I haven't posted on here in ages, I usually lurk. But I'm at a total loss. DS2 just turned 2 last week. The week before he got a nasty stomach bug. He couldn't keep anything down for days and had lots of diarrhea after that. He refused to nurse the whole time and even with pumping, my milk supply disappeared. We talked about it and decided to just let him wean, said goodbye to "nursies" and he hasn't asked since. Problem: he has no idea how to fall asleep without them! He nursed at nap and bedtime to fall asleep and now cannot seem to stay still long enough to fall asleep.
He's dropped naps completely, even though I'm certain he still needs them. He's got lots of energy and is on the go all day, he's realized that if he doesn't lie still, he won't fall asleep. So he tries to play or just cries and thrashes. DS1 does rest time and if DS2 is going to refuse nap then I'd like to encourage rest time for him as well, but all he does is get out of bed and run around! I've given him is favorite books, crayons and coloring books, cars to play with and other things he can do to sitting still, but none keep him occupied for more than a minute before he's up racing around the room.
Any ideas to encourage nap? If not nap then help him learn to have down time?
As for bed, we've got a solid bedtime routine. The only change is that instead of nursing after we finish I try to lay with him. He screams and cries and pushes at me, saying, "go, go!" But if I leave him, he's up and at the door in a flash. Its turned into a game. If I stay he continues to cry and scream. We've tried having DH put him to sleep, but then he simply cries for me. And DH travels quite a bit, so its not a permanent solution anyways. The boys share a room, so laying with him and letting him cry until he falls asleep isn't a feasible solution.
I have no idea how to help him fall asleep. I offer to snuggle, rub back, sing a song. Nothing works! Its so upsetting and when he finally falls asleep over an hour later I'm an angry, frustrated mess.
If you've read this far- thank you! If you have any ideas- double thanks!