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post #41 of 103
I'm afraid to try a new position by myself so I will ask about the vertical one tomorrow ! She also likes to fall asleep and feeding takes forever lol
post #42 of 103

my little guy was giving me more pain this time than i've had with any of my others.  and i was lucky that my DS1 was tongue-tied, but had a big strong latch.  i think he would have gained more weight if he had been diagnosed earlier, but my oversupply worked well for him....

 

but this time i've really settled into NOT sitting up while nursing (always kills my back!)- football, sideways, and the vertical- i also take off most (or all) of his clothes and rub and tickle his feet if he's sleepy and making nursing take 2 hours.  which he does do.  he likes to cluster nurse and doze but then doesn't let me put him down.  so i do harass him a bit to keep him awake.  this helps w/ the oversupply too- nothing like a grumpy, fussy, on and off baby to get those poor breasts loaded for hours!!!  i nurse mostly on the couch (reclining) during the day, and so far have made it mostly through the nights in bed w/ little man this last week.  this morning he delayed his yelping wake-up til 4am.  whoohooooo.

 

so sorry for the painful nursing!!!!  

post #43 of 103

I'm having a bit of trouble trying to figure out how DH can help me these days, especially now that he is back at work. I want to be able to rest but I can't if Mila is crying and I know that, at most, I'm only going to get two hours away from her (though it's usually more like one) before she's hungry again. I want so badly for him to be able to feed her but I was discouraged from pumping before 6 weeks so I won't, but honestly what is there for DH to do?

post #44 of 103

During the first few months my partner takes care of the baby my mostly taking care of me. So he picks up the slack when I need him to in the kitchen, with laundry, etc. Although he'll do all diapers when home, wear baby around if he's fussy and doesn't want to nurse, give baths, etc. There will be a ton of time once the baby is out of the newborn stage for dad bonding.

post #45 of 103

How are your babies doing?

He is such a laid back content little guy. Yesterday he started having a cold, was miserable and choking a lot but he nurse more than usual and sounds and feels so much better today. He sleeps in our bed and likes to be carried and held.
 

 

How is breastfeeding going?

Breastfeeding is really well, no more sore nipples either. He is such a great nurser and eats every 2-3 hours during the day and goes 3-4 hours at night. I had to cut out dairy as he was super spitty when I had anything with dairy in it. Things have improved quite a bit in that area and I hope we won't end up on reflux medicine like two of my three other kids did.

 

 

How are you feeling?

 

I'm feeling really good and am so thankful that my inlaws took the two middles ones for a week. It gave me enough time to get a lot of rest and heal up nicely, my oldest stayed home and was a big help as well.
 

post #46 of 103
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I'm having a bit of trouble trying to figure out how DH can help me these days, especially now that he is back at work. I want to be able to rest but I can't if Mila is crying and I know that, at most, I'm only going to get two hours away from her (though it's usually more like one) before she's hungry again. I want so badly for him to be able to feed her but I was discouraged from pumping before 6 weeks so I won't, but honestly what is there for DH to do?

Right now mom takes care of the girls and I sleep when baby is sleeping (I actually only nap every few days)  DH is off the hook till next week when mom leaves.  He will pick up all the cooking and we will be cleaning together after that.  He will actually pick up alot of the care of the girls until ds can be put down more.  He has never really done much more than play and bounce the babies for a little bit and then give them back.

post #47 of 103
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Originally Posted by Teles View Post

I'm having a bit of trouble trying to figure out how DH can help me these days, especially now that he is back at work. I want to be able to rest but I can't if Mila is crying and I know that, at most, I'm only going to get two hours away from her (though it's usually more like one) before she's hungry again. I want so badly for him to be able to feed her but I was discouraged from pumping before 6 weeks so I won't, but honestly what is there for DH to do?

i think my hubby has changed 1 diaper.  in the morning he'll take the baby after the early morning feeding and let me sleep solo for an hour or so.  that is huge for me.  Jean's got a great point- taking care of mama IS caring for baby.  my new little guy has no interest on being on daddy unless he's passed out or very very well fed.  he prefers my smell, my sounds, my motion.  generally, this lasts for a few months, and then they start interacting more.  DH has cooked dinner and breakfast for me and the kids.  he's brought home more food than usual so he can come snuggle me and the baby instead of doing dishes after we put the other kids down.  he helps draw a bath and then does baby delivery and retrieval out so i can get out and get clean.  generally, he doesn't do a lot of the diapers or feedings (we never pump to bottle) but if the baby moves out of the bedroom he'll do the run for me.  

