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[Quinalla]

Sorry for being late starting this, we were so busy yesterday I had no time to log on and we didn't get home until ~10pm. Some posts to get us started:

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Horrible Mommy confession:  I never did a special going home outfit.  I think I was just so excited to actually GO HOME that I never cared.  DD2 was planned as a homebirth so a trip to the hospital was not on my radar.

Bailey, Oh look at those cheeks!  So cute!  I hope you are able to deliver where you want to!  I'm sorry you have to have amnio.  Bummer.

A pretty good weekend so far.  I got baby's room painted yesterday.  I need to paint the door and trim still but that's needed to be done for 3 years!  DH had an all-nighter with the Jr. High youth group Friday night so he was super wiped out yesterday so the girls I went out for a while so he could nap in a quiet house.  Then we went to a local concert last night that was great!  We know some of the band members and they just signed a record deal so that is very exciting for them!  Not sure what we are going to do today while DH is working.  I'm not feeling terribly motivated today and folding laundry while watching the Food Network sounds awesome but I don't think the kids will go for that.

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

I never did a special going home outfit either.

Cobabymaker - I'm not very motivated today either. We were at my IL's for breakfast and there were a lot of people there and it was loud and I could see DD possibly having a tantrum when we had to leave because gramma and grampa were on a cruise for week. We stayed for a short while (DD and I had already eaten when we first got up) but the noise was getting to me and I just felt like hanging out in our own quiet house today. My social skills always go down hill around this time in my pregnancies.

Originally Posted by nstewart 

So it's not just me then?  DH keeps asking what we're goint to do today.  Honestly, I don't want to leave the house!  I made pie crust for a pie to take to my parents tonight, and a batch of rolls from a recipe I pinned recently are rising.  I just feel like vegging in the house now, and that's it.

Originally Posted by adventuregirl 

I want home days too lately. Going food shopping yesterday was so flippin stressful, I couldn't wait to get home, there were like 10 people in every aisle, AGH! The cashier asked me what I was doing with my day and I replied "just trying to get through this". haha. But once we got home it was lovely, we got a bunch of snow, so dd was out playing with all the neighborhood kids, they build a huge snow fort. DH and I did a bunch of cooking and food prep for the week, and Becky, I folded laundry in front of the Food Network, and just had a nice homey day. Today there was a 2 hour delay on school, so I stayed home to work. I didn't have to, but it was a great excuse and the traffic may have been bad enough to ruin my day, so yay!

I am all about food these days, craving sweets but working hard to make sure I satisfy them in a good way. I made pumpkin pie yesterday, sweetened with honey and a whole wheat crust, so I can feel good about that, also got really good granola with a perfect fruit/nut mix (all things I like) and enjoying the hell out of it.

Off to work, hope everyone has a great week!

Originally Posted by timesway 

i think the univese is just a bit broken atm.. i felt really good yesterday but today i have just woken up on the wrong side of the bed!! i sortve think the best thing to do is go back to bed.. and hope that tommorrow is a better day!

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Becky, I folded laundry in front of the Food Network, and just had a nice homey day.

That's great! Your pie sounds delicious too.  I think I have some pumpkin in the back of the pantry I may have to dig out for a smoothie tonight. 

Well poor DH was trying to do some of the plumbing in the bathroom today and the valve stem broke.  He spent the ENTIRE day trying to fix it.  I feel bad for him, it was a lot work and very frustrating for him.  So we had no water until almost 5 o'clock.  It really is something I take for granted-just being able to walk over to the sink and turn it on or flush the toilet (with a pregnant lady and two little ones in the house there really is no "holding it").  I'm so thankful this evening for running water! 

I feel like I am officially jumping to the third tri today.  My belly has really been hurting today, just feeling like it's at capacity and baby is starting to push down more.  Thankfully the pressure is not painful, just uncomfortable.  My belly really was hurting for a while this afternoon though, down right painful where I could hardly move for about 15 or 20 minutes.  Not crampy, just painful.

I am starting to think about how things will be post-partum and I am curious about how it will be different because DD1 will be almost 5.   While she still needs me a lot she really does a lot and honestly WANTS to help.  She picks out her own (mis-matched) clothes and even helps DD2 get dressed some days. This morning the girls were begging me to help unload the silverware from the dishwasher.  They love to help with the laundry too.   It really is fun to watch her grow and learn and see her sweet heart toward others.   I don't want to expect too much of her but I am enjoying her desire to learn new skills and do things to love others.

[Quinalla]

Thanks everyone on the cabinets, I am so thrilled too they can start so soon as I was getting nervous! We are redoing the entire kitchen except the appliances: cabinets (including tearing out the soffit and replacing with a much smaller soffit with crown molding for taller cabinets), counter, new tile backsplash, new hood and new floor. We're also taking out our dining room window and doing a bay window and then the carpet upstairs and replacing the doors and trim upstairs to match what we did downstairs already. From the timeline they sent me, the kitchen will take ~2 weeks and then 1 week for the other work (the carpet and window will just be done whenever by those subs in that 3 week timeframe). They said 3 weeks if things go well, but they plan for 4 weeks in case something weird comes up which it usually does in construction. But yeah, they should be done before April, so that's great!

I got to talk to DH some, it is that he isn't that excited about being there for labor (it was boring and he gets a bit grossed out by biology ). We talked to my Mom and once I'm in labor, she'll start driving out here so hopefully she can take over for DH before the babies are actually born as even though he says he doesn't care, I'm sure he would care if he missed that part. We do have people we can call in an emergency, but DH really hates imposing on people (to the point of ridiculousness IMO) so he won't want to ask if everything is going ok. I'm ok with it for now, we'll see how it goes.

Our trip went really well, even DH had a good time and he often does not, so I'm really glad we did it! And we got a nice surprise that MIL & FIL are going to come visit us, probably in June, after the twins arrive They haven't been traveling because of MIL's health issues, but FIL is trying to get her out of her comfort zone and this is good motivation for her anyway, so that's great as who knows when they would have gotten to see the twins! I also got the good news the my brother & SIL who live in NY will be moving back with my parents in June and then out after they find a place as my brother is going back to undergrad to study pharmacy. Now that he has a son he isn't happy with his earning prospects with his current plan (PhD in Philosophy) so he is going to continue to write to finish his PhD eventually, but wants to get a degree that gives him some real earning potential. I'm excited as they will be within easy traveling distance for us so we'll get to see them more! But yeah, got to see all of DH's family, my parents and then we stopped by my other brother, SIL & nephew's on the way home last night so we got to see a lot of folks.

adventuregirl, I know my insurance call thing they only thing about labor/delivery they've asked about is if I am planning a c-section or not, mostly it is just generic are you staying hydrated, weight gain, blood pressure, going over signs of preterm labor, etc.

