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[typebug]

Originally Posted by kat216 

I get this sometimes, too! As far as I can tell it's just her joints popping, like when yo crack your knuckles. It sounds so weird though!

40w exactly tomorrow, and still feeling great! After my midwife reassured me last week that that doesn't mean I'll stay pregnant forever, I'm feeling much more zen.   Still patiently waiting (for the most part, haha). No crazy techniques called for yet, which is easy for me to say because I'm still very comfortable: EPO, RRL, walking, and sex... If I get to 41 I will probably look into more!

OK that makes sense. It's such a strange thing.

Good for you staying relaxed. i have so much anxiety and nervous energy right now. It's an absolutle struggle to just sleep at all.

[kellybeth]

Originally Posted by Teles 

How are your babies doing?

We seem to have things worked out for now though and are now co-sleeping, which is something that I really never thought I would do. She hates to be put down, so she sleeps on my chest at night, which works out nicely because when I try to put her in her napper beside the bed I end up sleeping less due to constantly jumping out of bed at every little noise. She wakes up every two hours to eat like clockwork, so when she's sleeping on me I get to catch her stirring to eat before she works herself up into a cry and needs to be settled first (plus she nurses way more aggressively when she's pissed at me)

i'm right there with you. naomi and i sleep the same way, and it is so much easier/peaceful for all of us. i never thought i would co-sleep either, and it was something that hubby never wanted since it scares him, but it just kind of happened. 

she has started doing this thing in the middle of the night where she starts head butting my boob instead of latching, and cries until i really hold her head on there. 

[loveandgarbage]

I was scared to co-sleep with DS1 but it just ended up happening, too. And we all got more rest for it!

[odinsmama]

Another accidental cosleeper here.  DH was against it for a little while with ds1 but I was angry and exhausted getting up during the night.  We read some of "the family bed" together and it was like a switch flipped for DH, realizing we don't need to compare ourselves to anyone, including our parents, and we need to do what works for us.  We still have a family bed and ds1 is 7.  Everyone sleeps well and that is our priority at night.

a year or so ago a friend asked DH what was one thing, as a parent, he wouldn't want to change and DH immediately said the family bed.  I was pleasantly surprised.

DD is sleeping on my chest as well.  Sometimes this doesn't work, if her tummy is bothering her.  But if she sleeps next to me, on her back, she's just not quite warm enough and doesn't sleep as long.  I'm not sure if I'm going to stick with the chest sleeping though, she rolled off me this morning.  Kinda scary.

[HouseofPeace]

Originally Posted by odinsmama 

DD is sleeping on my chest as well.  Sometimes this doesn't work, if her tummy is bothering her.  But if she sleeps next to me, on her back, she's just not quite warm enough and doesn't sleep as long.  I'm not sure if I'm going to stick with the chest sleeping though, she rolled off me this morning.  Kinda scary.

my husband is not invited to comment on the sleeping arrangements- he gets his own side of the bed and we get ours.  after our second chose co-sleeping, and a year of sleeping apart, we invested in our king-sized firm organic mattress.  my little guy this time is a total co-sleeper- the bassinet hasn't even been set up yet (which was the plan).  he and i have the snuggling sideways thing down. we did the chest sleeping for the first week, but i'm a belly sleeper, so we figured out how to curl up w/ each other. he is usually pressed right into my chest/arm.  it means i don't have to move much to feed him!!!  and he stays warm there b/c i put my knee under him, my arm above him, and we sleep almost nose to nose.  i'm sleeping way better than i usually am at this stage, but very lightly as well.  

[odinsmama]

Yeah we were sleeping sideways for a while but then she started with the spitting up, so I'm sitting up to nurse her and burp her.  If I lay her down on the (colder than body temp) bed she wakes up.  I'm thinking I need to use the heater in our room until we get into warmer weather.  I don't want to think about what the electric bill is going to be, even just using it for the few nights we have already when she was brand new.  But if I'm not feeling safe with her on my chest, I just gotta use it.  Sometimes I wake at her first little noise and other times I feel like I'm just sleeping a little too deeply for the chest position to be safe for us.

