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[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

Originally Posted by omphaloskepsis 

  !!! I live across town (like 8 whole minutes!) from both my parents AND my DH's parents...sometimes it's awesome, and sometimes it's just...NOT. :P

Similar here....besides being on the same property as my IL's, my ENTIRE family lives 15-45 minutes from us. Parents, silings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, some cousins, etc. It is totally a blessing to know my kids are growing up knowing all these people so well. There are certainly some frustrating times but overall I love it and wouldn't change a thing!

We are the same and I agree that it is mostly a blessing but at the moment these hormones are making me antisocial and bitchy. Do I really have to be nice to people being this pregnant? haha. I just really don't want to be bothered by people ATM.

[IronMam]

Bummer.

So, Calgary had a few warm days and now we're getting pounded by a winter storm that may leave us buried under almost a foot of snow. We had planned on going to the pool as a family (I have my pretnatal aqua fitness class on Sunday mornings, and thought it would be fun for ManDork and MiniDork to tag along and play while I work out). But it looked pretty iffy outside, so we called to see if the class was cancelled. Nope.

Well, it SHOULD have been. We almost got stuck on the entry ramp to the highway and ended up coming home. DH didn't think we'd be able to get home after another hour of snow. I'm really annoyed. There are only 5 classes total and now I've missed one. Plus we get the city's subsidized recreation prices, but I'm only allowed to apply the discount to one registration p/year. I really think they ought to have cancelled the class and given us a rain check for a later date. It's not fair to ask a bunch of pregnant ladies (or ANYBODY for that matter) to chose between getting the class they paid for or risk their lives on these roads.

I may bring it up next class and see if they will offer a solution of some sort. I mean, it's not like I just decided to stay home. We tried to get there, and almost went of the road going 5 miles an hour.

[MaineCoastMama]

Family stress, WHOA. 

My dad is still sulking/"not over" that I deleted his very dismissive and negative post about cloth diapering he made on my facebook page. 

Nothing I can do, he needs to get over it. Darned if I'll be apologizing for removing the rude comment, despite that it may have "hurt his feelings". 

How do you get over this stress that you can't do anything about? 

Cause right now it's kind of dominating my horizon.

[alaskanmomma]

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Family stress, WHOA. 

My dad is still sulking/"not over" that I deleted his very dismissive and negative post about cloth diapering he made on my facebook page. 

Nothing I can do, he needs to get over it. Darned if I'll be apologizing for removing the rude comment, despite that it may have "hurt his feelings". 

How do you get over this stress that you can't do anything about? 

Cause right now it's kind of dominating my horizon.

Why does he even care about cloth vs. sposies? That's always been one of those things I just don't get. If you think cloth is "yucky", than don't use them, and if you want to use them...do it haha! I'd tell your dad he can post what he wants on HIS Facebook, but in yours? No.

[MaineCoastMama]

Great question, momma- I can't figure that one out! 

It started when I had a dream about starting a cloth diaper boutique, and I posted that. And he posted something sarcastic about how poor I would be if I did that because cloth diapers are completely impractical for working mothers, in his view, and in general I think he thinks they're impractical. I posted that my MIL was requiring us to send disposables with the baby when she watches him and he said she had the right idea. I then deleted his post so cloth vs. disposable didn't become a huge FB drama and that's when he really lost it, claiming he was hurt. Also because I felt he was being intrusive and dismissive of a harmless choice that I've made to try to cloth diaper as much as possible.

I don't get it. You'd think I were talking about birthing in a makeshift shack somewhere...

Oh, yea. One time I posted on his facebook making a joke about some pants he had in the 80s and he seriously sent me a message that he didn't want his work colleagues to see it and not to make posts like that on his facebook. So I deleted it!

[BeanBean06]

I find that older family members get "defensive" and consequently VERY negative about anything you plan to do that is different than what they did... My aunt for example only breastfed her kids for 6 weeks. She found it isolating and preferred to set them in a bouncy seat and "prop" up the bottle so she could clean *eye roll*
Anyway, so anytime I talk about breastfeeding she laughs at me and says "right ok, we'll see how long that lasts..." RUDE! But I think hearing me be so excited and passionate abt it makes her feels guilty for not trying harder to make it work for her!

[MaineCoastMama]

Thanks for sharing your experience! That is definitely the way my parents, especially my dad, can be. His way is obviously the right way- after all, he's older, and has more experience! I'll see, just wait.

Yea, I think I'm going to rock some worlds between my parents and my MIL with the whole cloth diapers, breastfeeding, babywearing. I actually remember my MIL once saying that it was a problem that my husband wore his first daughter too much! I wonder if it's a generational gap that just can't be breached except by seeing us go through these things and see how it works for us.