CoBabyMaker, hey if belly bands work for you, that's great as those are a nice inexpensive solution! Glad you got the baby room painted, nice to get stuff done! Glad your DH got the water fixed, that sucks that it was so hard for him to fix I am really curious to see how DD does with the twins, it is so fun watching her learn new things and grow too, one of the best things about being a parent IMO.

Kate&Joey, you are probably already exposed if your cats have tox., but wearing gloves & good hand washing after I wouldn't worry.

nstewart, I'm so sorry about your DH's grandmother, but I'm glad he got to see her. We slept with DD some on Friday night at my parents as she was being a bear about going to bed, so yeah I hear you!

AmandaLynnH, mmm chocolate. DH got a dozen donuts this weekend at my parents and normally I will have a donut and be happy, but my sweet tooth was on fire apparently and I ate half of those donuts before the weekend was up Back to being good now that I'm home!

BaileyB, your U/S pictures look great, I hope you are able to deliver where you want to, glad you've been through the amino before at least, but sorry if you have to do that I hope your DH feels better soon and doesn't pass his sickness around. Sorry the visit to the ILs was a bit hectic.

TwilightJoy, I too recommend getting a coming home outfit in newborn size, but bring something in 0-3 just in case you do end up with a big baby. I know neither of my nephew's ever fit in newborn clothes, but it is unusual. I would recommend a one-piece that snaps up with feet and long sleeves and matching hat if you want (they'll give you a hat in the hospital if you don't have one as they need their heads covered at the beginning). I usually go for lighter fabric and then put blankets over the baby as needed, especially for May. I got these for my twins, I figured the coming home outfit could be coordinating without it being annoying:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001E60CU2/ref=oh_details_o01_s00_i01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001E60CRA/ref=oh_details_o01_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
And yes, something that will go in the carseat easily! I hate messing with socks on newborns, so that's why I would recommend footed and I like something that snaps up in the front as you can take it all apart, lay it down, lay the baby on top and then put them in. Stuff that goes over the head is a PITA with a wobbly newborn.

timesway, hope you are having a better day today!

[Quinalla]

*double post - sorry!*

[BaileyB]

We are having such nice weather here that DD and I went out to do some extra animal chores this morning. We just got 7.5 inches of snow but now it is above freezing and is suppose to be all week so it is all melting. I had to lift and toss a few bales of straw and had to lift a couple of 5 gallon buckets of water chest height into the ATV and then walk through snow and now my uterus is yelling at me. haha. But at least I got my workout in for the day. It is getting really hard to carry DD now, too. It is like she is just adding too much weight to my stomach and the baby is like GET OFF ME! I am feeling the end is near! I am having some 'OMG' moments when I think about being 32 weeks on Friday!!! Although I only have a little bit of last minute labor prep and postpartum stuff to get so it's not like a rush to get anything done. I am hoping to get the shopping, maybe some house cleaning type stuff, and anything else I think of done in March and then just have April to coast through. I am hoping April consists of leisurely stroller walks and ordering pizza and napping.

I was able to check my cervix again lastnite and it is feeling pretty mushy and maybe a little bit more than a finger tip dilated and I can put my finger in about halfway to the knuckle on the end. Does that sound about normal? The last few days I have been having some frequent BMs, not loose or anything but just like multiple times a day, which is very rare for me. I also have NO room for food these days. It is crazy! I eat a normal size breakfast and then can basically just sip liquids or chew ice until around 3, then have a snack, then a little supper and then I am stuck with heartburn until I go to bed around 11:00. I have never had a problem plowing through food in the last trimester.

[AmandaLynnH]

Hi everyone!  Sounds like people had a nice weekend.  We did too.  Met my MIL for dinner Sat. night to celebrate DH's birthday (today).  The place he wanted to go had a 40 min wait and it's possible I got a bit impatient and we ended up going elsewhere (when I need to eat I need to eat!) but he was still happy.  MIL got to feel the little guy squirm around.

Baked DH some special cupcakes for his birthday:  dark chocolate merlot cupcakes with a merlot buttercream and extra dark chocolate drizzled on top.  Yea, they're as yummy as they sound.  I am not at all sad that they made 20 cupcakes instead of 12.

We're hoping to go out tonight but we're in the middle of winter storm rocky.  Kinda ticked they haven't closed work early and shocked that they haven't cancelled night classes.  The poor registrar's office is getting a ton of calls asking and complaining about classes.  Sad thing is my boss was all ready to send me home but since DH and I work at the same place we drive in together and he can't leave.

Finally gave in and splurged a bit on maternity clothes since motherhood maternity is having a bogo clearance sale.  Nabbed a stripped sweater I've had my eye on all winter and another long sleeve shirt that can button up to 3/4 length for $20.  Then I finally got my watch battery replaced after a half hour wait.  I swear everyone woke up on Sat. and decided they had to go to Kay Jewelers RIGHT THEN!  I had one guy come in after me and get snippy because they waited on me first even though he was waiting at that particular register.  I really need to look more pregnant so that I don't just look like a bitch when I give people the stink eye.  Pregnancy and being there first trump you dude, sorry.

Had another massage and chiro appointment.  For those of you having back pain I highly recommend it.  I'm a bit sore and stiff today from it but I feel so much better.  No more lightening bolts to the butt (ah the joys of sciatic pain)!

The little dude has been so active the last two days.  I swear he's doing yoga, then practicing kick boxing in there.  I was all proud that he seemed to have one position that he liked since he was in it for both of our last ultrasounds, and it was all head down and ready to go, but I'm pretty sure he's been doing barrel rolls in there.  I told DH it feels like how it looks when you're moving under a sheet only I'm the sheet.  

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Anyone else get a stabbing pain in their stomach when sitting at a computer for long periods of time?  It's just the left side and only when I'm at work.  It's really annoying.

[Quinalla]

BaileyB, still little problem here with eating, my stomach is smaller than usual and I find I am eating slower, but I'm eating very frequently! I dunno if that cervix sounds normal or not, but I've heard of lots of women especially in 2nd+ pregnancies that are more dilated early, so it doesn't sound that worrisome. LOL at your uterus yelling at you. Yeah, I'm trying not to carry DD at all anymore, though I still do occasionally. It's really wearing on me and she's not good at holding on.

Amanday, mmm those cupcakes sound awesome. The maternity clothing splurge sounds nice! Sorry about the guy giving you crap at the jewelry store, I hate when people are being dumb about stuff like that, if you were there first who cares what register he was standing at, geez! Also, you are pregnant so you definitely win No stabbing pain from sitting normally, but sometimes if I get slouchy or when I am leaning over a lot at our board game nights, I get some pain though not usually until after. I think it is ligaments or something not liking me being all squished, so I'm trying to be better about sitting up straight!

