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ds 6, becoming affectionate with males.

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Recently divorced here and while the kids see xdh regularly usually 1 overnight a week plus one evening.together, their relationship never really was the typical Ds father bonding experience I envisioned. Ds looks up to xdh but was always more of a mamas boy until dd came along, he started school, I found out xdh was cheating and I was not there as much emotionaly for Ds as I was in the past and xdh stepped up some. Their relationship is.a better than pre divorce but xdh gives dd a lot.more attention. I feel Ds gets jealous of xdh and dd .

Anyway I am seeing Ds is becoming affextionate toward men, ie will hug them. This has happened several times, with the pastor, his basketball coach, my uncle, a layman at the church. Xdh saidhe hugged a coworker of his, and xdh was not happy about it.

So is this normal, should I be concerned, just a phase, reactions to the divorce?
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I think that it's wonderful for kids to show spontaneous affection, and that your X is off-base to be jealous.  I think yes it's normal for kids to crave a real caring father figure, and to seek it out in others.   My kids developed a great affection for our neighbor- who recently moved, and now the kids are rather abandoned again.  Anyway, I encourage my kiddos to develop other relationships.  It's healthy.  Also, maybe the world would be a better place if adults also showed spontaneous affection?
 

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