexpected, and intense).


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post #128 of 164
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So last night I went out for a decaf caramel macchiato....

 

Once I got home, it was hard not to notice my heart was racing with each one and I was short of breath and there was no way I could rest so I stayed up pretty late. When I finally did go to bed, each contraction brought on a surge of adrenaline and anxiety feelings and dread. Crazy!! I woke up DH to rub my hair and talk to me to distract me from the feelings. We talked a bit about it and I realized that not only is this happening physiologically, but I also think I am having some feelings of fear about the birth that I am not acknowledging. I cannot visualize it...I am so confused about what to want the birth to be like or how I feel about it. 

 

Are you sure that was a decaf?  That sounds like what happens to me when some sneaky coffee place serves up the high-test stuff by mistake.  Especially the racing heart and shortness of breath. 

 

I have a sick kid this morning - sort of.  She threw up last night and said her tummy hurt all night but she seems fairly cheerful, if tired - can't quite make out if the cheer is an attempt to get to go to school this afternoon for a puppet show...

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SunShineLove - that picture is breaktaking - I'll be staring at it for the rest of the day.  Completely. Amazing.  Thank you for sharing.

 

WriterMama - I'm having a hard time visualizing the birth, as well.  Despite watching tons of videos and reading birth stories, I just can imagine how it'll all go down.  I'm trying to remind myself that it's not something I'll be able to plan to death, and that I need to stop trying.  I took a bath last night (I rarely take baths!) and told myself "This floating sensation will be similar to when I'm in the birth tub."  The baby was squirming lots, so I think they liked it, too.

 

Spughy - hope your DD feels better soon!!  Tonight is switch night for DSS and he just missed 3 days of school with his mom.  I'm hoping he's not *that* sick...  Him and I are alone this weekend (DP works) and I don't have the energy (or patience) to entertain a sick child for 2 whole days.  I mean, I will, but I'll be resentful (and that's not the emotional state I want to spend my weekend in.)  And I'll let him watch way too much TV, and then I'll feel like I aided in the rotting of his brain and feel guilty (another unwanted emotional state.)

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Just popping in to say a quick hello & give an update. I caught up the best that I could. 

 

On the GBS issue, I know that some mw's use hibiclens to help with positive mamas, but I don't really know much about it. 

 

Hoping those of you who are close and getting sick of the BH's get some good labor coming soon or some relief. orngbiggrin.gif It's so frustrating having to deal with that cramping and knowing that it's not progressing. Just make sure you're not like me and actually recognize when the BH & cramping is progressing. More on that once I finally get my birth story written, but let's just say I was in late active labor before I finally acknowledged that I was in labor and called the midwife. blush.gif

 

AFM - baby Darcy is settling in just great. Even though we were technically prepared for her birth and arrival, mentally we hadn't even thought that she could come early. So, we've been settling in, getting ourselves together, and enjoying our babymoon as a family. She's a great little peanut, but is already very attached to mama. She nurses constantly - some for food, a lot for comfort - and so my nipples are on fire. We're working on her latch, which is OK, but not perfect. I finally broke out my Baby K'tan last night and she seems very content just to be worn and near me, which is giving my breasts a bit of a break. She's also been able to nursing lying down, which is making our nights much easier than they were is DS. All-in-all, this is such a different (positive) experience than what I had with DS and I can't complain. My folks are coming in today to help and will stay through next week. DH had the past week off, but has to go back to work next week, so I'm glad that my folks will be here.

 

I'll post more later & try to get my birth story up soon. In the meantime, happy labor vibes to those of you who are close. We're finally in March. Let the babies come!!

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MayDayMom - thx for the update!!  So happy to hear that all is well with your family and baby Darcy!  Looking forward to reading your birth story. 

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Glad to hear all is well with you, maydaymom.

Today is not a good day. I feel better (much less pain and plenty of sleep and some hugs and cuddles last night from my husband and I feel less on the verge of tears.) However, I am plagued with restlessness and a sense of anxiety that I can't shake and it's making me snappish with my daughter, who has today off from school. I feel bad, but I can't help it and I can't figure out what's making me feel this way.
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I just took a bad fall guilty.gif. I was walking down the stairs a bit quickly and missed the last step. I sort of catapulted forward and hit my forehead (on a door frame) and my knee (on the floor) with a lot of force. BLA, what a crummy thing! I've been sitting here calming myself down. I've put arnica on the boo boos and am icing my head and my knee, and my knee's propped up. I can feel the baby moving normally, and I'm not having any new labor signs, so I'm not too worried about the baby. (Erm, should I be worried about the baby?)

 

Can anyone offer any other suggestions for ways to keep down swelling and bruising? My worst fear is that this will make it uncomfortable for me to be on my knees when I go into labor (I'm 39 weeks). My second worst fear is that I'll have an ugly bruise on my head in all the photos we take after the baby's born. 2whistle.gif

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QUOTE:

Makes you rage think.

Sure does. I battled that 50% chance of c-section with my first.  I was actually told by the OB delivering me that I had 10 minutes or 3 pushes and then she was taking me to the operating room.  And that was after a "semi-induction" at 41 +1. 

 

So this baby likely isn't ready (unless she plans to surprise me).  Part of me wonders if the OB said that because it's what most women want to hear.  But it shocked me even more than another OB (in the same practice) telling me last week that he was perfectly fine with me going beyond 42 weeks as long as I was aware of the risks.

