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[Quinalla]

AmandaLynnH, yeah your body will put on some fat stores prepping for BFing, so while its not a bad idea to work out regardless, don't get discouraged by your body fattening up a bit. My DH pointed out a few weeks ago that I have my pregnancy arms back meaning they are fatter. My thighs and butt are too. At least its pretty equally distributed so with my big belly and boobs, it isn't too noticeable to anyone but me! I've mostly given up on real bras, wearing stretchy nursing bras, so I'm not sure if they have grown or not, but it isn't uncommon. Sorry your work is being bad about safety for staff, that is one thing my boss is always great about. He actually gets mad at people who come in when it is really bad here.

adventuregirl, oof 30 hours, yeah I would want it to be faster than that! I too would vote for a low-key shower, make it something fun for people to attend and clear that gifts are not expected and/or have the organizer do one gift from everyone that people can contribute to or not, usually a gift basket full of random baby stuff works well as you can easily add to it if more people chip in $$. That way it is more of a fun break for the office instead of a gift giving extravaganza. I personally wouldn't refuse, but I would insist it be low-key with pizza/bagel/whatever for everyone.

nstewart, yeah it will be interesting to see how much of a PITA it is. I think I'll be mostly fine with the remodel, but DH is going to be whining as he gets tired of lots of takeout really fast. If the weather is at all warm, we can grill outside, so that will help. I just need to figure out a good place to put our fridge for access and I'd like the microwave and toaster somewhere too as I will use those. I know I'm scared of too fast of a labor because my first one was very intense and I can't imagine it being more intense. I like to have a little bit of a break between contractions I just hope my water doesn't break until pushing again, I think that helped a lot.

CoBabyMaker, oof 50 hours, yikes! As far as getting ready, feeling pretty good now that renovations will be starting and we'll be able to get the nursery set up in early April, maybe late March. Poor DH is going to have to do so much heavy lifting by himself though!

BaileyB, yeah I'm curious to see how the NST are, I tend to be very interested in everything and ask lots of questions if they aren't narrating it for me. Glad that they are interesting as I was worried they might be pretty boring! Sounds like a nesting day to me too and I hear you about being afraid to lay down. I'll lay down and 2 minutes later DD or DH will want something and I'm like "Pregnant lady is laying down now, you come to me!"

Pretty lazy evening last night, though I did get some laundry done and we did verify the colors of carpet we wanted as I got the sample yesterday. We kept about half and changed the other half as things don't always look the same when you get them under your own lighting and next to your own walls. I sent an e-mail off to our remodeler so we'll get a price and probably go forward regardless as we like the carpet and we know about how much this carpet will cost already. Otherwise we watched a bunch of TV and then went to bed. DD has been napping at daycare so far this week, so hopefully she will keep that up as she needs that nap. She's still been pretty tired despite that and getting good sleep at night so I think she must be growing again.

[timesway]

interesting as mine is breech  and loads of contractions/bh/fake labouryness.. i feel like baby is constantkly grappling inside of me aswell.. eek not comfortable :P

Thanks everyone for the kindness, life is so up/down atm.. bf has said he will help me sot babys room and if i need advice on baby stuff he will advise as he has done it 3 times before (which bearing in mind a couple of weeks ago he would look like he was gonna kill himself every time i mentioned my boobs had grown or he saw my belly, or baby kicked when we were sleeping).. thats a bit of progress i think.. we shall see how it goes

[amlikam]

Hey all, I have been mostly hanging out in the June DDC since my date is June 2 (but the OB insists it is june 14th... I am 100% sure when I conceived and my midwives agree with me.)  Jumping into this thread to start and get to know all of you as well since DD came 4 weeks early it is possible this bean will be early (I am working on keeping him in until May 20th at least. May 24th would be a lovely day to have him in my book  but I know we don't really get to pick).

