Weekly Chat Thread - Feb 24th to March (!) 2nd - Page 8 « Back to Group Discussions

[cabbitdancer]

First of all, I have to admit that I giggled at the remark about having bruises in your birth pictures, Light forest, but OW! I hope it turns out more superficial than lasting.

Glad your daughter is feeling better, spughy. Bummer that you guys missed the puppet show, though.

[LightForest]

Thanks for your good wishes on my little injury . I feel so silly worrying about appearances, but it was such a hard bang on my head that I'm surprised it didn't break the skin! I've been icing and slathering with arnica for hours now and it's doing well. Minimal swelling and a bit of redness - could be so much worse. Perhaps more interestingly, baby has been moving like GANGBUSTERS all evening and I'm feeling more downward pressure than usual. By now poor little bub must be plotting an escape from this clumsy womb s/he's stuck in!

I agree that the baby in the caul pic was absolutely amazing. Breathtaking.

spughy, I'm so jealous that you're bringing a housekeeper in. If I had a lick of sense I'd do the same. But I don't, so I'll be spending the weekend scrubbing the toilet. Bla.

[Tear78]

sunshinelove, I know you were coming from a protective place, and I appreciate the sentiment. I'm also in a pretty emotional place these days. . I guess what seems to you to be clinginess I see as a mixture support, excitement, frustration at not being within 2000 miles of me when I'm about to give birth, and my sister's sense of humor. But I know that you can't see that because you don't know her. Anyway...

Light forest, I'm glad you're feeling ok. I remember last pregnancy I did the same thing at about 5-6 months and I was in a panic about it (because that's in my nature) but my midwife just told me how well protected the baby is in there. I hope your forehead looks silky smooth for your baby pics!

Spughy, I'm glad your daughter is feeling better. It sounds like kind of a cozy day, though missing the puppet show is a bummer. And house cleaner...I would also have to dig down and find my house, lol...

Cabbitdancer, I'm sorry you're having a hard day. Go easy on yourself, you're carrying a big load on lots of levels. I hope you wake up feeling much better tomorrow!

Chocolatechip, I hope your night out leaves you with only lasting good memories and no regrets from your body! A little jealous, though I would just fall asleep in my chair, lol

Scruffy and writermama, sorry you're also sorting through fears and worries about birth. Writermama, I hope your soul searching helps you find some peace about it. I know just acknowledging it has helped me feel better.

Maydaymom, thanks for checking in. I'm glad you're enjoying your baby moon! Looking forward to that birth story!

Wildmansmom, I can't believe she said that to you! I would have felt so pressured and it wouldn't have been helpful. I'm glad you seem to be getting less pressure this time.

Chapsie, here's to four more days of work each!

Ok...off to bed. So tired after this long week!
Edited by Tear78 - 3/1/13 at 8:18pm

[spughy]

LightForest, I thought of you this evening as I was exercising my "lick of sense" clearing stuff up for the house cleaner and taking the recycling out to the bins... and my foot slipped on some random wet vegetation in the parking lot and I went down hard, scraping my knee and probably tearing something in my crotch - all I could think was "at least I didn't bash my face so I'll still look good in any birth pictures".  LOL.  But ow.  That wasn't fun.  I am very hurty now and will be hitting the tylenol.  (But the house IS significantly tidier now than it was this morning, and that's a big win even without the actual *cleaning* part which is desperately needed as the dust bunnies are amalgamating and will soon reach sentience...)

[sunshinelove]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

sunshinelove, I know you were coming from a protective place, and I appreciate the sentiment. I'm also in a pretty emotional place these days. . I guess what seems to you to be clinginess I see as a mixture support, excitement, frustration at not being within 2000 miles of me when I'm about to give birth, and my sister's sense of humor. But I know that you can't see that because you don't know her. Anyway...

Aww, your description of her made me tear up a bit. She sounds like a wonderful sister, i wish i had a sister.

