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[Sphinxy]

Originally Posted by Serafina33 

Anyone else feeling mixed feelings about how having a baby will affect their lives? When my hormones are on a swing, I start feeling a bit nervous about the downsides of taking yourself off track from your goals outside the home. I haven't been pregnant in 8 years so its just weird for me to go back to the beginning again.  Do those of you who haven't had a baby in eons (or ever) feel mixed feelings at times about the intensity of a baby's affect on your life?

I am experiencing the total opposite - I'm having mixed feelings about the intensity of my life's affect on my baby. I guess it's really just the age old question about career and family either way. The thing is, I'm not super dedicated to my career. I've found something that I'm good at, it gives me opportunities and I make decent money, and I don't hate it, but I don't find it particularly inspiring either. I've daydreamed about leaving so many more times than I can count, and my preference would be to stay home, at least while our kids are small. But I'm just not certain we can afford for me to leave my job. I guess that's why I've stayed so long. I feel like now that I'm pregnant I'm putting pressure on myself to make career decisions around this baby. Is this career that I don't love worth putting my child into daycare? Ugh, thank goodness we have plenty of time to sort this out. 

Originally Posted by slammerkin 

Also, I didn't see this part coming AT ALL and I feel a little silly even saying it, but I'm feeling kind of...weirded out about pregnancy. Like, reading about everything that's going on in there kind of occasionally gives me an "ick" factor. I dunno what the heck is up with that. Looking at pics of early development are making me feel like something totally alien is growing in there and I'm just feeling strange about the whole thing. 

Yes!!! I was really creeped out by the "this is your baby week-by-week" pages on the internet, but I think that's starting to change now that I actually saw our nugget on the ultrasound monitor. That didn't creep me out, but all the diagrams and pictures online of someone else's embryo or a hypothetical graphic of a fetus just don't do anything good for me. Then again, I wasn't a fan of my biology text book in school either! 

[echospiritwarrior]

I'm not sick but have no interest in food. I don't want to smell it, cook it or otherwise deal with it. I have been leaving my poor husband to fend for himself on nights I have night class and it makes me feel shitty. I don't even want to look at recipes or think about food. I've subsisted today off tea, sugar snap peas, baby carrots, hummus and yogurt.

[Serafina33]

Originally Posted by slammerkin 

Looking at pics of early development are making me feel like something totally alien is growing in there and I'm just feeling strange about the whole thing. And having all of a sudden felt like my waistline blew up yesterday I just feel fat and icky. I didn't think I'd be the kind of person to have body image issues while pregnant, but yeah, I feel gross. Maybe when it's actual baby instead of just bloat and muffin-top I'll feel better.

Omg YES!!!!!! Exactly that.  Alien concocting, and a spare tire billowing and already ten pounds heavier than I would ever want to be despite baby being just the size of a grape. A seahorse looking grape at that. I'm 9.5 weeks and feel zero connection to the fetus or any patience with how fast my waistline vomited itself in all directions. 

Glad I'm not alone on this. I'm just ambivalent most of the time and Icked out the rest of the time. I guess it just happened so fast after removing my IUD (5 weeks) & I don't know....all that ttc drive vanished when I got the positive pregnancy test. :/

[Shiloh]

I'm detached too.
I feel icky and I'm worried about my leg developing a clot.

[slammerkin]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one among you ladies who feel kind of blah about this whole thing. Makes me a feel a bit more normal.

Originally Posted by Serafina33 

Omg YES!!!!!! Exactly that.  Alien concocting, and a spare tire billowing and already ten pounds heavier than I would ever want to be despite baby being just the size of a grape. A seahorse looking grape at that. I'm 9.5 weeks and feel zero connection to the fetus or any patience with how fast my waistline vomited itself in all directions. 

Glad I'm not alone on this. I'm just ambivalent most of the time and Icked out the rest of the time. I guess it just happened so fast after removing my IUD (5 weeks) & I don't know....all that ttc drive vanished when I got the positive pregnancy test. :/

LOL Serafina! I feel you on the "vomiting" waistline. Ugh. And I'm in sort of the same boat with the BFP happening so quickly. I went off the pill in November, but was going to CTA until April. The decision to TTC in Jan was kind of spur of the moment, and BAM, pregnant. I was a little unprepared. I was perfectly comfortable with the idea of it taking a few months to get pregnant. Not that I'm complaining really. I know plenty of women would love to be in this position instead of struggling for months to get pregnant. But it's just a bit of a shock to the system.

[guppyluv]

In this week's news... I'm pretty sure my already overly clingy cat knows I'm pregnant. He's been acting all weird and velcro-like... Ugh...

[Shiloh]

My cat nuzzles my head now.
My friends dogs all sit at my feet.
Actually my friends dog told me I was pregnant a day before I tested because of odd behavior. I'm not a dog person and all my friends dogs know it. But this dog wouldn't leave my side....then stood watch. It was cute and she was right.

