I've not been on in a while. My children's dad moved out in October. Things have been going really surprisingly well. I think it has been a lot easier than I thought it would be, in fact, it is really a relief to be on my own (even though it wasn't my choice).
Most days things are going well. I think I'm doing pretty well balancing a 5 year old and an 8 month old baby. But there are those moments.....
Like dinner and bedtime. Baby clearly is ready to head to bed around 6 or 6:30. But that is dinner time. My older DD does not want to be on her own. So she won't just stay downstairs while I get baby to bed. Plus, dinner is an important meal for us as it is our main time to sit down and eat together.
I usually just make the baby stay up until after we eat then get her up to bed with my 5 year old right there with us. But then the 5 year old is bouncing on the bed and full of energy while I'm trying to wind down the baby.
Then she just doesn't want to be 5 feet away from me while I nurse and rock. By this point in the day I just want some quiet space to nurse and relax! There is no second parent to help her get ready for bed. So sometimes she gets to bed late because the baby doesn't go down quickly, or wakes up a lot.
It's just hard sometimes! It just seems that often they both have really different schedule needs at the same time.
We are a Waldorf family and don't have any media for children. I know that is something that a lot of mothers (single or not) rely on, but it isn't something I'm willing to do just yet.
I try to be really gentle on myself about it, but I can get really frustrated when I feel I can't give them what they need.
Any tricks or advice? Has anyone here managed adjusting to being single with more than one child when one of those kiddos was a baby?
I'll mention that I have 100% custody. Their dad joins us for dinner a few nights a week, but that is it.