Yeah, i was just trying to be protective in my awkward, feisty sort of way . I've experienced and i've had friends who experienced people in their lives being a bit obsessive and clingy, and her posts reminded me of those experiences. It can be difficult for the person affected by it to speak up because its so overwhelming and if its a close friend or family member, can feel really awkward as well. I'm really glad thats not the case! . I figured it was better to be safe than sorry.

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by sunshinelove 

Aww, your description of her made me tear up a bit. She sounds like a wonderful sister, i wish i had a sister.

Yeah, i was just trying to be protective in my awkward, feisty sort of way . I've experienced and i've had friends who experienced people in their lives being a bit obsessive and clingy, and her posts reminded me of those experiences. It can be difficult for the person affected by it to speak up because its so overwhelming and if its a close friend or family member, can feel really awkward as well. I'm really glad thats not the case! . I figured it was better to be safe than sorry.

No worries!

Spughy, oh no! I hope your crotch feels better. lol...what a weird sentence.

[spughy]

My pubic bone is way gibbled.  Gonna call the physio on Monday and beg for a fast appt.

BUT - GBS NEGATIVE!!!!!!  YAAAAYYYYYYYYY!!!!

[scruffy too]

Congrats on being negative Spughy!!!  I really hope I am, too, I'll find out Tuesday....

DSS isn't *too* sick.  Heck of a cough, though.  But we had friends over with other children last night and he played like crazy.  Normally he sleeps 12 hrs on weekends, but he only slept 8.5 last night, so I imagine he'll crash later... He's already asking me to call for a play date with a neighbourhood friend (it's only 9am here - any other Saturday he'd still be sleeping!!)  Can't be too sick, I guess.

[writermama12]

Yay spughy!! I am also GBS neg. which I am totally thrilled about!!

Soooo, I have had a FABULOUS day. This morning I planned to host a writing workshop for my mother-friends and baked jam thumbprint cookies and cleaned the house really nice, lit candles, the works. Then they all arrive and surprise me with a baby shower! OMG I was sooo surprised. It was absolutely lovely. Instead of gifts they all read something to me that was meaningful, reminded them of me, and had to do with birth --poems, songs, excerpts from favorite books, one woman wrote a poem FOR me-- and we sang songs together. They each took turns combing my hair and braiding in white and purple flowers. Two women massaged my feet with homemade cream one brought. One woman gave me a clay labyrinth necklace she made (she's a potter). Then we did this old ritual of binding all our wrists in red string (the whole circle of women) and then clipping it and turning our string into bracelets we will all wear until I give birth. It is supposed to send a lot of positive energy my way-- each time they look at the string they will think about me and baby. We all cried. A lot. 

Then the best thing happened. We spontaneously decided it would be great if they all came to my birth. I finally feel like I CAN envision what my labor will be like now and I am soo excited! Surrounded by all of these courageous, beautiful mamas...We're gonna party! (Poor DH) This is the first time I've had a group of friends since college and I can't say enough about how supported and loved I feel ATM. Wow, just wow. Here is a photo of my hair. 

[LightForest]

writermama, that sounds so wonderful!!! you are absolutely GLOWING with happiness and beauty in your photo! "party style" labor sounds like the absolute way to go!!!

[wildmansmom]

Spughy I hope you feel better.

Writer, you look great, glad you had such an amazing day.

Everyone in my house has the sniffles again (it seems to be a monthly thing). So we are a little cranky and tired. As much as I want to meet this baby I hope she stays put until we are healthy.

[sunshinelove]

Aww, that is so sweet of your friends to do all of that for you, writermama!! . I can tell how much it meant to you and you are definitely glowing! I'm sure having them there at your birth will make it feel more like a party . There will probably be lots of pictures taken, which you will treasure, i'm sure.

[SlimP]

How lovely WriterMama and well-deserved!

[cabbitdancer]

Wow, writermama! What wonderful friends! :D I am so glad your day has turned out so well.