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Thanks for sharing your experience! That is definitely the way my parents, especially my dad, can be. His way is obviously the right way- after all, he's older, and has more experience! I'll see, just wait.

Yea, I think I'm going to rock some worlds between my parents and my MIL with the whole cloth diapers, breastfeeding, babywearing. I actually remember my MIL once saying that it was a problem that my husband wore his first daughter too much! I wonder if it's a generational gap that just can't be breached except by seeing us go through these things and see how it works for us.

Oh we are def gonna be rocking worlds too! Lol everyone is already horrified we aren't doing a "nursery" cuz we want her in our room longterm. We have a crib and aren't exactly sure how our sleeping habits will look whether her in her crib in our room or just in our bed... But either way we know we want her with us! We get laughed at for that all the time! But I've lately been responding to blatantly rude comments with "well all I've been through to grow this baby and then I will labor and push her out! Ill decide where she sleeps! And how she eats! But thanks " lol they usually shut up after that! Lol

[MaineCoastMama]

Right on, BeanBean!

It's funny how often people ask "So, do you have the nursery ready?"

I reply, "No, he will share his sister's room eventually, but at least for the first 5 or 6 months he'll be in our room with us."

We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper all set up and ready to go!

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Right on, BeanBean!

It's funny how often people ask "So, do you have the nursery ready?"

I reply, "No, he will share his sister's room eventually, but at least for the first 5 or 6 months he'll be in our room with us."

We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper all set up and ready to go!

I find that funny too! It's like your some kind of caveman if you haven't painted and decorated a room for a tiny baby! (I have nothing against nurseries! I actually LOVE seeing people's and think they are gorgeous, it just isn't practical for us) Lol and I also get sympathetic looks from strangers who ask that, because they assume we must only have a one bedroom place! Lol nope! We have 4 actually lol we just want our baby with us! Why is that such a bizarre concept? Lol we plan to keep her with us til she is ready and prompts a move to her own room, at which point I think it will be super fun to decorate her room with her input

[TIFF4NY]

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

 will share his sister's room eventually, but at least for the first 5 or 6 months he'll be in our room with us."

We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper all set up and ready to go!

This is us exactly. Our DD will eventually move into her sisters room. But we have a Arms Reach co-sleeper setup as well. I know she might very well end up in our bed a bunch like DD1 did but at least this time we have a king size bed instead of our queen.

[Munchkin08]

Happy March everyone! 

[Cali2SC]

Originally Posted by camprunner 

We lived near DH's family for one year. It was all we could stand it.  The free baby sitting was nice but they wanted dd ALL. THE. TIME. and they expected to have input (read: their way) in her upbringing.  If they could not treat us as if we know nothing about children and life, it would help.  I'm at the point now though that with the baby, I intend to ask at the first criticism:  How many babies have you had?  2?  Well this is my fourth. I think my experience with babies might outweigh yours at this point.  My mom vows to keep her mouth shut though LOL :D

My ILs have been amazingly hands-off, keep most of their opinions to themselves.  (In return I try to overlook the fact that all of DD's clothes come back with chocolate ice cream stains on them, when they watch her at their place.)  I think they are just so thrilled that we moved back that they are afraid to push me too much, for fear that I will decide to pack up and move back to Cali with their son and granddaughter (soon to be grandchildren).    (Not that I ever said that.)  I probably wouldn't be that drastic, but that is my secret.    

 

MaineCoastMamma: I am so lucky that my dad is not on fb.  My ILs are though.  I figure seeing my liberal and crunchy posts are good for them.    Though I think DH has more or less blocked them for seeing anything he posts.

 

 

 

[Cali2SC]

Originally Posted by IronMam 
There are only 5 classes total and now I've missed one. Plus we get the city's subsidized recreation prices, but I'm only allowed to apply the discount to one registration p/year. I really think they ought to have cancelled the class and given us a rain check for a later date. It's not fair to ask a bunch of pregnant ladies (or ANYBODY for that matter) to chose between getting the class they paid for or risk their lives on these roads.

I may bring it up next class and see if they will offer a solution of some sort. I mean, it's not like I just decided to stay home. We tried to get there, and almost went of the road going 5 miles an hour.

I would totally bring it up.  Couldn't hurt.  Maybe see if you can talk to the head of the rec department, or whatever their title might be, as opposed to the instructor, if the instructor does not have the power to do anything.  Seems logical.  If nothing else, perhaps they can give you a credit towards another class.  Good Luck!