[littlebird108]

Awww,  I was shocked and upset to find out I was pregnant, and I felt it was important to acknowledge all my emotions, but they've passed and now I do feel good about it.  And I feel my baby with me and I feel all cozy and drowzy and happy when I tune into that and actually get to take a rest.  I was even blissing out a little like that in dance class last night.  Pictures of fetuses look weird, but I think it's amazing that a body is forming like that!  I think of how I'm making brains and eyes and all that and it is such a wonder.  I can always see pregnant woman's glows, so that spirit is with you.  I try to let myself experience that and soothe the pain of the growing waistline!  I have to look at myself in a leotard three times a week!  Eeek!

[dahlia810]

So far we've told our immediate families and very close friends. Waiting to tell grandparents and extended fams until the 1st trimester is over, right in time to see everyone for Easter! Perfect timing

I do sometimes have the worried thoughts about how much our lives will change, but I know in my heart that everything will be great

[Sphinxy]

shiloh & guppyluv - I keep expecting my animals (two cats and a dog) to start acting differently around me, but they haven't really. They're pretty clinging in general to both DW and I, but I guess I was expecting more attention. 

And can I just say - OMG the painful, unrelenting gas. I mean, I'm grateful every day that I'm not pukey or gagging, but I swear this gas and burping just will not quit! It keeps me up at night and it's with me nearly the entire day. 

[slammerkin]

Originally Posted by Sphinxy 
And can I just say - OMG the painful, unrelenting gas. I mean, I'm grateful every day that I'm not pukey or gagging, but I swear this gas and burping just will not quit! It keeps me up at night and it's with me nearly the entire day. 

Dude, the amount of stinky gas that came out of me last night was ridiculous. My poor DH. He put up with it like a trooper, but even I was appalled at some of it. I just couldn't keep it in or I'd have been in agony. Holding it in at work is torture!

[Serafina33]

You guys are finally with me ànd my blustery behind! I don't even realize how gassy I am until I go pee, which is kinda all the time. Then it's a massive whoosh and an insane amount of air gusts out of me. Startles me every time.

[dahlia810]

Hahaha you guys . I get gassy and bloated at times too lol.

My cat who is very clingy has become even more snuggly and loving. We're very in tune though, at the risk of sounding like a crazy cat lady lol!

[suzie mccool]

OMG you guys crack me up!  What a load of gas bags... (terrible pun, but i just couldn't help it)

In respect to telling people, we told parents and some siblings and best friends, but have held off telling my son until at least the first scan (at 9 weeks).  Just to be sure I'm destroying his dreams of staying an only child for real LOL.  It's a bit tricky because his dad and I divorced a few years ago, and the bond he has with DH now is better than he ever had with his dad, and I don't want  him to feel less important than the new addition.. have to wait and see with that - it's very easy to isolate a 14 year old man-child.

And in respect to gas... I have never passed wind in front of anyone in my life... until the last few weeks.    Where on earth did it all come from?
 

[Blonhrt88]

Looks like the only thing I've missed is a bunch of fart talk lol.

My midwife appointment went amazing! I love her, she loves my DS, and I am just so full of pregnancy bliss! I am going for an ultrasound to date this pregnancy somtime next week, so we will be announcing to the parents when they come to visit but won't have our edd yet, lol! It should set the tone for our relaxed homebirth this time around lol! 

This pregnancy is turning out to be so easy on my body, I'm so happy it's just like my first one. But man, the gas. I totally feel you all on that, literally! Just remember its all our gi system slowing down to get nutrients to the baby, so we are farting with purpose! Hahahahaha!

[guppyluv]

Hope every one has a gas this weekend! Lol. Enjoy.

[dahlia810]

hahaha This thread is great.

Blonhrt, I'm so glad your pregnancy is going so well! Now share that energy! lol

AFM, just sooo happy it's the weekend!! I took an hr and a half nap this afternoon, and am still feeling really tired. I'm looking forward to just relaxing and sleeping in a bit. I think I'm having doctor mood swings lol... I keep flipping between wanting to change doctors since mine doesn't have ultrasound equipment in the office, and wanting to stay with her. I'll decide after I see the new doctor for an ultrasound/visit on the 13th.. I'm soo excited for that!

[dahlia810]

I've joined the fart train. LOL. Also, I am insatiable! That is, when I'm not nauseous. Who else is suddenly hungry all the time?

[Sphinxy]

I've abstained from legumes for about 48 hours and I think that did the trick on the gas. What a relief! Except that this morning my gas pain was replaced by excruciating pain in my hip/leg which I can only assume is my sciatic nerve. Owwwwww......... My midwife/ob office only takes labor & true emergency calls on weekends, and the acupuncturist in town is booked until thursday. I've tried one tylenol (nervous about meds), a heating pack, some gentle cat/cow yoga, and all sorts of props and bolsters in bed. Any other ideas?

[Shiloh]

Ice, tennis balls, one of those big balls to stretch while supported, hot bath, shower, massage, nap, safe topical rub I have one that's minty/camphor, visualization, distraction, stretching, etc. And don't selfdiagnos I thought I had a pinched nerve - pain from back down legs..it was a kidney stone!