My husband and I see eye to eye on almost EVERYTHING- it is wonderful! With the birth of our first son, I had an incredibly positive, spiritual, pain-free, drug-free, intervention-free natural birth. It was just perfect in my mind! We had a midwife and a doula and my husband was the best birth partner anybody could ask for. The event took place at our hospital which is progressive and great for letting birthing women bring their midwives/doulas and letting us birth on our won without any 'hospital/medical stuff.'
So, now with this pregnancy, I really wonder why should go to the hospital? I am totally confident in my body and from my first experience with birth - I am very attracted to the idea of giving birth at home. There is midwife center in town that provides midwifes for home births and they have a great relationship with the hospital in town too, so should the need arise, they can move you to the hospital during birth with no problems. And we live 10 min from the hospital.
Okay, my problem is, I expressed my desire to birth at home this time and my husband said it made him really - really....really uncomfortable. He saw me give birth the first time so he knows, first-hand how wonderful it was for me- but I think he feels too nervous about the chances of something going wrong. I don't want to convince him because I wouldn't want him to convince me to go about this his way...and I do know that I cannot give birth with out him - he is the best birth partner and if he is nervous or on edge during birth at a home birth, well that isn't worth it-- I'd rather be in the hospital!! He has to be comfortable too- we're in this together!
So, yes, I don't want to convince him BUT-- I also feel really strongly about this and I think this may be our last baby, so it is my one and only chance to have a home-birth experience. I just think it could be incredible-- I know it could be-- and I don't want to have regrets. So, if anybody has any advice for me on how to see his side more, or how to help him feel comfortable with a home birth-- I'd greatly appreciated it. He is comforted by facts and studies and concrete medical information-- so if you have any links to stuff like that - that backs up the safety and smart choice of home birth --that would be helpful.