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post #21 of 25

I would add another dimension to the definition.

I woudl say that for CLW to be 100% true, there should be no mother-child separation.

also no bottles, no pacifiers.

 

For example, I work2-3 days/week. When I am at home, baby has unlimited access to th breast day and night. But the fact that he can't nurse when I am not home (even if he is getting my milk in a bottle on demand), will result in premature weaning, even if weaning happens at 4-5 years, it would be still earlier then without separation with me.

 

I nursed DS1 until 2,5 years. We weaned during the 8th month of my second pregnancy. Now DS2 is 13 months old.

I really feel that DS1 weaned prematurely and I missed nursing as a parenting tool.

I hope that i would be able to nurse DS2 until he weans himself.....but I know it wouldn't be CLW, because I work outside (despite co-sleeping, night feeding on demand ect)
 

post #22 of 25
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Originally Posted by lilitchka View Post

I would add another dimension to the definition.

I woudl say that for CLW to be 100% true, there should be no mother-child separation.

also no bottles, no pacifiers.


 

IMO, this is not feasible. Moms are also humans, not machines.

No one could possible stay near their children for 3+ years, available day and night, not giving a pacifier, not leaving kids with family etc. I don't think anyone can do that.

 

I work full time, nightweaned around 2 y/o and ds CLW-ed (is this a word?) shortly after 4 y/o, and my 3.5 y/o dd is still nursing.

post #23 of 25

I know moms who do it for sure.

STAH moms or those who work from home and can stop to nurse the 2 or 3 year old when needed.

a lot would leave their kids only on occasions and for short periods of time (like 2-3 hours).

It has nothing to do with being a machine....it's just physiological.

 

but what I am doing: leaving my nurseling 3x10 hours / week is not CLW. I am convinced that it speeds up weaning, even if they end-up nursing 4-5 years. (they would have probably nursed longer or more frequently if I didn't work outside)

 

I don't think that CLW is necessarily desirable. Not for me.

But I think it is the ''physiological gold standard of our species''. It is not compatible with regular and long (more then 3-4 hour) mother-child separation.
 

 

I also think that ''weaning'', is not just the age of the last nursing session, but also the rate of decrease in nursing.

because I am working outside, my kids might decrease ''rapidly'' to 1 or 2 nursing sessions a day at age 2 or 3, but ultimately wean completely only at age 5.

post #24 of 25
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Originally Posted by lilitchka View Post


a lot would leave their kids only on occasions and for short periods of time (like 2-3 hours).

It has nothing to do with being a machine....it's just physiological.

 

Yup, that's what I mean. It's not physiological to never leave your kid's side until they decide to wean.

I also know moms who occasionally gave a bottle or a pacifier and then breastfed for 4+ years. An occasional bottle when the babies had troubles latching on doesn't make the process less of CLW.

post #25 of 25

I am a teacher and went back to work when my first daughter was 6 months old.  I used a pacifier and bottles when she would take them (she mostly didn't and just waited for me to get home).  I don't think she ever willing decreased the amount she nursed - I had to do so when I was pregnant but nothing I ever did made any impact on her desire to nurse.  She nursed for 5.5 years and at that point I decided that we were done because I also had a toddler nursing lots and logistically it wasn't working for us.  She is now almost 7 and told me that she would happily nurse again if I would let her.  I don't know how much longer the process would have been if I had been with her full time.  It seems like her natural weaning age would be around 12 :)

 

My son is now 2.5.  I went back to work when he was 5 months.  I also used a pacifier with him (they both stopped using it at about a year) and tried (and mostly failed) to use bottles.  He has no notion of cutting down nursing.  In his ideal world, I just sit on the couch all day and am available for constant snacking.  I put limits on this but like his sister, the minute I stop limiting access, he immediately will nurse more.  He is just like his sister in his nursing habits.  Maybe my milk is just super awesome and they can't resist.  I think if I did no limits/constant access child led weaning, they'd nurse forever.
 

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