So, I just called back the one provider of breast pumps I was going to go with (called them at the end of January after talking to my insurance company) and they are no longer providing breast pumps for my insurance company. So I called the insurance company and they gave me one of the same companies (one that has bad reviews) and one other new company, so they've dropped two of the companies they were using as of the end of January, great This company seems a bit more organized so that's good and the provide Ameda or Medela pumps, so that is awesome! Apparently my insurance company won't let them ship it until the babies are born and the lady I talked to advised me to get the paperwork into their system 3-4 weeks ahead of my due date and then call them if they come early and they will ship it then or if they come late as they need to wait to ship or the insurance company might get fussy. I really hate insurance companies I am excited about the possibility of getting another Ameda though as I would have the same pump as last time and not have to buy new backup parts. Hopefully my insurance doesn't drop these guys next month, so ridiculous!

[CoBabyMaker]

Katie, I hope your insurance doesn't switch companies again!  Chasing down a breast pump is probably not on your list of "fun things to do with two newborns"!  I am so excited for your kitchen renovation!  That probably sounds really weird but I just love creating new spaces that function better.  Glad you got a chance to talk to your DH more and make some plans!

Amanda, Would you PM the recipe for those cupcakes?  They sounds divine!  I can't imagine waiting 40 minutes to sit down, then longer to order and eat either!  As my DD2 says, "When I hungee, I hungee!"  I'm glad you had a nice time with your MIL!  I hope you get to go home soon!  Getting home in the snow can sure be "interesting".

Bailey, Wow! I am impressed that you even CAN lift those things!  I am at the point where I can only hold DD2 for brief periods and it's pretty uncomfortable.  DD1 I can barely get into the cart at Costco.  I'm sorry you can't eat much right now!  That is frustrating!  Sometimes I'm not sure if it's better to eat all-the-time or hardly be able to eat at all.  They are both odd!

I am officially 28 weeks today and starting to feel like I am not really prepared for this baby.  There isn't a ton to get but I just feel like progress on the house is going soooo slowly.  Maybe if I buy some diapers i will feel better?  Maybe I need to make some lists.  Maybe I need chocolate cake!  ETA:  Just ordered diapers and taped off to paint the trim in baby's room once I get the kids in bed.  I'm trying to focus on what I CAN do instead of the list of what needs to be done (much of which I can't do)!

Our morning started off a bit rough but we were able to take a few minutes and reset thankfully!  We headed to the children's museum for a while and I even got DD2 to fall asleep in the car.  Woot!  She has been extra emotional the last two days so I am hoping that will help her feel better.

DH plays a baseball game  (it's a board game but it's more complicated than just that.  I don't understand it)  with some of the guys from church and he won for the season so we got a gift card to a nice restaurant!  I'm excited for a special (free)date night!  Hopefully we can use it soon!  DH was looking at the menu last night online and they have rattle snake ravioli for an appetizer.  He wants to try them but I'm a little nervous.

Edited by CoBabyMaker - 2/26/13 at 5:36pm

[FarmerMomma]

Just another day of misery. DS and I both have strep throat and ear infections. The first ear infection I've had as an adult. Let me tell you that it is extremely painful. I was crying. Mommas don't let your babies pull their ears. Sure wish I could get something done on the house. I did get our old cloth diapers sorted and started to replace leg elastic on some before I felt too bad. My mom and I took DS to the pediatricians office today. It was kind of neat to see all the babies. Kind of disturbing having kids and mommas with strep with all of those babies. Oh and the baby shrieking. I was so glad to not have a baby yet. And the visuals in my head for those shriekers were very disturbing for a prego momma. This too will pass. I already feel a tiny better and DS is sick enough now to slow him down. I got sick a little bit sooner but we're compatible now. My mom has already been exposed enough. Friends and neighbors have really come through for me. That feels really great.

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

Hi everyone!  Sounds like people had a nice weekend.  We did too.  Met my MIL for dinner Sat. night to celebrate DH's birthday (today).  The place he wanted to go had a 40 min wait and it's possible I got a bit impatient and we ended up going elsewhere (when I need to eat I need to eat!) but he was still happy.  MIL got to feel the little guy squirm around.

Baked DH some special cupcakes for his birthday:  dark chocolate merlot cupcakes with a merlot buttercream and extra dark chocolate drizzled on top.  Yea, they're as yummy as they sound.  I am not at all sad that they made 20 cupcakes instead of 12.

We're hoping to go out tonight but we're in the middle of winter storm rocky.  Kinda ticked they haven't closed work early and shocked that they haven't cancelled night classes.  The poor registrar's office is getting a ton of calls asking and complaining about classes.  Sad thing is my boss was all ready to send me home but since DH and I work at the same place we drive in together and he can't leave.

Finally gave in and splurged a bit on maternity clothes since motherhood maternity is having a bogo clearance sale.  Nabbed a stripped sweater I've had my eye on all winter and another long sleeve shirt that can button up to 3/4 length for $20.  Then I finally got my watch battery replaced after a half hour wait.  I swear everyone woke up on Sat. and decided they had to go to Kay Jewelers RIGHT THEN!  I had one guy come in after me and get snippy because they waited on me first even though he was waiting at that particular register.  I really need to look more pregnant so that I don't just look like a bitch when I give people the stink eye.  Pregnancy and being there first trump you dude, sorry.

Had another massage and chiro appointment.  For those of you having back pain I highly recommend it.  I'm a bit sore and stiff today from it but I feel so much better.  No more lightening bolts to the butt (ah the joys of sciatic pain)!

The little dude has been so active the last two days.  I swear he's doing yoga, then practicing kick boxing in there.  I was all proud that he seemed to have one position that he liked since he was in it for both of our last ultrasounds, and it was all head down and ready to go, but I'm pretty sure he's been doing barrel rolls in there.  I told DH it feels like how it looks when you're moving under a sheet only I'm the sheet.  

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Anyone else get a stabbing pain in their stomach when sitting at a computer for long periods of time?  It's just the left side and only when I'm at work.  It's really annoying.

Those cupcakes sound amazing! And I second the massage and chiro. I have both at the end of this week plus a PT appt so if I am not feeling good this weekend I don't know what will fix it. haha

Originally Posted by FarmerMomma 

Just another day of misery. DS and I both have strep throat and ear infections. The first ear infection I've had as an adult. Let me tell you that it is extremely painful. I was crying. Mommas don't let your babies pull their ears. Sure wish I could get something done on the house. I did get our old cloth diapers sorted and started to replace leg elastic on some before I felt too bad. My mom and I took DS to the pediatricians office today. It was kind of neat to see all the babies. Kind of disturbing having kids and mommas with strep with all of those babies. Oh and the baby shrieking. I was so glad to not have a baby yet. And the visuals in my head for those shriekers were very disturbing for a prego momma. This too will pass. I already feel a tiny better and DS is sick enough now to slow him down. I got sick a little bit sooner but we're compatible now. My mom has already been exposed enough. Friends and neighbors have really come through for me. That feels really great.

