When one of my kids was struggling with anxiety and some severe "monsters under the bed" sort of issues we went to Dennis Bradley with ABA. We (just parents) met with him once to talk parenting stuff- reasonable expectations, etc. and I found that to be helpful.
We first saw a woman in acton at boundaries and she was terrible. She might be good for someone with serious problems but not someone who functions just fine in the world. gosh, she wore such kid gloves!
Good luck with it all.
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