Hmmm that's weird, I tried to submit a post but it says it must be reviewed by a moderator. Fortunately I copied it beforehand...
Firstly, thank you all for the support. I may get a lawyer involved, I am not sure yet.
To be honest, even though they have had a lot removed, things could have gone worse with the circumcisions. Aesthetically, for circumcisions, I must admit, they have healed nicely. Their scars are mostly symmetric, and they haven't had any adhesions, or skin bridge etc. They also have not suffered from painful during erections after healing. Obviously, I wish this had never happened... but, now that we're stuck with it, at least the circumcisions turned out looking reasonably well.
Up until recently, I was getting both boys to apply lotion from their circumcision scars to the tips of their penises. My rational was that it would help prevent them from drying out, and losing sensitivity. I think keeping that sensitivity is why they kept being bothered by their genitals rubbing in underwear.
Maybe my ex was right -- maybe I was overreacting... I just don't know what to think.
Honestly...your 9 yr old showing his penis for no real reason to a girl at school because "she" was curious and then you saying maybe you were over reacting is making me think this is not real. Sorry if it is, but something seems fishy to me.