I aspire to be organized and have a tidy home. In my heart I really want this! But I wonder if it is possible to be a tidy clutter free person if you're not that way already.
My parents are pretty messy. Our home was always cluttered.
Once I started to live on my own I found that I could live with less clutter and stuff if I made the choice. For a year or two I even had a color coordinated closet!
But then the man I married was very messy. I would even say he was a boarder-line horder. You could not walk through his room with all of the clutter and there is one very large room that is completely filled with his books. He would get angry when I tried to put things away or clean the house because it was too disruptive. I was able to keep the clutter at bay in the main rooms, but never really tidy.
After 12 years that relationship has ended and I'm on my own now with two young children.
I want to start new. The house is now mine and I want to make it a beautiful place for myself and my girls. But there is still so much stuff here! I am feeling overwhelmed. I guess it is too much to ask of myself to move quickly through sorting and organizing with two small children (ages 5 y.o. and 8 months old). He has only been out for 4 months and it will take time to go through everything, especially with a young baby.
I can declutter and I can organize pretty well. I just seem to not be able to keep up with the changes and slowly the clutter comes back in and things get disorganized again. Some systems I set up work (like my linen closet stays fairly organized) but others (like papers and clothes) just don't seem to stick. Sometimes I feel like I just can't "see" what needs to be put away.
I guess I'm wondering if it really is possible to change. Even if I get rid of half of what I own, would I still find myself with piles of laundry on the floor and stacks of unruly paper? Can I really learn to be one of "those" people who seem to naturally keep a tidy house?
I think a large part of my sadness around this is I want something different for my children. I want them to have a calm and soothing home. And, I want them to learn how to care for their belongings. It seems to me that clutter is not a respectful way to care for what we have. I'd like for them to have a better chance than I did to learn this growing up. I have been able to keep the toys very minimal and have them arranged somewhat nicely. So that is something, I guess.
Has anyone who is messy by nature successfully changed their habits and been able to sustain that change over a long period of time? If so, how did you do it?!
Edited by MamaRuga - 2/27/13 at 7:32pm