I read through what I could on this thread to catch up, hope people are feeling better and all the food sounds yummy, but I too feel unable to eat sometimes. I was over weight before getting pregnant so the whole gaining more weight is challenging... ugh, but taking one for the team and really trying to stay active with yoga and walking/hiking. 

NS- My dad passed away in October. My DD is 4 and had a close relationship with him. We were honest and when it came time for viewing the body we asked her if she wanted to see him and gave her the option not to. She wanted too and we made it see like a normal part of life, that is sad. She had some questions- the where do you go part was hard to answer, I am pagan/shaman by nature so explaining it as "back to the earth" for him to be an ancestor seemed to make sense to her. Of course my sister is Christian as is most of my family, so when someone we saying "Now Papa is with Jesus" she was like "who is Jesus? can we go to his house too?" THAT part was hard... Also the kids were running around and someone made a comment about how maybe someone else could take them for a walk or something. I just clear stated if my dad was there to say anything he would say "let them play" and he would let them do what they want for the most part. (The kids having fun was the main joy in his life.)  Good luck with that death is always a hard subject to know how to process especially with the littles.

AFM: yesterday I had a harrowing incident in my car where someone pulled out in front of me and I swirved out of the way just barely. I keep thinking there was no rational way I should have been able to do that. I should have hit them. The other driver laughed and drove off and I was on a little curb/median freaking out, crying, .... Babe seems ok and all but I am still a bit sore, but an adjustment last night helped (along with some good stretching and a walk)... tonight I will get a massage which I scheduled 4 weeks ago. DH and I are going on a 6+hr drive tomorrow night, as we decided to do a couples retreat before the baby gets here to try and repair our relationship's foundation. Things have gotten a bit hairy so we are looking to reconnect and rejuvanate- a gamble but we both feel it can't make things worse and we really need to carve time out for each other. This week he has been real kind especially yesterday after the incident AND finidng out he will be unemployed in 2 weeks. We knew it was coming but thought it would be closer to May and then he could be off for the summer to help at home while I was on leave, but now I am unsure. Really trusting all will be ok.

Ok, need to get some work done. Up to my head and this person who I am training to replace me here at work while I am on leave is going to drive me bananas.... I am trying so hard to embrace patience and light light within all.

[adventuregirl]

times - hugs to you.

Katie - too funny about lying down! I know what you mean!

Thanks everyone for shower advice, DH and I will chat about it over the weekend.

I was cranky pregnant lady last night. I was really full, had heartburn, had a short fuse and didn't want to sit or lay down in the family room because I knew it would get uncomfortable, and I really just wanted to rest. Sounds weird, I know. So I went to bed early and actually slept well, nearly pain-free and only had to get up once to pee (has been 2-3x/night lately), so I was glad to follow my instinct. 

This week seems long, is it really only Thursday? I guess not being as crazy busy as it has been the past few weeks makes it seem slower. BUT, 2 weeks till I am on the beach, so I can stick it out!

I am going slow on baby prep, but chipping away at it. I have a list of things to do this weekend, but really feel like most of what I have to do, it is too early for anyway. So at least I am not stressing myself out about it.

The insurance people caught up with me yesterday and it turns out I will get a gift card even enrolling late, so I answered all their questions. They did ask me where I was planning to deliver and what doctor my mw works under, and I couldn't lie, so I hope that doesn't influence their coverage, I have trouble trusting their motives. I kind of had to laugh, nurse: "so you had your glucose tolerance test?" Me: "no, I refused", nurse: "Oh!", "How was your last sonogram?" Me: "I haven't had any." nurse: "Oh.". Haha Kind of surprised she didn't ask why, but that made it easier on me.