So sorry you are sick and with a sick kiddo. With having more frequent poos lately I was a little worried I would get what DH had, or worse, that DD and I would both get it. So far so good though! This is just a bad winter for sicknesses I think, It's crazy!

Quinalla - aren't insurance companies fun?! I asked my physical therapy girl if it would be helpful to have an adjustment right before or after physical therapy and she said that insurance companies won't pay for PT and a chiro if they happen on the same day. So even though they are in the same building I have to go on 2 different days or pay for one myself...

[nstewart]

Hi everyone,

Katie, I'm glad you and DH both had a good time on your trip and  got to catch up with so many people!  And I'm excited that your kitchen sounds like it's moving along well.  Don't take this the wrong way...but I hope your labor is long enough for your mom to get to DD and your DH to get to you! And I hope you get your pump no problem.  What a hassle!  

Bailey, it's nice you're getting some good weather!  We had some really nice weather over the weekend, but it was chilly and snowy again today.  I think it's supposed to start warming up again tomorrow though!  I'm also pretty impressed you could lift those 5 gallon pails!  Water is heavy!!  I've actually given up weights at the gym, and am just doing cardio now and my back is thanking me for it.  lol.  I haven't ever checked my cervix while pg, so I can't be of much help there.  I have also been having more frequent BMs (same as you, not soft or crampy or anything).  I wonder if it isn't just because we're running out of room??

Amanda, those cupcakes sound amazing!  mmmmmm....cake......Pretty bad when you start craving cake while eating a piece of apple pie!!  Glad you had a nice visit with your MIL and DH.  I hope he had a great birthday!

Becky, I say go for the raviolli!  At least if you don't like it it's not like you're paying for it!  I did have snake once, at a fondue place.  If I remember correctly it just had a really mild in flavor, like chicken.  

FM, I hope you and DS start feeling better soon.  I had an ear infection when I was pg with DS, and it is SO painful!  I couldn't believe it!  Can you get some drops for your ears?  I don't remember what the health nurse suggested to me for my ear ache (what kind) but it sure worked to kill the pain.  Feel better!

Well, where to start...DHs grandmother did end up passing away last weekend.  I'm glad DH was able to see her before she passed.  We're going to drive back up to DHs parents on Friday for the funeral.  DH is sad that she's passed, but since her health was failing for some time before her fall everyone in the family is just thankful that she's not suffering.  It will be nice to catch up with all of DH's aunts, uncles and cousins as it's been probably 2 years since we've seen all of them.  On a related note....when can/should a person explain death to kids?  Or not explain, but "raise" it I guess?  We have this funeral, but what really made me think of it was finding a bird on our front porch that hit our window and died.  I told DS the bird was having a nap...but I guess it made me realize I will have to talk to him about it some time and maybe the funeral is a good opportunity??

We had a good weekend, the weather was nice and sunny and so we took DS to the zoo.  They have a newer exhibit we hadn't seen before because it was always so lined up.  Penguins!  They were SOOOO cute, and so up close.  Close enough that DS and I both got splashed.  Sunday I did a bit of baking (apple pie and some cresent rolls I pinned quite some time ago and have been meaning ot make) and almost NOTHING else except going to my parents for dinner!  It was a great, quiet day.

I'm feeling pretty good about baby prep lately.  I haven't really done very much lately, but there isn't much I need/want to do for the next few weeks besides get some spring cleaning done, and maybe get some meals into the freezer.  Although...I am 31 weeks tomorrow, meaning I only have 6 weeks of work left after this week...so 9 weeks until my DD, realistically as little as 7 weeks until this babe gets here (holy crap!).  K, maybe I need to think about prep... 

[Quinalla]

CoBaby, no doubt, especially since I am usually on hold for 10 minutes at least, often 2-3 times as they transfer me around. Oh well, its a new program, so I kind of expected it to be a mess. I'm super excited about the renovation! DH is getting a bit bummed though as we want to move in 2-3 years hopefully and now he's sad because he knows the house we find won't have everything how he likes it in our house now, but we are going to want more space. I get it, but he's the one who wanted to fix up our house to help it sell, but he always has buyers remorse about stuff. I told him we'll get a house that is big enough and that will work for us and we can slowly fix it up over the next however many years. That doesn't help him much though as he tends to want everything NOW, man has no patience Sorry you aren't feeling prepared, I'm breathing much easier on that now that the renovations are going to be starting so I should have enough time to get the nursery set up and all that, it won't take long. We have all the big stuff except the double stroller and I'll just wait to order that until either I see it on sale (yeah right) or after renovations. Nice score on the gift card!

FarmerMomma, so sorry your and DS are sick I hope you feel better soon! After seeing my 4-month-old nephew this weekend I was excited for babies too.

BaileyB, yeah, I've run into that before with my GP when I used to do paps there before finding an OBGYN. They had to do a women's health visit (pap) separate from a wellness check or I would have to pay for one. So silly IMO as it would be much more convenient to knock it out in one trip!

nstewart, I hope my labor is long enough too, I'm not taking it the wrong way at all! I'm hoping I'll be able to recognize early labor sooner this time having been through it once and I'd like my labor to last longer than 5 hours honestly, it was just under 7 hours from start to finish last time and that was intense enough thanks I am thinking with twins it will take a bit longer too as its got to be harder for them to get in position with another baby in there, right? As long as companies don't switch again, I think it won't be too bad as I can handle the rest over e-mail, we'll see though! I think the funeral is a good opportunity to talk about death, I remember going to a funeral of someone at church when I was young and my Mom having an initial conversation about it. Mostly, it was interesting for me, not scary at that time. I'm glad your DH was able to see her one last time and yes funerals can be nice for catching up with family for sure. I'm jealous of your zoo visit, I love going to the zoo! I plan to take DD & the twins many times

Had a lazy night last night, DH initially wanted to start emptying the kitchen, I didn't say a word but he quickly figured out that it was way too early to start doing that. We should do it this weekend and use the kitchen until then, we'll eat enough take-out the next 2-3 weeks! Got our faucet ordered so after we get to feel the carpet sample and get that ordered, I think we are good to go! Bad HB last night was not fun, but tums helped.

[BaileyB]

Nstewart, I have been thinking about labor prep too. I am trying to make myself walk on our treadmill on days when we aren't outside or running errands. I only made it .8 miles before I had to go to the bathroom and I went right before I started, haha. I think I have figured out that I am having some sort of reaction to digesting milk and that is why I am having more BM's, though. I had some toast and a glass of milk before bed and when I woke up I had a huge gas bubble pain in my whole abdomen area. Sometimes I go through spurts of issues with milk. Other dairy seems fine but sometimes my stomach fights milk.