[alaskanmomma]

I happened to come across my birth photos with Sylas, and just felt like sharing.. the first time I got to really snuggle with little man :) Sorry about the small amount of areola shown, but hey.. could've posted the crowning hahah!

Edited by alaskanmomma - 3/4/13 at 12:53am

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Right on, BeanBean!

It's funny how often people ask "So, do you have the nursery ready?"

I reply, "No, he will share his sister's room eventually, but at least for the first 5 or 6 months he'll be in our room with us."

We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper all set up and ready to go!

I get that alot too, and I just respond "we have her sleeping arrangements all set".  But for me, it's because I don't want to explain that we only have 2 bedrooms and the boys' room is tiny so she will likely never be able to room with them and we can't afford to move for several years, so our bedroom is her permanent residence, indefinitely.  I think I feel bad that we don't have any plans for her to have a space to call her own, so I guilt-tripped myself into getting a nice mini crib and changing table and decorated the walls above her furniture a bit. Though in retrospect, the decorating is really for me... she's not going to care or see it really for a good 6-12 months.  I can understand the desire to set up a nice nursery and peoples' curiosity about what it's like since everyone's getting so creative nowadays, but really it's not practical and kinda silly if you know you won't be using it for some length of time. Waiting til you know what your specific baby needs/prefers is really a better way to go.

[omphaloskepsis]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

I happened to come across my birth photos with Sylas, and just felt like sharing.. the first time I got to really snuggle with little man :) Sorry about the small amount of areola shown, but hey.. could've posted the crowning hahah!

Awwww!! <3 Seriously, SUCH an adorable picture!

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

I happened to come across my birth photos with Sylas, and just felt like sharing.. the first time I got to really snuggle with little man :) Sorry about the small amount of areola shown, but hey.. could've posted the crowning hahah!

That's a great picture, alaskanmomma!

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Right on, BeanBean!

It's funny how often people ask "So, do you have the nursery ready?"

I reply, "No, he will share his sister's room eventually, but at least for the first 5 or 6 months he'll be in our room with us."

We have an Arm's Reach co-sleeper all set up and ready to go!

Everyone keeps asking me what do I need, or how am I going to get "everything you need" if I don't know whether we're having a girl or a boy. I'm like, really, we don't need much. Maybe a few more diaper covers/diapers, a breast pump (but DF's insurance will pay for one), some nursing supplies, and maybe a few more clothes items. Then they ask things like, "But what about a crib?" when I tell them we're going to co-sleep, they usually either tell me I'm going to regret it/not going to like it (like I haven't done it twice before?), or that it's not a good idea/safe/whatever. I guess a lot of people around here are with the "gotta have all the gadgets" mentality, while I just really want to stick to (mostly) the bare necessities, and I know DF would prefer that, too.

In other news, we're going to go get our marriage license sometime this week.  I'm excited, and a little nervous. I have to call to find out for sure, but I was reading online that a lot of places don't do JofP weddings anymore because of budget cuts, so I'm a little worried about if none here do them, where to go, since DF is Buddhist, and I'm (mostly) Christian, he doesn't think we could have a minister do it, since it would be inter-faith or whatever. So I'm really hoping that we can find someone to do it.

[firespiritmelody]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

In other news, we're going to go get our marriage license sometime this week.  I'm excited, and a little nervous. I have to call to find out for sure, but I was reading online that a lot of places don't do JofP weddings anymore because of budget cuts, so I'm a little worried about if none here do them, where to go, since DF is Buddhist, and I'm (mostly) Christian, he doesn't think we could have a minister do it, since it would be inter-faith or whatever. So I'm really hoping that we can find someone to do it.

When dh and I got married (11 years ago) we literally just opened the phone book and looked for "marriage officiant" or something like that. I'm sure google will be able to help you find someone - there should be plenty of people willing and able to do it, regardless of your faiths. I remember her fee being very reasonable too. Good luck!!

[Cali2SC]

Oh AlaskanMomma!  That is such a gorgeous and sweet photo!  Made me all teary.  Despite my other posts about all I still need to do before this little one arrives, I seriously can't wait to snuggle our new LO.  

bmcneal: when DH and I were married 10 years ago, we did something similar to firespiritmelody, only I think we googled non-dominational officiants, or something like that.  Our ceremony was outside, and not at all "religious," though I think it was still spiritual.  Oh and we wrote our own vows.  I skipped the whole "promise to obey..." or whatever it is.  It is no secret that I'm way to stubborn and strong willed for such nonsense.    Good Luck and Congratulations!