Hi fellow moms,
I'm almost in tears. I don't know what to do. I'm not a spanker, but I feel like "time outs" are meaningless at this stage. My son will be 3 in May, and he is a very sweet and affectionate boy. Recently, he's started "attacking" me in ways that a "time out" isn't strong enough for, I think. Yesterday, he didn't want to come inside, so he started throwing fistfuls of dirt at me and the baby, so I couldn't come near to him. Today, he got ahold of the blade in the baby blender, so I frantically tried to get it away from him, kneeling down (with the baby in the carrier) and he swung his arm back and literally stabbed me in the forehead with it. It gave me a good bloody gash, and also clipped the baby on the head. I didn't know what to do. I just said, "That's a timeout," brought him over to the timeout mat, and rushed off to the bathroom to stop the bleeding. I explained that it was an "ouch" and you shouldn't hurt Mommy, and he did seem concerned about my "boo boo." Later today, he was playing with rocks, throwing them from the place where they belong into our landlord's yard... so I said it was time to go inside, and he launch a rock up at me (also holding the baby).
He is also spitting at us & throwing toys, coloring pencils, anything at us if we try to ask hin to move them to another place or clean them up...always using a gentle tone.
What am I supposed to do? My landlord (who is German) said that American kids are spoiled these days,...and what they need is a good hard spanking. Spanking is actually illegal now in many European countries, and I've always been against it myself. But...how do I get this behavior to stop, and quickly? I can't allow him to hurt us...especially when his baby sister could get hurt.
Thanks for any suggestions!