We're not even all in the same room yet.  Our bedroom is normally 2 queens pushed together.  DH moved one mattress into another room for the birth and it's stayed there for ds2, dd and I to sleep on.  She's still waking/crying too much for us all to be together.  And I need too much crap during the night (dipes, wipes, water, spit up rags, diaper bucket, rash cream and a light to see it all) and there's really no room for all that in our normal bedroom.  Sitting up to nurse is bad enough, I'm not about to go to another room to change dipes.

but the good thing about having done this all before is that both DH and I know that this phase is a brief one and it will soon pass and I won't need to have all that crap during the night and we'll be sleeping together soon enough.  So neither of us is dealing with any negative emotions about the situation, it just is what it is for now.

[etsdtm99]

Post-partum mammas, share your updates!



How are your babies doing?

Baby is doing great overall, up 13 oz above birth weighg at 2 wks (yesterday) sleeps well at night (with me, on my chest or on my arm, at boob level) - he had good days and bad days during the day - sometimes he will sleep in his swing on and off and sometimes he fusses any time I put him down - yesterday and today he had a good nap in the car and otherwise napped on me in the wrap- thankfully he still feels super light and I love cuddling while also getting On with my day


How is breastfeeding going?

Awesome overall - no sore nipples(!!!) and the painful part of the engorgment is done - I am still dealing with oversupply but if I keep my block feeding to at least 3-4 hours on each side it's better .


How are you feeling?

Good overall , a bit on the overwhelmed side at times - k really feel like i should be able to keep up with everything and in a way I have been but then I see something on my list that isn't done after several days or I try all day to reply on this thread and either don't of end up doing it in bed when I should be sleeping and I feel like maybe I'm not so good at this :/ - in relality my house is really clean, basic chores are all kept up (laundry, dishes, vacuuming) with and 4 kids are taken care of (with an insane amount of help from my 7 yr old dd)
physically I'm feeling really good, bleeding is letting up some finally (seems like it has been longer this time before lightening up)

I want to respond to other people's posts, offer engorgment to those waiting and the new moms but this is all I can manage right now, my thumbs are cramping from typing on my phone with ds2 on my arm, and idont have my glasses on so this is all very blurry

[Chloe'sMama]

How is your baby doing?

pretty good. Terrible diaper rash that may be a yeast infection.... took him to the doctor and she gave us creams to clear it up. That was Monday and his rash is still so red and raw.
He has gained 1 lb,7 oz (at 16 days).... he is looking nice and chubby! He nurses a ton (obviously by his weight gain), but there is no pattern.... he will nurse every hour for a day and then go 4 hours the next and then I am so engorged and hurting.... last night he only woke up to nurse, went to bed at 11, woke at 1:30 and then 5:30 and 7....... the other night he woke a least every hour..... still trying to figure everything out. Luckily, I am not sore anymore. Dd2 is still nursing 1-3 times a day. She is really feeling out of sorts and it is nice to have a little special time, though, D's doesn't like it when anyone else holds him, especially wt night.

How are you doing?

I am feeling great at 17 days. I have been feeling great since 5 days.... I feel ready to start exercising and even have been feeling interested in dtd.... although, I am still having days of heavy bleeding (2days no bleeding, then 1 day heavy, that has happened 3 times already).

I was feeling sad about this being our last baby, but last night, I think I had a moment of clarity and suddenly felt at peace.....not saying the baby fever wont come back.

My girls love Ds, but have been acting out so much. I am exhausted from dealing with them more than with Ds and my mom is still with us. She leaves for an out of country, 6 week vacation next Wednesday and we will be on our own... trying to rest up before that (laying in bed snuggling with baby right now!!!)

We had a newborn photo shoot when ds was 8 days and cant wait to share the photos..... I will post them when we get them from the photographer.

Thoughts with all of you ladies still waiting and hope you all have your babies in arms soon... buko- after tomorrow!

[Gillmoro]

19 days today!!

How is baby doing?

Baby girl is pretty good for the most part.  We have had a couple of colicky nights the past few nights but she is good other than that.  Gave her her first bath last night, made me a little sad, like I washed her newness away.  She was up to 9 lbs 10 oz from 9 lbs 2 oz at 2 weeks 1 day.  I still need to get some pictures and footprints done, hopefully this week.  She is already mostly grown out of her newborn stuff which also makes me sad.  I definitely don't feel done: loving this baby phase so much this time around.

How are you doing?