DD's toy clutter is getting to me today. Last year I set up one stall in the garage as a play area and she ran around in her walker in there too. I am looking forward to doing it again, possibly having another round of nesting coming on! Luckily I have a carpet remnant I can use this year too to put down on the floor out there but there is a lot of winter road gunk in there that needs to be scraped out and the floor washed, etc. Maybe by next week I will be ready to start on that.

What has everyone been eating for breakfast? I don't feel awake enough to make a decent breakfast for myself in the morning when I first get up, but by 9:30 (now) I am starving. I am out of ideas for an easy breakfast that will last longer than an hour. Maybe one of those protein cereals with yogurt or something? Eggs are kind of grossing me out.

[BaileyB]

Oh, and Quinalla, I hope I don't have a too fast labor either. Everybody talks about 3rd babies coming fast but I would prefer a nice 7-8 hour one. Faster than my 24 hour induction but not shooting a baby out in 2 hours either!

[berrymama]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

What has everyone been eating for breakfast? I don't feel awake enough to make a decent breakfast for myself in the morning when I first get up, but by 9:30 (now) I am starving. I am out of ideas for an easy breakfast that will last longer than an hour. Maybe one of those protein cereals with yogurt or something? Eggs are kind of grossing me out.

I do not like fussing with eggs in the morning either (I am not a huge fan of them). Lately, I have been having about 2/3 cup of homemade granola with greek yogurt and berries and it sticks with me for 4 hrs. It is a bit fussy to make (due to the stirring every 20-30 minutes), but lasts a couple weeks. I use a recipe similar to this http://www.marthastewart.com/344416/golden-granola but with coconut oil and agave instead of honey (using less agave than recipe calls for). OR I have been making green smoothies and those stick with me a while too, if I have a piece of bread or something with it.

Also, BaileyB, I think your cervix sounds about normal for a multip.

My good (GREAT) news is that I think baby girl turned vertex early yesterday morning! Yeah. Now I am afraid to lay down for fear she will go back. I am hoping the cramping and contracting will calm down a bit now, though that may be wishful thinking.

I am another one hoping for a not too short labor. My last one was 1 hr from first contraction to baby out, midwife did not make it in time (homebirth). My greatest anxiety at the end of pregnancy is going into labor at work. I want a homebirth, and if I go into labor at work (I am an L&D RN) I am pretty sure my coworkers would not let me go home (I probably wouldn't make it home in time anyway and would end up delivering in the car as I live a good 30 minutes from the hospital).

[Quinalla]

BaileyB, yeah I wouldn't want a super long labor, but too short can suck a lot too! For breakfast, I've been doing either oatmeal, greek yogurt (more protein), asiago bagel with PB on it, string cheese + cereal w/milk, liversausage toast, breakfast sandwich from Tim Horton's or souffle from Panera. I also like doing hard boiled eggs + cheese, but I've been too lazy to make those lately. Some days (well most days) I have to eat a snack ~10am or so regardless, but all those at least will stick with me a bit and if I don't have time for a snack I'm not starving by lunch. I've cut off peanuts and tree nuts now on the advice of an allergist (those are the things DD is allergic too and babies start being potential exposed around this point), so no more PB for me, but I may try some sunbutter (made from sunflower seeds) or something as a substitute.

My OB appointment today was short and sweet, heard the HBs, no questions from me today, seeing her every 2 weeks now until we go to one week. Have the MFM next week and she said they will probably want to start doing NST ~32 weeks or so, but that it would be up to them. I'm 28 weeks on Friday, so we'll see what they say.

[AmandaLynnH]

For everyone asking for the recipe for the cupcakes, here it is: http://www.howsweeteats.com/2013/02/dark-chocolate-fudge-merlot-cupcakes/ 

It was super easy and they're really, really, REALLY good.  Be prepared for the frosting to be a bit liquid though due to the wine.  I don't normally put cupcakes with a buttercream in the fridge but I did for these for that reason and they've been fine so far.  

Ns, I'm so sorry for yours and DH's loss.

Bailey and Farmer? I hope you both get to feeling better soon.

I really need to start working out again.  I know I was saying my weight gain was all belly but I've been noticing my thighs getting a bit chummier lately.  Granted, I know some of it is water as I am officially starting to swell (as if my body needed more incentive to hold water!).  

Anyone else's boobs randomly grow again?  I'm not digging having to go bra shopping again.

They closed our campus at the normal closing time, cancelling night classes.  It's basically a nice way of saying, 'our students and faculty are too important to have to drive in this but staff who've been here all day, have fun trudging home in this.'  If they had closed just 2 hours earlier it would have made life a lot easier for a lot of people.  And I can't speak for everyone else but I certainly didn't feel motivated to work extra hard for an organization that made it pretty clear yet again that they don't really give a crap about my safety.  

[adventuregirl]

I have been totally digging this breakfast lately: plain full fat yogurt with vanilla macaroon granola and dried cranberries/cherries/blueberries, walnuts and almonds. SUPER yum! It usually lasts me 3-4 hours.

n, everyone handles death differently, but personally I think its good to be honest with kids so that they know it is a part of life and something we have to deal with in all stages of our lives. Of course, some kids are way more sensitive than others, so everyone's situation is different, especially considering how the death will affect other family members. Personally, DD's first exposure to death was our family dog when she was 3, he was sick and we had to put him down. She loved him very much, but understood he was sick and we didn't hide anything, she said goodbye to him, shed a few tears afterward, but then was actually really just matter of fact about it. She would tell perfect strangers "my dog DIED!", it was kind of funny, but when it was fresh, her matter of factness would kind of poke at my wound, but I was glad this was her first experience and she handled it that way. When she was 5, my Grandma died and we had gone to visit her 2 months before when she was diagnosed (lung cancer) as we knew it would not be long, so I did prep her and she was certainly very sad, but it was also a good thing as she had a little warning (for the rest of us too), but I felt it was important for her to be aware that these things are a part of people's lives. Of course your DS is younger, and you had no warning, so you'll have to evaluate his understanding and sensitivity, but at some point, he'll figure it out. Sorry for your family's loss.

Funny to me the talk of fast labor, I am hoping for a faster one than last time (30 hrs), but can't imagine it would possibly go too fast! I know what it means to go too fast, but I feel like with my history, really fast would be no less than 8 hours. Of course, who knows!

berry, awesome baby turned, I hope she stays! Also hope this makes you feel better and get off bedrest!

Farmer, hope you & DS get better soon! Garlic oil in the ear works wonders.

Amanda, I also echo that those cupcakes sound divine! 

So DH's work wants to throw us a shower at their office, but DH wants to say no. His argument is that some people in his office (women) never had showers (different office dynamic at the time) and he doesn't want people to feel like they have to get us gifts. It is also mostly due to his annoyance with the person who wants to organize it being a bit overboard with organizing social functions and being a bit overbearing. So I get his argument, and said to him that I am ok with having it, but it is ultimately his decision and I understand whatever he decides. I think it is a nice gesture, and know most everyone in his office, but kind of feel like saying no is saying "no, you can't do something nice for me". I am in now way fishing for gifts, and don't want people to feel obligated to, but I don't want us/him to come of as rude for refusing. What do you guys think?  Opinions/advice please...

