bmcneal - if it were me, I'd tell mom "thanks but no thanks" and ask my friend to please take care of it. You're not on good terms with your mom anyway, she's stressing you out and honestly, so what if her feelings are hurt. This is about YOU and celebrating YOUR baby.
AFM- by my u/s dates, I'm 36 weeks today. 
How did THAT happen!! My mw is coming for the home visit today and my house is trashed - relocating our shop plus the plague we've had for the last month has really put a damper on getting things sorted and situated. Thankfully dh and i are both home today to get stuff done and we have a couple of hours still before she's going to be here! EEK!
When she found out I was pregnant with DS (Because I didn't even tell her. She found out from one of the tellers at the bank. I'm not sorry.), she started telling everyone I should have an abortion. My foster mom (Who I refer to as my mom now, even though we don't get along for crap...) was the one who told her about this pregnancy. She hasn't said anything to me, but then again, beside the trip down there in January, I don't really talk to her. She's very negative, and controlling in a "feel sorry for me, I'm so helpless kind of way." (Part of me understands why she's this way; she's blind, and my grandparents never really taught her anything, they treated her like she would never amount to anything, then she was married for 26 years to my biological dad, who treated her like crap and was very abusive, as well as disabling her from doing things on her own, like hiding her clothes from her, leaving knives sitting out where she could get hurt by them, things like that. But that doesn't mean I approve of it.)
I think he filled them in, just a little with minimal details, later on. We do not plan on letting them know when we go into labor, and have a friend lined up to take care of DD. Just don't need that kind of energy projected on us or DD. Today I was considering not even telling them that the baby was born until we were able to come home from the NICU. I think I will already have a hard enough time without them hanging out worrying/being weepy. (We should only be there for about 3 days for observation and to get an initial dose of his/her medication worked out, but still..... the thought of my baby in the NICU is kind of freaking me out. I was offered to have a tour set up so I could check it out in advance, but I think I'm way too hormonal right now, and do not think I would handle it well.) Anyways, I doubt we would be able to wait until we came home to announce baby's birth to my IL.... For the rest of our LO's life they would be celebrating his/her birthday 3 days late. 
I really think it is still this medication I'm on, plus the stress of DH being gone for the next 4 days. I took my first dose of Zofran after dinner, (pre bagel) and will take it every day DH is gone, if I'm too nauseous. I need to be functioning for DD, all the farm animals need to be cared for and we have some sheep that are getting close to lambing. It will be a long 4 days. Luckily I do have some help coming (and no, it isn't my IL next door. Even if they knew he was out of town.... they are the generation that the farming gene skipped. They would watch DD for me, though, while I tried to get my pregnant body to haul water, lift buckets of feed and move hay bales. 
!!! I live across town (like 8 whole minutes!) from both my parents AND my DH's parents...sometimes it's awesome, and sometimes it's just...NOT. :P
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