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*~*~*~* Spotlight on chocolatechip!!!*~*~*~*

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Ask Away!!!

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What has surprised you the most about this pregnancy? 

 

What will you miss the most about it?  What will you be happy to be done with?

 

What is your dream birth?

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I am really curious about your job...what exactly do you do? and what are you most excited about studying/researching/doing in the future? Are you going to take time off for a while or jump back in after baby comes?

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How did you develop such good taste in literature? ;-)
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I *knew* there was something I was supposed to check on this morning! Oops!

 

What has surprised me most about this pregnancy? Well, I was hoping to just feel awesome through the whole thing, since my mom basically said, "oh yeah, being pregnant was easy!" So I was a little surprised at how exhausted I was the first trimester, though I think "disappointed" might be a better word than surprised. I think two things have actually really surprised me.

 

The first is that I haven't had nearly the emotional roller coaster that I was expecting to! I have occasional moments, but it really hasn't been bad at all. I attribute this directly to a) pregnancy being easier than grad school, which took me 8 1/2 years and finished in March 2012, so stress levels went *way* down, b) not having a real job, so I can rest and take care of myself as needed, and c) still being able to sleep decently so that most of the time I feel like I have some energy!

 

The second thing is just how hungry I can get!!! I still don't understand how sometimes it can be so all-encompassing that I completely fall apart if I don't get something in my mouth now, or it wakes me up and I have to go eat in the middle of the night. I knew I would probably be hungrier, but I just didn't come close to imagining the degree to which that would happen. (and along with that, it never occurred to me that I would get tired of eating! I love food! But sometimes I just don't want to have to deal with putting it in my mouth any more)

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What will I miss about this pregnancy, and what will I be happy to be done with?

 

I think my answer to these questions might be the same thing! I love feeling the baby move. It's amazing to me that it just kicks and rolls around in there, and that it's a living being that has been growing inside of me. On the flip side, it often kicks out in exactly the same place, to the point where I feel like I really must be internally bruised, or it stretches so long that I can see my belly distending and it's incredibly uncomfortable.

 

If I could only keep the fun fetal movements, then what I would be most happy to be done with is how much more tired my body is getting. I am just way slower going up hills (a necessity in Seattle), stairs, walking around in general. I was telling my husband last night that you know that nice warm rush you get in your muscles when you've been using them really well during a workout of some sort? That rush that tells you that it's time to pull back a little bit before going at it again? Sometimes I get that now just when I've been standing around for a while. I could let that go. orngtongue.gif

 

My dream birth would be following in my mom's footsteps, except for the part where there's a dumb doctor giving her bad advice by phone (she had all three kids at home). So, about six hours of labor, starting in the morning, baby comes out easily... I'd like to be able to spend some time laboring in the birth tub, though I'm not totally attached to actually birthing in the tub. I'd like the baby to wait until a few days past the due date, so that in addition to our midwives, my mom can be here, as well as a good friend of mine (who I just learned even has some doula training!). I'd like it to feel natural and right, and be able to be mindful and present with my body, however it's feeling. I'd like my husband to feel like he's learned enough from our class and books that he can really help in the moment. And if any of this doesn't happen, I would like to have the ability to roll with it as necessary. smile.gif

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Originally Posted by writermama12 View Post

I am really curious about your job...what exactly do you do? and what are you most excited about studying/researching/doing in the future? Are you going to take time off for a while or jump back in after baby comes?

 

So, my "job." It's not really a job right now - it's kind of like a potential job. LOL. So, I went to grad school for archaeology, and as part of my dissertation work, I spent a lot of time identifying fish bones from various archaeological sites. Basically figuring out what species people were eating, and also keeping track of which bones of the body were showing up, whether they were burned, that sort of thing. And believe it or not, this is a skill that other archaeologists (and sometimes biologists, ecologists, etc.) will sometimes pay for work! There really aren't many of us who do fish - they're smaller than mammal bones (if you're not doing rodents), they have a lot of different bones, and the variation among species is pretty extreme. So it takes a kind of personality who really likes to get into the details.

