I am having a big problem with my DD1. She is 2 3/4 y/o and until recently we hardly ever had a problem with her not even when her sister, now 10 month-old, was born. But in the last couple of weeks it is just getting worse on a daily basis. Whenever, wherever she pulls on her sister's hair, pushes her over, kicks her, pinches her, you name it. DD1 can't see DD2 touch or even go near any toys we have. This is so tiresome and exhausting to constantly keep them apart because DD2 wants to crawl and stand and play with the toys too. I basically cannot do anything in the house anymore. I keep telling her not to hurt her sister, I have tried time-outs (only have the bathroom available though) but after the 3rd time or so it did not bother her anymore, I tried leaving the room, take toys away, distract her, I even pulled DD1 hair once, not as hard as she does with DD2, but I don't want to hurt her and felt very bad about it. Def. a no-go. I want to raise my kids violent free, but these outbreaks of jealousy are just getting to a point where I do not recognize my own child anymore.
We do play a lot together like hide-and-seek, catch-me-if-you-can, we draw together, we sing a lot and use musical instruments. DD1 also plays by herself for small amounts of time. She makes up stories and enacts them with her dolls, legos or whatever she has on hand. Very creative but as soon as she sees her sister, she gets mean. She even hit my mom over the head with a wooden toy when I prevented her from hitting her sister with it. It looks like she needs an outlet for her anger or some type of anger management. I just don't know how. I do take them outside for a walk at least once a day but with the weather being so bad and basically we haven't had any sun in the last 2 month, it gets quite a challenge.
So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Did any of you have this happen with your own kids?