[nstewart]

Thanks everyone for your condolences.  I think I'll just see how things go at the funeral and decide at the time what to tell DS.  He is fairly sensitive and I do think it's a good time to raise the topic, but he's also really young.  He also didn't know DH's grandmother (he has only met her twice and was two months old the first time).  We'll just see how it goes.  I do have to share this, as I think it's pretty funny and shows how kids perceive things...when DH's grandmother died, his mom got home and explained to my niece and nephew who were there that Gramma had passes away.  My 8 year old niece said, "Oh, that means she's gone to heaven.  She'll get to meet Jesus."  My 4.5 year old nephew was quiet for a minute, then his eyes got really big, and he said with enthusiasm: "And she'll get to meet Yoda!!!"  That kid cracks me up. 

Sheryl, that breakfast sounds so yummy!! Maybe I need to switch it up...We are always in such a rush to get out the door that 90% of the time I have a piece of toast with PB and a half-caff coffee with cream on the way out the door.  I then have "second breakfast" at work around 9:30 and it's usually a smoothie, yogurt with fruit, or a piece of fruit.  Sometimes if I'm quite hungry I buy a breakfast sandwich from the place downstairs.  They're pretty good and at least made fresh to order with real eggs and real cheese, on a whole wheat English muffin.  Katie, I should get back in the habit of making steel cut oatmeal.  DS and I both love it, DH is so/so.  It's just so rushed in the mornings I'd have to do it the night before and bring it to work with me (or get up earlier, but I'll be honest, that ain't gonna happen!)

Katie, I hope getting your kitchen emptied out isn't too painful!  I guess it's a good chance to continue your 2013 challenge and maybe purge some stuff?  I know my pantry in the basement could use a major overhaul...Oh, and we did a kitchen reno when I was a teenager.  It was pretty major, and took about 5 or 6 months total.  All we had to cook with was a hot plate, a BBQ (or "Grill" as any southerner would call it) and a microwave.  You'd be amazed what you can cook without a stove or oven.  My mom baked cakes and pies on the BBQ, and to this day she still does all her roasts (pork, beef, lamb) on the BBQ.  Although we lived in the country outside a small town, so "eating out" was just not an option or it may not have gone down like that....Oh, and glad to hear your OB appointment went well.

This time, I'm ok if labor is about the same as last time.  Active labor was about 5 or 6 hours.  However, it's not unlikely to be a bit faster this time as I pushed for 1.5 hours of that 5 or 6 last time.  According to my MW their average length to push for a first time mom  is 2 hours, and 20 mins is the average for a 2nd or subsequent delivery.  I'm ok with shaving an hour or so off of active labor, but the idea of a really fast labor is kind of scary for some reason I can't figure out.  Maybe I'm worried about missing out on some part of the experience or about the m/w not getting there or being set up...I don't know.  I'm sure once I'm actually IN active labor I'll just be thinking "get this thing out of me!!!!"

Amanda, my boobs have gotten bigger again too.  Not enough to go up another cup size, but enough that now the cup size I am in is full, as opposed to not full if that makes sense.  I also have noticed a bit of weight on my thighs, despite working out.  It might be partly water, but your body does also need to put away some stores for baby.  Don't worry, I saw your bump photos, you look great and not big at all!!

Berry, I hope baby stays put and that things calm down now.  Fingers crossed.  And ONE HOUR??  Holy crap!  I can see why your coworkers would make you stay.  That is intense.

Sheryl, what about a compromise?  Maybe DH's coworkers could have cake and coffee or something, along with one group gift that everyone can either pitch in on or not (as they like) rather than a "shower" where each person feels obligated to purchase a gift? 

[CoBabyMaker]

Wow, busy thread all of a sudden!

  Berry, I am so glad that baby seems to have turned!  I hope that will calm down the cramping for you and she stays put!

Bailey, Sorry, I am no help on breakfasts, I have eggs with greens pretty much everyday.

NS, I'm sorry for the loss of DHs grandmother.  Glad he was able to see her one last time though.  I agree, I think it's fine to go ahead and discuss death if your DS will be sensitive and aware that something has happened.  DHs grandmother died about a year and half ago and we talked to DD about it then.  We explained that she was with Jesus and I think DD had a few questions but she was fine.  She would still bring it up every now and then that Grammy was in heaven now and she wasn't sick and could dance now with Grandpa and Jesus.  She wanted to write her a letter once so we did and put it in the mail (I later pulled it out to save.)  Overall, I think kids handle it pretty well most of the time though I would imagine it would be harder if they were very close.

Sheryl, I think it's fine to have shower if someone wants to throw one.  I like NStewart's idea of cake and a group gift more but it's really up to them.  I've always thought it a bit odd for people to see showers as asking for gifts.  Someone else is throwing it, not you and attendance is optional.  If they don't want to they don't have to come!

Amanda, I think you look great!  I tend to gain weight all over when I am pregnant, it's just what my body does.  You can't control how your body distributes it.  I'm glad you made it home ok with the weather even if it was later than would have been best!

Farmer, I hope you and your DS are on the mend quickly!  If I were closer I would bring you soup and tea!

My labor with dd1 was 50 hours and with DD2 was about 10 which felt SO doable after my first.  I think about 4-7 hours sounds ideal.  Since I am having a c-section I am still half hoping that I will randomly have a lightning fast labor (and the baby will actually come out) before we could make it to the hospital.  It's HIGHLY unlikely but it sure sounds interesting!  I've always wanted a homebirth!

I can't believe we are getting so close y'all!  It's very exciting!  How is everyone feeling as far as getting ready for baby goes?

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by berrymama 

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

What has everyone been eating for breakfast? I don't feel awake enough to make a decent breakfast for myself in the morning when I first get up, but by 9:30 (now) I am starving. I am out of ideas for an easy breakfast that will last longer than an hour. Maybe one of those protein cereals with yogurt or something? Eggs are kind of grossing me out.

I do not like fussing with eggs in the morning either (I am not a huge fan of them). Lately, I have been having about 2/3 cup of homemade granola with greek yogurt and berries and it sticks with me for 4 hrs. It is a bit fussy to make (due to the stirring every 20-30 minutes), but lasts a couple weeks. I use a recipe similar to this http://www.marthastewart.com/344416/golden-granola but with coconut oil and agave instead of honey (using less agave than recipe calls for). OR I have been making green smoothies and those stick with me a while too, if I have a piece of bread or something with it.

Also, BaileyB, I think your cervix sounds about normal for a multip.