 

spughy  -- my levels were high in the 2nd trimester and the MW said it was likely just because I was getting over a cold and they re-checked just to make sure everything returned to normal.

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Tear78--have you noticed you have a stalker? lol.gif. Maybe you like it, but if someone i know was posting every time i post, making very clingy statements i'd be a bit wigged out. But thats just me. I find carlyle's presence in our ddc to be out-of-place and annoying, anyone else?

Writermama--i can relate to not having a good sense of what this birth will be like and i've realized its because DD's birth went so well that i fear i wont get so "lucky" this time around. This is linked to my long-held belief about not deserving good things, so having such a wonderful first birth makes me believe it might have been a "fluke". I'm working on this because i know this doesnt have to be my reality. I'm glad your DH helped you feel calmer about the birth, reading what he said calmed me down, too. I know its true, i just need to get my head straight about it.
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LightForest - I think your baby is fine.  But I think you will have a bruise for the pictures...  It sounds like you're treating yourself well.

 

I think Tear and Carlyle are related, but that's just something fuzzy in my brain from the first month of this AWESOME DDC!!

 

There are times when I feel so calm about the upcoming birth, and then there are times I'm completely doubting myself and my decision to try to have my first at home.  I know it's normal, but I just wish I could block all the pesky negative thoughts from entering my mind.

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Sunshinelove, Carlyle is my sister. With us both being parents and living in different time zones it's hard to find phone time when we're both free and awake. Mothering has been a wonderful place for us to keep up with what is going on in each other's lives. She's excited to become auntie to a nephew, and also nervous because i went through a pretty traumatic birth last time. I absolutely love her support and feedback, but if it makes people uncomfortable I can talk with her over pm. greensad.gif. I'm fairly certain that she introduced herself and asked to join when the ddc opened.

Eta - light forest, I hope you're ok! There's nothing wrong with a call to your care provider for peace of mind. hug2.gif
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I for one am TOTALLY ok with sister butt-ins on our DDC. winky.gif  My own sister is on MDC but only very rarely and sporadically but I totally wouldn't mind her posting here, so I kind of envy Tear78 her sister's online company.

 

Maydaymom, thanks for the update!  Darcy sounds lovely. love.gif

 

Lightforest - you sound pretty ok if you're worried about is looking battered in your post-birth pics.  Glad the baby is ok!  And I hope your knees are all right for labouring on all fours - that's my "plan" too and I've had a dinged knee for a while but I can usually kneel so that it doesn't hurt - the ding is kind of off to one side. You can always put a piece of foam or a small towel under your calf, too, so the weight is on that rather than directly on the knee.

 

My kiddo wasn't better enough to send to school this afternoon (no barfing, but her tummy still hurt and she'd eaten barely anything come lunchtime) so sadly she (and I!) missed her class's puppet show. greensad.gif  She's fine now - we had to go out to run errands and at the mall bookstore she announced she was actually hungry so I got her some soup and she ate most of it and perked up considerably.  So just some tummywobbles, not a noro virus thank goodness!  There was one going around - a few of my friends' kids at other schools had it - so I was worried that DD was going to be Patient Zero at her school somehow.  But I think she probably just ate something a little squiffy yesterday and got too excited at grandma's last night, which resulted in her throwing up on the doorstep as she came home yesterday evening.

 

Housecleaner coming tomorrow morning - yay!  But must tidy so she can find the floor and the coffee table. I'm sure there's a pile of dust under all the art projects and books.

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Sunshinelove, Carlyle is my sister. With us both being parents and living in different time zones it's hard to find phone time when we're both free and awake. Mothering has been a wonderful place for us to keep up with what is going on in each other's lives. She's excited to become auntie to a nephew, and also nervous because i went through a pretty traumatic birth last time. I absolutely love her support and feedback, but if it makes people uncomfortable I can talk with her over pm. greensad.gif. I'm fairly certain that she introduced herself and asked to join when the ddc opened.

Eta - light forest, I hope you're ok! There's nothing wrong with a call to your care provider for peace of mind. hug2.gif

No, no, no, please dont hide your relationship just because of my discomfort. I didnt know about what was going on, i just saw someone who you obviously know constantly post when you post (oftentimes in a clingy manner) so i didnt know if this was bothering you or what. I was mostly speaking up for you in case you didnt feel like you could say anything about it to her. The only thing that was bugging me, personally, was the clinginess since i get triggered by it due to my own issues and the fact that she's not really apart of this ddc. So if her presence means a lot to you then who am i to judge? I'm sorry if i came across as rude, i'm really sensitive these days and dont know how to word things too well.
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Tear78, glad you had a good conversation with your midwife and feel good about your decision! Being informed *and* empowered about our decision-making is such a huge thing, I think. smile.gif

 

That baby born en caul picture was amazing, that the breastfeeding story of the woman who was quadrapalegic for a while was also incredible. Thanks for sharing, everyone!

 

I got to spend the day thrift and consignment store shopping with a friend, looking for some comfy nursing-friendly tops and so on. Really fun day. Now am supposed to go out for a couple hours for a girls night with my archaeology buddies. I'm feeling up for it, but a bit worried it's going to come back to bite me tomorrow, when I have a friend coming into town for a couple day visit! I will have to be good and not stay out too late. smile.gif

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