 

it's a little strange at first, i joke that DS2 doesn't know he's been born yet, he's still in my belly as far as he's concerned.  and hubby is pretty used to having my attention and energy drained by the new little bundle so he is pretty comfortable w/ it all.  there will be plenty of bonding later- all my kids prefer daddy after about 6 months old.  my almost 2 year old was the only mama's girl in the group, the she was only about me until she was 18 months or so.  the rest all really think daddy is the coolest thing ever and seek his attention and affection much more than mine.  i'm not jealous!!!  i got my share in the first 6 months!

post #48 of 103
Contractions kept waking me up all night, so I tossed and turned a lot... Guess they were doing something, though, because I got some bloody show this morning! orngbiggrin.gif
post #49 of 103
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Contractions kept waking me up all night, so I tossed and turned a lot... Guess they were doing something, though, because I got some bloody show this morning! orngbiggrin.gif
Yay! That's a great sign.

I'm still trying various induction methods. I've been doing a homeopathic induction regimen for 36 hours now and heading into another night of remedies every three hours. I did some acupuncture today too. I'm getting much more relaxed with being "late" and am ok with waiting longer before trying a membrane sweep.
post #50 of 103

Go, kat216! 

 

I am 40 weeks today!  Actually 40w4d by LMP.  Baby can come anytime now, as Dr. Mom is here, DH's Green Card is renewed, etc.  I have had sporadic contractions every night, but no other signs, and I'm fine with that.  I don't feel fantastic, but things are tolerable...  I could wait up to about 2 more weeks if necessary, though a week or so would be ideal.

post #51 of 103

Hurray for getting close Kat and buko!!!

 

Couple of questions for Paleo Moms-

 

I was off sugar and grains and other simple carbs for all of jan until babe was born Feb. 9..... I have gone a bit crazy with sugar and eating potatoes almost every day (Still off gluten though).  We have thrush and DS has a yeast infection.  I am going back off all the sugar and grains, but it seems DS has sensitivity to dairy, eggs, soy, lentils and gluten (have not tested gluten, but both girls couldnt deal with it in my milk, so I am not even trying it).  I don't love meat and can AT MOST eat it once a day.  I need food ideas!

 

 

Also, should I be worried that I am still having days where I am bleeding HEAVY?  I go 2 days no spotting or anything, then I gush and fill a pad and have clots (smallish) and then the bleeding goes away... this last time there was no bleeding for almost 4 days and today, heavy and clots.  I am 20 days out.  I have been doing NOTHING for the past 3 days as I want to heal so I can start exercising and DTD.  I am ready to get on with it.....

 

What do you think?

post #52 of 103

I'm pretty sure my mw would want to hear from me if I was still bleeding heavily at 20 days.  Not that you should necessarily be concerned, maybe just touch base with your care provider and see what s/he says.

post #53 of 103

Thanks odinsmama-

mw said it is unusual but since i have no pain or fever just bleedingno need for alarm.  we are just going to watch it....

post #54 of 103
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Originally Posted by Chloe'sMama View Post

Hurray for getting close Kat and buko!!!

 

Couple of questions for Paleo Moms-

 

I was off sugar and grains and other simple carbs for all of jan until babe was born Feb. 9..... I have gone a bit crazy with sugar and eating potatoes almost every day (Still off gluten though).  We have thrush and DS has a yeast infection.  I am going back off all the sugar and grains, but it seems DS has sensitivity to dairy, eggs, soy, lentils and gluten (have not tested gluten, but both girls couldnt deal with it in my milk, so I am not even trying it).  I don't love meat and can AT MOST eat it once a day.  I need food ideas!

 

 

Also, should I be worried that I am still having days where I am bleeding HEAVY?  I go 2 days no spotting or anything, then I gush and fill a pad and have clots (smallish) and then the bleeding goes away... this last time there was no bleeding for almost 4 days and today, heavy and clots.  I am 20 days out.  I have been doing NOTHING for the past 3 days as I want to heal so I can start exercising and DTD.  I am ready to get on with it.....

 

What do you think?

i would touch base w/ midwife about bleeding.  my also just jumped up and got redder- but i've been doing almost normal daily stuff and know that i need more down time and off my feet time.  also aggravated bleeding after it had really stopped for 3 days by getting too friendly w/ hubby.  nono.gif

 

i have a similar issue w/ meat sometimes- i've been using loads of almonds and almond butter.  Eggs, unfortunately, are my filler!!!  but i don't eat dairy, soy , lentils (any legumes), grains, and can't even do potatoes right now b/c they cause my oversupply to get worse.