[Carlyle]

Oh wow, I've been out of town for the weekend and had no idea I had come up on this thread!  Sunshinelove, I'm really sorry if my presence here is making you uncomfortable.  Since I'm not pregnant myself at this point, I really (mostly) just read and respond to my sister's posts, which I realize probably makes me seem a bit weird and single minded!  Also, what Tear wrote pretty much sums it up:

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tear78 

I guess what seems to you to be clinginess I see as a mixture support, excitement, frustration at not being within 2000 miles of me when I'm about to give birth, and my sister's sense of humor.

I have shrugged my shoulders a bit as I typed some of the things I've written, thinking "oh this probably will sound weird to everyone else" (especially the "it is all about me" bit), but I figure I'm really just writing them to Tear, and she knows I'm just being silly in my own, weird way (and that I miss her and am so sad inside that I won't even be in town for her birth).  Hopefully it will be okay with everyone for me to keep posting here, and  just know that I'm totally fine if everyone but Tear just skips over my posts!  I'm really just here for Tear (although, I will not lie, I am also reading that 'feeling birthy' thread and getting excited for you guys--birth is just so cool)

Originally Posted by sunshinelove 

Yeah, i was just trying to be protective in my awkward, feisty sort of way . I've experienced and i've had friends who experienced people in their lives being a bit obsessive and clingy, and her posts reminded me of those experiences. It can be difficult for the person affected by it to speak up because its so overwhelming and if its a close friend or family member, can feel really awkward as well. I'm really glad thats not the case! . I figured it was better to be safe than sorry.

I'm sorry about your experiences!  Thanks for looking out for us   Let me know if you need me to take my responses to pm (which I'm willing to do if it's extremely important to you, but would be a bit more work because I'd have to work harder to give the context for my responses).

Hugs all around 

[veganyogamomma]

writermama What a beautiful surprise! I agree that you are glowing! How exciting that they are all coming to your birth too. I can't wait to hear all about it!

[GranolaMama09]

Writermama that is so amazing!!!!!

[sunshinelove]

Carlyle--thank you for taking the time to respond to what i wrote. I was mostly concerned about Tear because, from my vantage point, your responses seemed clingy in a possibly unhealthy way. I now see that she doesnt feel intruded on. In fact, it means a lot to her that you put so much of yourself into your responses, which is beautiful to me. I find it interesting how, depending on the context, the way someone is communicating can be either very unwelcome or greatly appreciated. How odd is that? For me, personally, your posts dont bother me that deeply, i could always ignore them like you suggested. I'm just happy to see that your sister is grateful for your presence . You are an awesome sister, thank you for being you!

[eternalw]

Originally Posted by sunshinelove 

Carlyle--thank you for taking the time to respond to what i wrote. I was mostly concerned about Tear because, from my vantage point, your responses seemed clingy in a possibly unhealthy way. I now see that she doesnt feel intruded on. In fact, it means a lot to her that you put so much of yourself into your responses, which is beautiful to me. I find it interesting how, depending on the context, the way someone is communicating can be either very unwelcome or greatly appreciated. How odd is that? For me, personally, your posts dont bother me that deeply, i could always ignore them like you suggested. I'm just happy to see that your sister is grateful for your presence . You are an awesome sister, thank you for being you!

[Chapsie]

Working a lot the last few days... I've missed you guys.  :)  

I'm also GBS NEGATIVE~  woohoo!  :)  

Writermama, so so happy for your amazing day.  Having friends rub my feet and braid my hair would be like the most heavenly thing ever right now!!!

My sister in law called me yesterday and told me that she wants to throw a small baby shower for me!  This is my third baby, so totally not expected at all!  I told her that I didn't really need anything, but would love to have this pregnancy celebrated--- this baby was very longed for after two (rather complicated and traumatic) miscarriages and then TTC for 6 months after healing from the miscarriages.  The idea that I'm going to have another baby after all that heartache is just so amazing, and I can't wait to meet her--- getting so close!!   I am so honored that my SIL wants to do this for me!   I might have to tell her to tell the guests not to bring gifts, but to be prepared to massage my feet and braid my hair!  :)     I'm 37.5 weeks, so we're cutting it very close... might have to make it a "meet the new baby" party.  Either way, it is a very nice gesture.