 

A lot of archaeology that gets done is contract archaeology, or cultural resource management (CRM), where an archaeology firm comes in to do testing and excavation before construction projects, to figure out if there are any cultural materials that will be impacted. Any construction project with governmental funds has to have cultural resource testing, and a lot of times cities also require it for smaller projects, especially in historic districts. Because people who analyze fish remains aren't that common, and there are often a lot of fish bones in coastal sites, the fish frequently get ignored. Which is a little silly, since it's obviously a big part of the picture, if there are a lot of bones! But when you *do* have someone available to do analysis, then you can get that part of the picture (and the price gets rolled into the CRM company's bid for the project).

 

So for me right now, I've only had a couple little projects since I graduated. I have three other good-sized projects that I'm lined up for, but it always takes longer in the field and doing the pre-sorting than anyone expects, so I've been twiddling my thumbs for a few months now. And of course, what do you bet they all suddenly show up as soon as the baby's here?!? I have not been putting much work into finding other people who will hire me (those are three different groups already, which is pretty great), partly because I was expecting these projects to show up, and partly because, well, babies are a little more exciting than fish bones right now. orngbiggrin.gif

 

With my husband's income, I don't really have to have a real job, which is awfully nice, and I would love to just focus on baby for a while. That said, I would like to actually continue my fish bone work (it's nice being paid consultant fees for work that I actually really trained for, and spent a lot of time not getting paid what I was worth in grad school!), and it's something I can do out of the house. So we'll see how that can work out with a baby. I also loved teaching while in grad school, and if I could get in with the right networks, could easily see myself teaching occasional classes at different community colleges or universities in the area.

 

And, at the same time, having been homeschooled most of my life, I would love to do that with my kids. So who knows what will happen!

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How did you develop such good taste in literature? ;-)

 

Hah! I have awesome parents. orngbiggrin.gif

 

I don't remember a time when I didn't read. My parents say I learned I think when I was 2 1/2 or so? I was pretty proficient by the time I got into kindergarten, where my teachers apparently didn't believe I was really reading - they thought I'd just memorized the book. Until they had me read part of a newspaper article. Kindergarten turned out to be pretty boring, which is why I left (yes, it was actually my decision; my parents had wanted to homeschool from the beginning, but I was convinced I needed to go to school).

 

So reading was clearly in my genetics, and both my parents enjoy reading a wide variety of books, though I would also say both of them lean towards sci-fi and fantasy. Even to this day, my parents and I all make sure each other knows when a new Bujold book comes out! And while growing up, the TV wasn't on much except for Saturday morning cartoons, baseball games, and then once a week the whole family would sit down on the couch, make popcorn and "punch" (fruit juice of some sort mixed with lemonade or Crystal Lite of all things), and watch the new episode of Star Trek:TNG. Again with the sci-fi. And the family part of it all!

 

I also have some great memories of all three of us kids snuggled up with mom while she read us chapter books. Oh, those were some good days!

 

And being homeschooled, we spent a lot of time at the library.

 

I want my kids to grow up surrounded by books and reading as I did, so I've been trying to get enough bookcases into our house that our books can be mostly all out. My husband will be good at reading to the kids, but the role modeling of being a reader will come from me, since my husband doesn't do much of it voluntarily (it's a lot more work for him, somehow). So hopefully I'll be able to pass on some inclinations towards good literature to the children! smile.gif

 

(have you gotten the new Bujold book yet? I've managed to hold off so far, because I know I will lose a day to it when it arrives...)

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Here's some fun questions for you: whats your favorite ice cream? Whats your favorite music and/or musician?
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Here's some fun questions for you: whats your favorite ice cream? Whats your favorite music and/or musician?

 

Ooh, food question!!! orngbiggrin.gif I love chocolate ice cream, and especially the kind that has brownie chunks in it. YUMMMMM. I did make a raspberry ice cream last summer, though, that was pretty incredible. But in general, anything-with-chocolate wins out.

