bmcneal - if it were me, I'd tell mom "thanks but no thanks" and ask my friend to please take care of it. You're not on good terms with your mom anyway, she's stressing you out and honestly, so what if her feelings are hurt. This is about YOU and celebrating YOUR baby.
AFM- by my u/s dates, I'm 36 weeks today. How did THAT happen!! My mw is coming for the home visit today and my house is trashed - relocating our shop plus the plague we've had for the last month has really put a damper on getting things sorted and situated. Thankfully dh and i are both home today to get stuff done and we have a couple of hours still before she's going to be here! EEK!