I can't talk to anybody in real life about this yet, so I'm hoping I can get some input from some of you folks.
I am from CA. DH is from the midwest, but lived in CA for several years. We met there. He still maintains some business contacts out there. We have been living in the northeast for the past 15 years. My entire family has relocated to the east coast. DH's family is also more or less driving distance (parents are a 6 hr drive, his sister is a two hour drive).
I am a stay home parent. DH's career has been bumpy. He is in architecture/real estate development/construction project management. The economy has hit his field pretty hard. For the past 2 years, he has had a decent paying job. We are paycheck to paycheck, we don't live extravagantly by any means, but I am able to stay home, the kids take dance lessons, we are slowly paying down consumer debt (accrued while he was out of work). Things are tight...we don't take vacations, we don't eat out except once in a blue moon, we can't afford to replace his 300,000 mile car, we have no savings, and we are renting our home, with no ability to put together money for a down payment. There is no room for advancement at his company. It is an office of three guys and a pretty toxic work environment. But it's a job.
One of DH's contacts in CA has been calling DH and wants him to interview for a job at his company in CA. I think he flies out next week. I am in a full blown panic. I've never been one to turn down an opportunity. In some ways we are perfectly primed for something like this...we've only been living in this town for two years, so no deep roots yet (except for family). We don't have to worry about selling the house.
But CA is EXPENSIVE. We don't know the details of the salary. I think he'd be making about 20k more than he is now (not sure if that's including benefits or plus benefits - makes a huge difference). They wouldn't be paying moving expenses. As far as I can tell, most of his salary increase would go towards housing. SO we'd move cross country to continue to be paycheck to paycheck. Except that there is GROWTH in CA, and room for advancement at this other company (or so we understand).
Obviously we can't evaluate anything until there is an offer in hand. But can we discuss whether it even makes sense for him to interview?????