 

My music tastes have had a hard time leaving my teenage years. I love my grunge/rock bands of the 90s. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Weezer, Green Day, Crash Test Dummies, Garbage, R.E.M., K's Choice... But I also really like big band/jazz (goes along with enjoying swing dancing), some celtic (Dougie MacLean), classical, soundtracks to muscials...


But in general, I'm not as much of a music person as a lot of people I know. I have a hard time listening to music while reading or writing, which meant it wasn't that common in my life for much of grad school! And I also really appreciate quiet.

 

You know, I think one of my favorite music experiences is listening to my dad play the guitar and sing. The personal connection adds a whole extra level for me. smile.gif

 

(speaking of my dad - he has always been way cooler in his music tastes than I am, and most of the rock concerts I went to while growing up were with him!)

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The second thing is just how hungry I can get!!! I still don't understand how sometimes it can be so all-encompassing that I completely fall apart if I don't get something in my mouth now, or it wakes me up and I have to go eat in the middle of the night. I knew I would probably be hungrier, but I just didn't come close to imagining the degree to which that would happen. (and along with that, it never occurred to me that I would get tired of eating! I love food! But sometimes I just don't want to have to deal with putting it in my mouth any more)

 

Hi Chocolatechip!

 I could have written this exact same thing. Right down to the middle of the night eating and getting tired of putting things in my mouth.

I can't wait to have my regular appetite back!

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I also really like the grunge era! I was a teenager, too, so i listened to that kind of music A LOT at the time. Now i still listen to it on occasion and it makes me smile because its good music and it brings back good memories smile.gif
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How many children to you see yourself having?

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How many children to you see yourself having?

 

Husband and I have negotiated to two. smile.gif He was an only child, and liked the idea of just having one. I was one of three, and thought three was a great number. Fortunately, it didn't take much work to get him to agree to two! I can't imagine not having siblings - I know he was happy as an only child, but I do think there really is something wonderful about having siblings. I could still see wanting three, but I'll be old enough by the time we get through the second one that maybe I won't want to be pregnant a third time after all!

 

My mom told me she originally wanted five children, and negotiated my dad up to three. Maybe I should have started with a higher number. lol.gif

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I couldn't imagine growing up without a sibling, either.  I guess it's all what you're used to, but still...

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Chocolatechip you're the first person I've come across who knows who Dougie Maclean is!  Crazy.  I like his stuff too. smile.gif  But I'm afraid we'll have to part ways on the grunge - somehow I never got into that.

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I couldn't imagine growing up without a sibling, either.  I guess it's all what you're used to, but still...

 

I know! I have so many great memories of growing up with my brothers. But I guess it also might have been different if we'd gone to school. We weren't isolated in the least, but we definitely spent more time at home with just each other to play with than we would have if we'd been in school. My mom said we all got along so well simply because we had to. On the other hand, she apparently never knew (until recently) that I used to sit on my brothers when they were annoying me... shy.gif

 

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Chocolatechip you're the first person I've come across who knows who Dougie Maclean is!  Crazy.  I like his stuff too. smile.gif  But I'm afraid we'll have to part ways on the grunge - somehow I never got into that.

 

Dougie!!! When I used to work on a ropes course, the people I worked for must have known his music, because at some point he came into town (the fairly small town) to give a concert, and they got all of us teenage helpers to go with them. I loved it. But you're right, so few people have heard of him! I got to go see him again a few years back in Santa Cruz - so much fun. I wish I owned more of his music, but they're so expensive I can never bring myself to spend the money...

 

I think my music tastes leaned toward my dad's partly just because I thought he was so cool. I started getting my hair permed after he did (yes, he did), we went and got our ears pierced together, he was in a band that practiced at our house for several years (mostly for fun, though they played for a few of our bigger neighborhood and homeschooling events)... Music just kind of came along with all that.

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LOL at sitting on your brothers and your dad perming his hair!! lol.gif.

I was living in Santa Cruz when you saw Dougie! I dont know the musician otherwise i probably would have been there with you smile.gif
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