I am pretty good.  I finally got past the stomach flu from hell that DD1 brought home so I'm feeling pretty good, have some energy back.  My lady parts feel almost all the way healed up and nipple soreness has diminished.  I have also processed her birth more and am feeling much better about it- the only lingering thing was that she got stuck and I'm worried about having a bigger baby next time and having a worse dystocia.  But my MW said it was mostly because I didn't have time to fill my big tub and was crammed into my small one and couldn't move my pelvis easily, she said she had lots of room in there when she reached in (great!). I have been able to spend more time with DD1 which is nice for both of us.  I am finding balance with school.  I have been having people come up to help me with baby girl so I can study and go to a few classes and only have a week left of classes and then finals before this term is over. Emotionally, I am feeling pretty good now. 

Lots of labor vibes to all you mamas in waiting!

[Gray's Mommy]

Just had my prayerfully last prenatal appointment...I'm 41w 4 days. I can't believe I may have a MARCH baby instead of a February baby:) It is almost humorous at this point since we were saying this exact same thing 3 years ago...except a February baby instead of a January baby.  Funny how those baby's get to decide what to do &  not the mamas. Chalking that up to our first parenting lesson with each baby we bring into the world.

All is well on our end...just waiting for birth to be sooner than later.

[buko]

Gray's Mommy, hope baby comes soon!  You still have more than 24 hours left in February!

Along those lines, I am obsessively counting down the hours until my personal Green Light.  I'm saying I have about 22.5 hours now, but if Buko is my kid, s/he'll come now just to be contrary. 

[Jenny01]

Just a quick update/vent from me. We are all doing well but I am struggling with latch and sore cracked nipples. My doula is amazing and keeps coming over to help but they just really hurt right now and it's been really hard on me emotionally. I just want to enjoy this time with her. Not dread every feeding. i hope we turn the corner soon on this! Anyone else had this issue?

[Jenny01]

Just a quick update/vent from me. We are all doing well but I am struggling with latch and sore cracked nipples. My doula is amazing and keeps coming over to help but they just really hurt right now and it's been really hard on me emotionally. I just want to enjoy this time with her. Not dread every feeding. i hope we turn the corner soon on this! Anyone else had this issue?

[kellybeth]

Jenny-it gets better!
My nipples were blistered and bled. We are at 9 days now and they are healed. I did a washcloth on them in the shower and earth mama angel baby nipple cream as often as i could. Hang in there mama, breastfeeding is hard at first. Sending you love

[Chloe'sMama]

I had that with DD1.  Can you sun your nipples?  that helped me.  also lanolin at every feeding.....

Sorry you are hurting.

[Jenny01]

My midwife prescribed some jack Newman cream so I'm using that now. I was using earth mama before that. Thanks for the encouragement. I'm at day 5 now so I really hope it gets better soon.

What is sunning? Like real sun? We don't have much of that here in the winter!

[Chloe'sMama]

My aunt told me to go outside topless as much as I could and sit in the sun..... it really helped with dd1.. but both girls were born in san diego in the summer.. no lack of sun. What about just airing them after nursing? Before putting any cream on them....

[loveandgarbage]

Nursing was really painful for me with DS1. It WILL get better. I liked using Lansinoh to help with cracked nipples. This time around nursing is also very painful but more due to a bad latch/tongue tie. Have you thought about seeing a lactation consultant to make sure you're getting the best latch you can and to rule out any issues? I'm sure your doula is helping you. It might just be worth it to see something who specifically handles nursing issues. You can look up LCs on La Leche League's website and I think many of them are free. This time around we saw an occupational/craniosacral therapist who is also a lactation consultant. Not sure if you have someone similar in your area. She did some adjustments on my baby's head to loosen his tight jaw and also gave me some exercises I can do. She recommended nursing in as many different positions as I could in order to spread around the stress if that makes sense. A good one is to put the baby vertical on your stomach when you're semi-reclined. Hope it gets better for you soon! 

[Jenny01]

Thanks I think my doula has LC training she said it was one of her areas of specialty. We've been working with football hold since my breasts are really large and its more comfortable hold for me. But I may need to try something else soon. It's the left side that is most troublesome. The right is a little sore but not nearly as bad.

Going to go to a bf clinic Friday morning too so I hope to get some extra help there. I just need my nipple to survive until then

[loveandgarbage]

Ahh good luck. I feel your pain! This time around my right one is so much more painful. It's strange how that works!