My good (GREAT) news is that I think baby girl turned vertex early yesterday morning! Yeah. Now I am afraid to lay down for fear she will go back. I am hoping the cramping and contracting will calm down a bit now, though that may be wishful thinking.

I am another one hoping for a not too short labor. My last one was 1 hr from first contraction to baby out, midwife did not make it in time (homebirth). My greatest anxiety at the end of pregnancy is going into labor at work. I want a homebirth, and if I go into labor at work (I am an L&D RN) I am pretty sure my coworkers would not let me go home (I probably wouldn't make it home in time anyway and would end up delivering in the car as I live a good 30 minutes from the hospital).

Maybe her being breech was why you had so much cramping? I know with my first babe she was in an awkward position and I had really uncomfortable prodromal labor for months. It was like she was trying to get into position for labor but never could. Also, that is interesting that you are an L&D nurse but are having a homebirth.

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

BaileyB, yeah I wouldn't want a super long labor, but too short can suck a lot too! For breakfast, I've been doing either oatmeal, greek yogurt (more protein), asiago bagel with PB on it, string cheese + cereal w/milk, liversausage toast, breakfast sandwich from Tim Horton's or souffle from Panera. I also like doing hard boiled eggs + cheese, but I've been too lazy to make those lately. Some days (well most days) I have to eat a snack ~10am or so regardless, but all those at least will stick with me a bit and if I don't have time for a snack I'm not starving by lunch. I've cut off peanuts and tree nuts now on the advice of an allergist (those are the things DD is allergic too and babies start being potential exposed around this point), so no more PB for me, but I may try some sunbutter (made from sunflower seeds) or something as a substitute.

My OB appointment today was short and sweet, heard the HBs, no questions from me today, seeing her every 2 weeks now until we go to one week. Have the MFM next week and she said they will probably want to start doing NST ~32 weeks or so, but that it would be up to them. I'm 28 weeks on Friday, so we'll see what they say.

I start NST's soon too. In like a week. Of all the interventions and prenatal tests I actually find the NSTs pretty interesting. I feel like sometimes it can be one of those things that make little things seem like a big deal when they are not but I like seeing if there are any contractions that I am not feeling along with my BH's.

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

For everyone asking for the recipe for the cupcakes, here it is: http://www.howsweeteats.com/2013/02/dark-chocolate-fudge-merlot-cupcakes/ 

It was super easy and they're really, really, REALLY good.  Be prepared for the frosting to be a bit liquid though due to the wine.  I don't normally put cupcakes with a buttercream in the fridge but I did for these for that reason and they've been fine so far.  

Ns, I'm so sorry for yours and DH's loss.

Bailey and Farmer? I hope you both get to feeling better soon.

I really need to start working out again.  I know I was saying my weight gain was all belly but I've been noticing my thighs getting a bit chummier lately.  Granted, I know some of it is water as I am officially starting to swell (as if my body needed more incentive to hold water!).  

Anyone else's boobs randomly grow again?  I'm not digging having to go bra shopping again.

They closed our campus at the normal closing time, cancelling night classes.  It's basically a nice way of saying, 'our students and faculty are too important to have to drive in this but staff who've been here all day, have fun trudging home in this.'  If they had closed just 2 hours earlier it would have made life a lot easier for a lot of people.  And I can't speak for everyone else but I certainly didn't feel motivated to work extra hard for an organization that made it pretty clear yet again that they don't really give a crap about my safety.  

I find that about the last month my weight gain goes to everything but my belly. I think maybe it is just extra fat for breastfeeding that your body is trying to put on. I think my boobs have been growing off and on too but I have given up on any non-sports bras or tanks with bras built in so I have no idea if they have actually grown or just ache sometimes.

Originally Posted by adventuregirl 

I have been totally digging this breakfast lately: plain full fat yogurt with vanilla macaroon granola and dried cranberries/cherries/blueberries, walnuts and almonds. SUPER yum! It usually lasts me 3-4 hours.

n, everyone handles death differently, but personally I think its good to be honest with kids so that they know it is a part of life and something we have to deal with in all stages of our lives. Of course, some kids are way more sensitive than others, so everyone's situation is different, especially considering how the death will affect other family members. Personally, DD's first exposure to death was our family dog when she was 3, he was sick and we had to put him down. She loved him very much, but understood he was sick and we didn't hide anything, she said goodbye to him, shed a few tears afterward, but then was actually really just matter of fact about it. She would tell perfect strangers "my dog DIED!", it was kind of funny, but when it was fresh, her matter of factness would kind of poke at my wound, but I was glad this was her first experience and she handled it that way. When she was 5, my Grandma died and we had gone to visit her 2 months before when she was diagnosed (lung cancer) as we knew it would not be long, so I did prep her and she was certainly very sad, but it was also a good thing as she had a little warning (for the rest of us too), but I felt it was important for her to be aware that these things are a part of people's lives. Of course your DS is younger, and you had no warning, so you'll have to evaluate his understanding and sensitivity, but at some point, he'll figure it out. Sorry for your family's loss.

Funny to me the talk of fast labor, I am hoping for a faster one than last time (30 hrs), but can't imagine it would possibly go too fast! I know what it means to go too fast, but I feel like with my history, really fast would be no less than 8 hours. Of course, who knows!

berry, awesome baby turned, I hope she stays! Also hope this makes you feel better and get off bedrest!

Farmer, hope you & DS get better soon! Garlic oil in the ear works wonders.

Amanda, I also echo that those cupcakes sound divine! 

So DH's work wants to throw us a shower at their office, but DH wants to say no. His argument is that some people in his office (women) never had showers (different office dynamic at the time) and he doesn't want people to feel like they have to get us gifts. It is also mostly due to his annoyance with the person who wants to organize it being a bit overboard with organizing social functions and being a bit overbearing. So I get his argument, and said to him that I am ok with having it, but it is ultimately his decision and I understand whatever he decides. I think it is a nice gesture, and know most everyone in his office, but kind of feel like saying no is saying "no, you can't do something nice for me". I am in now way fishing for gifts, and don't want people to feel obligated to, but I don't want us/him to come of as rude for refusing. What do you guys think?  Opinions/advice please...

I guess as long as they offered to throw one and you get along with the people you might as well let them have the shower. I could see how your DH might not want it too though. It's one of those really individual situations.

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Thanks everyone for your condolences.  I think I'll just see how things go at the funeral and decide at the time what to tell DS.  He is fairly sensitive and I do think it's a good time to raise the topic, but he's also really young.  He also didn't know DH's grandmother (he has only met her twice and was two months old the first time).  We'll just see how it goes.  I do have to share this, as I think it's pretty funny and shows how kids perceive things...when DH's grandmother died, his mom got home and explained to my niece and nephew who were there that Gramma had passes away.  My 8 year old niece said, "Oh, that means she's gone to heaven.  She'll get to meet Jesus."  My 4.5 year old nephew was quiet for a minute, then his eyes got really big, and he said with enthusiasm: "And she'll get to meet Yoda!!!"  That kid cracks me up. 

