Originally Posted by amlikam I am right on the NY boarder but lived practically in Charlton growing up. I also lived in Worcester and lots of my famil is there... SOOOO I know the area well. It is really nice there too!!!
I was on restriction because if the placenta was jostled the baby could die... it wasn't worth it... and bc I had so much spotting I was advised not to orgasim either. And to be honest, DH and I have been working on things so we weren't present emotionally to connect that way. We didn't want to confuse what was really present with the whole block it out by sex thing.
ummmmmm wow I would have freaked OUT!!! I hope it is a good time!!! distance always makes for the best reconnecting...
Yeah, I do see how sex can be a distractor for more important issues, so that makes sense. Too bad about no orgasms, though...when M's hoodly-hoo broke, that was our first intimacy of the whole vacay So we couldn't have any more. The Universe was surely testing us. We did try the next day, but it hurt too badly and he knew instinctively that it was a no-go. He could stand up, but not perform because of the pain. What it turned out to be was a tear in the fascia (or something...the next lining in from skin). That had to heal and it took a good long time. We managed to play a little in other ways (kissing and mutual self-stimulation, if that's not too graphic) but not too much. I didn't freak out as much as him-- after all, I don't own one. But HE really freaked out. I mean, far as I know, most men only get ONE of those, and he didn't want his broken-- can't blame him. And the problem is that we researched things like surgery, but since that deals with scar tissue, the probability of it getting worse as a result was large. So, we had to just leave it alone. But M's already lousy self-esteem really took a hit. Despite all my reassurance to the contrary, he was sure I would leave him over a broken hoodly-hoo. Um, nope. You are more than your parts, love. I wouldn't leave you for an amputated limb. I would not leave you for cancer (which he has-- CML in remission, and I'm not going anywhere). I would not leave you for this.
It WOULD make for the best reconnecting, except that like I said, he has issues, deep seated ones from his past, and sometimes I go up there and he finds all manner of things to do to put me off, like "We will, we will" and then (I think) builds up this huge performance anxiety, and when the doody hits the fan, he can't (or finds reasons not to, or gets mad at ME in deflection). So, last time I was up there, I got all kinds of serious and said unless you work on this, I am not coming up there. I don't see you for two or three months and you find reasons NOT to??? That's a deal breaker. I mean really
When the time comes, you can tell me all about that area, yay! Charlton/Dudley area appears to have the best schools...but man, it's not on the train line
Originally Posted by Kaydove
We're staying with DHs grandma cosleeping with DD so loving is few and far between. We need out of here!!!
There's no room for creativity? Dang. How long are you going to be there? How old is DD again? I remember just....hmm, working *around* ds sometimes. Gah. I didn't like it, but you have to work with what you have, kwim?
I'm all packed and ready to go All I have to do is get gas. Since I have extra time, I'm going to unmake ds's bed tomorrow and wash his sheets. Which is a HUGE pain because he has a loft. Ugh. But he's pubertal and it really needs to get done more often. Meh.