[Quinalla]

timesway, I hope your BF is coming around! Sometimes it is a slower process with the partners in our lives since they don't live with the reality of pregnancy every moment of the day. Hopefully that is what is contributing to most of it for him.

amlikam, don't you love arguing your due date with your OB, I didn't even bother this time when they wrote down my dates wrong by 2 days. I just don't care and once it is "in the system" it is hard to get it changed! Good for you for staying active, I'm trying, but not doing much more than light yoga/stretching and walking. So sorry about your accident must have been scary! I hope your retreat with DH goes well, I think reconnecting before the baby comes is a really good plan as after there is definitely some stress and strain!

adventuregirl, glad you got some good rest, I haven't had to do that much since the 1st trimester (going to bed really early) but when I'm tired I just go to bed and DH can stay up or not. Sounds like your insurance call went well, I don't think those folks actually communicate with anyone at the insurance company so I wouldn't worry too much. Glad to hear you still get your gift card!

Well, we forgot to pick paint last night, but DH & I did play some PC games together with my one brother online, so that was fun Watched a season 2 episode of Game of Thrones (gearing up for soon to be out season 3). I did some laundry and otherwise we slacked. This weekend we'll get the kitchen all deconstructed. Got the price on the carpet and it was what was expected, so we'll give the go ahead today. They are going to move the big furniture for us too, so that's good. I'm a bit tired today, just not sleeping super well, so I'm going to be probably 75% today. Hopefully no work crisis today!

[BaileyB]

I wasn't feeling well ysterday Quinalla. It was like the Unisom I took the night before just never wore off, and I was just congested, and nothing tasted good. Yuck. I feel much better today.

As far as due dates, my appt last week the OB that did my U/S moved my due date up a week and my regular OB that I saw right after him for my prenatal is still going by my original due date, which is a week later. I just go by my best guess because really, how would anybody else have a more educated guess than that?

[BaileyB]

Oh and I am excited! Someone is coming to look at buying my jogging stroller. I listed it forever ago.

[OtherMother]

I'm going to catch up on this thread later, but can I just say ... MAY-JOR stress on the home front. DD has been sick all week, fever Sun-Wed and bad cough, but yesterday started SCREAMING about her ear. We never go to pedi for sick visits, but we went! And she had an ear infection. Of course I want to avoid giving anti-b's, and DD wants to avoid taking Motrin, so it was a LONG night. I feel so bad for baby having to listen to all that screaming and me so stressed because of it  :(  And of course, I had class in the morning, so I had to miss my first, and have an exam in a few minutes .... I did, however, get my Enya CD I'd reserved from the library, and it helped me SO MUCH on my commute to class. I felt like I'd forgotten I was loved and supported by the universe, and I remembered. I need so much to just LET GO and trust. I'm hoping I can cultivate that more before baby comes.

Also, 27 WEEKS TODAY! Only one more week in the second trimester! And I get to go to the birth cottage for a prenatal this week- after this one, it's twice monthly, baby!

[timesway]

Today is a weird one.. It is the day I was due to be born (so the point I realis my bday is in 3 weeks-eek!!) it is my sisters bday.. I am exactly 7 months pregnant (worked out from counting months from last period way).. It's also 7 months since my last miscarriage.. And 7 months since all the chaos that surrounded that.. An it is my lovely friend who hung herself nearly 5years she's birthday.. Hard day.. Day of things to come.. Day of celebration.. So many things for one day..

This week I have started to feel really quite uncomfortable back pain wise.. My tummys started to stick out and altho my weights stayed the same for. Few weeks now I feel it.. I guess from the way I'm holding my body.. Plus I have another kidney infection and it is causing a lot of back pain..ouch!!

An on my phone but will catch up on you all later.. In a bit lost ATM.. Bf isn't getting any better sand I just don't know how much more I can take.. But I feel I've put too much in to give up how.. And giving up certainly isn't what I want.. But what if I go through all this and then I get nothing from this.. Along with a new baby.. Can I cope with that? There's no telling me sense sometime tho.. I very rarely fall in love and when I do.. I cannot do logic I am 100% emotionally driven with undertones of logical screaming underneath!! Lol sorry to just moan moan moan lately

[Quinalla]

BaileyB, awesome about the jogging stroller, I was exhausted yesterday too, it sucked! Seem to be better today a bit. I think I've just been staying up a bit too late and then not sleeping well.