Sheryl, that breakfast sounds so yummy!! Maybe I need to switch it up...We are always in such a rush to get out the door that 90% of the time I have a piece of toast with PB and a half-caff coffee with cream on the way out the door.  I then have "second breakfast" at work around 9:30 and it's usually a smoothie, yogurt with fruit, or a piece of fruit.  Sometimes if I'm quite hungry I buy a breakfast sandwich from the place downstairs.  They're pretty good and at least made fresh to order with real eggs and real cheese, on a whole wheat English muffin.  Katie, I should get back in the habit of making steel cut oatmeal.  DS and I both love it, DH is so/so.  It's just so rushed in the mornings I'd have to do it the night before and bring it to work with me (or get up earlier, but I'll be honest, that ain't gonna happen!)

Katie, I hope getting your kitchen emptied out isn't too painful!  I guess it's a good chance to continue your 2013 challenge and maybe purge some stuff?  I know my pantry in the basement could use a major overhaul...Oh, and we did a kitchen reno when I was a teenager.  It was pretty major, and took about 5 or 6 months total.  All we had to cook with was a hot plate, a BBQ (or "Grill" as any southerner would call it) and a microwave.  You'd be amazed what you can cook without a stove or oven.  My mom baked cakes and pies on the BBQ, and to this day she still does all her roasts (pork, beef, lamb) on the BBQ.  Although we lived in the country outside a small town, so "eating out" was just not an option or it may not have gone down like that....Oh, and glad to hear your OB appointment went well.

This time, I'm ok if labor is about the same as last time.  Active labor was about 5 or 6 hours.  However, it's not unlikely to be a bit faster this time as I pushed for 1.5 hours of that 5 or 6 last time.  According to my MW their average length to push for a first time mom  is 2 hours, and 20 mins is the average for a 2nd or subsequent delivery.  I'm ok with shaving an hour or so off of active labor, but the idea of a really fast labor is kind of scary for some reason I can't figure out.  Maybe I'm worried about missing out on some part of the experience or about the m/w not getting there or being set up...I don't know.  I'm sure once I'm actually IN active labor I'll just be thinking "get this thing out of me!!!!"

Amanda, my boobs have gotten bigger again too.  Not enough to go up another cup size, but enough that now the cup size I am in is full, as opposed to not full if that makes sense.  I also have noticed a bit of weight on my thighs, despite working out.  It might be partly water, but your body does also need to put away some stores for baby.  Don't worry, I saw your bump photos, you look great and not big at all!!

Berry, I hope baby stays put and that things calm down now.  Fingers crossed.  And ONE HOUR??  Holy crap!  I can see why your coworkers would make you stay.  That is intense.

Sheryl, what about a compromise?  Maybe DH's coworkers could have cake and coffee or something, along with one group gift that everyone can either pitch in on or not (as they like) rather than a "shower" where each person feels obligated to purchase a gift? 

I know DH said that our DD put the FUN in FUNERAL when our neighbor died. She thought it was a huge party because DH's parents, and grandparents were there along with a lot of neighbors she knows. She thought it was awesome. She was just a ball of energy, climbing up the stairs to try and get a better view of the organist, trying to play ball with the little decorative pumpkins they had at the church, etc. She dropped one of the pumpkins and it rolled right threw the line of family that was following the casket out to the hurst and then of course ran threw the line of people to get it. I just wanted to hide under a chair!

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Wow, busy thread all of a sudden!

  Berry, I am so glad that baby seems to have turned!  I hope that will calm down the cramping for you and she stays put!

Bailey, Sorry, I am no help on breakfasts, I have eggs with greens pretty much everyday.

NS, I'm sorry for the loss of DHs grandmother.  Glad he was able to see her one last time though.  I agree, I think it's fine to go ahead and discuss death if your DS will be sensitive and aware that something has happened.  DHs grandmother died about a year and half ago and we talked to DD about it then.  We explained that she was with Jesus and I think DD had a few questions but she was fine.  She would still bring it up every now and then that Grammy was in heaven now and she wasn't sick and could dance now with Grandpa and Jesus.  She wanted to write her a letter once so we did and put it in the mail (I later pulled it out to save.)  Overall, I think kids handle it pretty well most of the time though I would imagine it would be harder if they were very close.

Sheryl, I think it's fine to have shower if someone wants to throw one.  I like NStewart's idea of cake and a group gift more but it's really up to them.  I've always thought it a bit odd for people to see showers as asking for gifts.  Someone else is throwing it, not you and attendance is optional.  If they don't want to they don't have to come!

Amanda, I think you look great!  I tend to gain weight all over when I am pregnant, it's just what my body does.  You can't control how your body distributes it.  I'm glad you made it home ok with the weather even if it was later than would have been best!

Farmer, I hope you and your DS are on the mend quickly!  If I were closer I would bring you soup and tea!

My labor with dd1 was 50 hours and with DD2 was about 10 which felt SO doable after my first.  I think about 4-7 hours sounds ideal.  Since I am having a c-section I am still half hoping that I will randomly have a lightning fast labor (and the baby will actually come out) before we could make it to the hospital.  It's HIGHLY unlikely but it sure sounds interesting!  I've always wanted a homebirth!

I can't believe we are getting so close y'all!  It's very exciting!  How is everyone feeling as far as getting ready for baby goes?

50 hours! OMG! My last labor was and induction and was 12 hours from cytotec to baby, but 30 minutes after they put in the cervix ripener and before they could even start pitocin my contractions went from none to every 3 minutes HARD. It was rough. I have only ever pushed about 20 minutes both times so I can't complain about that. I think if I had a long pushing time I would wuss out for sure and would probably be the lady screaming for a c-section or yelling 'you did this!!!' at my DH. haha.

Oh I am so tired and sore tonight. I didn't know what kind of day it was going to be today when I started out feeling so crappy after breakfast. I actually almost did throw up today until I ate a couple pieces of toast with butter and sipped some water. DD and I ended up driving about 25 minutes away to a co-op we like in a cool little city to pick up some floradix and a few other random things. We ended up shopping there, then walking around the other shops and boutiques for probably over an hour, then driving home to our regular grocery store for some other things. Got home and put the groceries away, picked up all the toys that were just everywhere, then shoveled all the crud from the road out of our garage and actually scrubbed it with a push broom and soapy water and squeegee'd it out. Then I somehow magically had the energy to cook an actually well rounded dinner, give DD and bath, and rounded up DD and DH to clean up the playroom. I think it is safe to say that today ended up being another nesting day. I'm afraid to even lay down on the couch because I don't think I could get up if I had to and DD isn't in bed yet.