 

Spaghetti squash is one of my favorite foods to replace starches w/, mushrooms, spinach, i've actually been eating more fish pp than i have for years (one meal a day w/ wild salmon), coconut milk soups, romaine lettuce and avocado salads, some fruit and nut butters (but not a whole lot).  i get crazy in the produce aisle!  i also juice when i feel like i need a punch of more.  cucumber based juices instead of sweeter carrot or fruit ones.  i'll write out a few recipes that i use a lot and get them up.  right now i'm brain-dead from long night and night sweats w/ little man.  he was good until the sunrise, but only b/c he was on the boob all night!  i slept through it mostly, but feel very tired and spacey!  also did homeschool group this morning which had an emotionally draining aspect to it, and then just did a conference call concerning a gluten-free kitchen training.  UGH.   i didn't take 'maternity' leave and am starting to think i maybe should have!!!!

post #55 of 103
My midwife told me that since my bleeding stopped fairly quickly it would be normal if it picked up again in a week or two and to expect that. Just thought I'd share !

Quick update- My nips are starting to heal a bit and I am getting a bit better at BFing I think. It's still not perfect but I'm a bit less stressed about it now. Still using the same one hold until I can get it right! I never thought it would be so hard.
post #56 of 103

Yay - go typebug, kat & buko! You're in my thoughts!! 

 

 

 

 

How are your babies doing?

 

Olive's awesome. She's just amazing, and I'm totally biased. I stare at her and cry, and just touch her so softly while she's sleeping. If I do it while she's awake, she responds in the sweetest gentle ways. We're super connected, and I'm reluctant to put her down these days because this is such a short phase. If you show up at my apartment these days (which wouldn't surprise me, given our constant flow of visitors) I'm likely shirtless and braless, and baby is naked, and we're snuggling.

 

Olive = peace, and she totally exemplifies that. She doesn't cry unless she's hungry/wet/uncomfortable and waiting too long for relief - knock on wood. She's a gentle, loving soul. I love that she looks just like my baby pictures and DH's baby pictures. What a trip!

 

I'm glad I'm not the only one to have intuitively adopted the sleeping-on-chest thing. It just works for us right now. I've weaned myself down from five or six huge couch pillows (plus my two bed pillows) behind me, to just my two bed pillows and a smaller support pillow for sitting up to breastfeed. That feels a little more normal. Eventually we'll move upstairs to the bedroom and join DH again, but for now it's a girls' sleepover in the living room.

 

 

How is breastfeeding going?

 

Awesome! She's got a great latch and I'm over my soreness. Engorgement was manageable and my boobs are a nice size - for the first time in my life! She'll stay put while I bop around the apartment and reach up and down. The only part we're still figuring out is night feeding - we need a better light source. I aim best I can in the pitch darkness, but she always wakes up with a sticky milk-stained face and I soak puddles through the sheet since I can't find any burp cloths.

 

How are you feeling?

 

Better every day. There was some serious carnage in there, but since I realized I could apply calendula, I think it's healed faster. I can sit in more positions now, can walk (mostly) without swaggering, and can go up and down stairs without feeling dizzy. I'm antsy to get out of the house and do something normal, but I don't want to push her or myself.

 

How long do you guys usually wait to get your babies in public? Some of my family is in town and I know that lunch in the city will be happening tomorrow. I'd love to join but I have some serious reservations.

 

Emotionally, I'm both great (alone/with her) and lost (with DH/any of the visitors we attract each day). I feel more and more confident about mamahood and our connection and my ability to manage her/myself/house, and I feel like that's where my energies are best spent. However, I feel like other people are needing more of my attention and energies than I'm able to give. I don't want to just tell them to shush, but I'm not able to give 100%, either. (For example: DH came home this afternoon and mentioned a conversation we'd had on the phone this morning, including just what I'd said that had insulted him. I didn't even remember the conversation!)

post #57 of 103

Didn't have time to read the latest posts.

 

A couple contractions followed by bloody show this morning between 5:30-6:30.  Contractions and a bit more drippy bloody show (maybe a tsp down my leg) since then, contractions about 8-12 mins apart, about 1 min long now.  Definite "small gush" of significantly more (amniotic fluid, probably, considering amount) about 1/2 hour ago.  It's like 8:45 here.  I am still thinking "maybe it's not really starting" but I guess my water did break, so...!

 

We're pretty prepped here.  Wish us ELV and all that good stuff.  smile.gif

post #58 of 103
YYAAAAAYYY BUKO!! What perfect timing! I hope this whisks you off to the loveliest laborland. Can't wait to hear all about it!
post #59 of 103
Wishing you the best Buko!!
post #60 of 103

ELVs Buko!!!! Can't wait to hear an update!! :D

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