OtherMother, sorry about your DDs ear infection, I had a lot as a kid. Our DD has had a few, but we've been lucky to catch all of them early. I don't like overuse of antibiotics, but I do use them (making sure to do the full course) for ear infections as they HURT when they get bad. I know they aren't always bacterial, but a lot of them are, and doing the full course makes it very unlikely you are contributing to super-bugs. So glad the Enya CD helped you relax, I know I have some music that is my goto when I'm feeling stressed too.

timewsay, wow, that's a lot for one day! Sorry for all the discomfort I'm so sorry to hear about your BF, but I will tell you if he does flake out you will be fine! I'm not saying it won't be sad and hard at times, but you are strong and you can do it on your own if it comes to that. I'm still hoping he'll turn it around for you, but you'll do fine. And I don't know anyone who doesn't get mixed up when it comes to their own relationships. I'm pretty logical most of the time, but I always needed friends/family to help me get perspective when in a relationship because there are just too many emotions to mix you up!

I was so exhausted yesterday, it sucked! I even took a ~2 hour nap, which helped, but still so tired. Also was not very hungry yesterday. I think I'm better today on the tired front, but I don't know if it will last. We (well DH mostly) got the kitchen 75% cleared out yesterday, just need to do the rest today and move some furniture. We're going to pick up some big furniture sliders for the one couch as it is too heavy for me to lift right now. The rest DH can move by himself except our dining table, but it isn't heavy, so we can do that together. Need to buy some disposable plates, cups, bowls & silverware today too. We are both so happy we had the basement redone as we are going to be living out if mostly the next 3-4 weeks! I just hope we have some warm days so we can use our grill, not that you can't use it when its cold, but brrr. Everything is ready to go, just waiting on the backsplash tile to come and cabinet pulls to arrive (should be this week probably) and the carpet is ordered, so that should come in a week or two. We decided to let them move the furniture so they can get the carpet done in one day, we just have to clear stuff off the tops of it and get any electronics stashed somewhere (going in the bathrooms!) Can't wait for that to be done. I got most of the laundry done yesterday and running my last load of dishes now before we pack the rest away. It will be nice when its done, that's for sure!

Also, our big TV we just got in December now has a red vertical line in it. We called the warranty place and they are sending someone out Friday. Luckily, that TV is the one we won't be watching for the next 3-4 weeks anyway, so I guess it worked out timing wise and it is under warranty so they will replace it if isn't fixable. It's an LED LCD and I guess it is one of the most common problems with those, so we're the "lucky" ones!
Edited by Quinalla - 3/4/13 at 4:49am

[nstewart]

Hi everyone I don't have time to catch up on everyone's posts right now because I'm on my mobile but I'll try to catch up on the next thread tomorrow.

This is been quite the weekend. We went up to the in-laws for DH's grandma's funeral and stayed with the brother and sister-in-law. They have two little girls close in age to Ds so that was fun but the sleeping arrangements weren't good. Essentially there was a very hard double bed for DH and I and a crib mattress on the floor for DS who of course did not want to sleep on it. So half the night all3 of us squeezed in and the other half I shared the bed with DS and DH slept on the sofa. DS also refused to nap the entire weekend. Add to that a busy, stressful family funeral, very unhealthy food, no privacy....i just am ready to be home. And we would be, except a blizzard has rolled thru so we are staying in a hotel half way home. We'll be up early tomorrow for the other 3 hrs of the drive so DH doesn't miss a full day of work. Thankfully i already booked it off.

Anyway, sorry for the short, whiney post. I'll try to catch up tomorrow and im sure i'll be in better spirits after some sleep. Fingers crossed we all get some sleep tonite!