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Originally Posted by Lindsaylou View Post

Since I was on bed rest, my mom came up for a few weeks in Feb to help. She was going to come anyway so hubs and I could get away for a night before baby. Well that didn't work, but it was nice that she extended her stay to help out so much. She hasnt spent that much time with us before. When she was here, she sounded awful, and we figured it was her asthma kicking up and the cold, dry air here. Well she went home and found out it was fluid on her lungs. Then in just this short time found out it is cancer. In two places, near her ovaries and some near her lungs. I don't know all the details yet, but my sister said it will be nine weeks chemo, surgery, and then another nine weeks. Oh course she won't be traveling and I won't get down to see them until summer since they are 1000 miles away. I didn't let myself really process any of it until this morning and now I am having a pretty rough day. I know she is going through a lot, but is also trying to not make it hard on me. I feel bad for being the only one living far away and not able to help. I am bummed for her to not be able to meet her grandchild for who knows how long. My sister who is a midwife is supposed to come up for the birth, but I feel guilty if she is already missing work to help out with my mom's dr appts. Just a lot to process and I wish that I hadn't let myself start to process just yet.

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope she recovers quickly and that she can meet her new grandchild soon.

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Originally Posted by Greenlea View Post

 

I wanted to mention too, that I tried to do a cervical check on myself on Sunday. It just felt like mush in there. I did one at about 29 weeks and my cervix was long and hard and closed. What does it mean if its mush? I couldn't even feel to see if I was dialated, but I've been having so many cramps lately, I thought I would check. Who else here does checks on themselves? I didn't do it with the last 2 pregnancies though.

My cervix has been mush for weeks and I think I'm pretty effaced, but I can't tell if I'm dilated. My cervix is still up super high and I can't reach it very well. I assume shortening means effacing? I didn't check myself last pregnancy, so it's new to keep track of things this time.

 

I feel like I made a huge accomplishment today! I prepared 6 meals to go in the freezer that can go in the crock pot after baby is born! I was super crampy and had several contractions while I was prepping all that. I was on my feet for 2 hours straight. I also felt different emotionally/hormonally when I woke up this morning. First I was super crabby, then teary and emotional. I told DH about that and the cramps and ctx, and he was being really sweet, but said he's not quite ready. I'm not quite ready, either, but we're ready enough! I just have a few loads of laundry to finish and tomorrow I plan on cleaning DD's room while she's at school (AKA getting rid of a bunch of crap). The ctx have died down, but I'm having TONS of BH now. I think it'll be soon, but I suppose this could go on for weeks.

post #442 of 527
Stupid full moon is messing with me... Been cramping all evening. Boo.
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The Full Moon! That explains my silly incident of accidentally skating on a coat hanger down our hallway, create cause my legs to separate in split like fashion and landed me flat on the pile of laundry I was carrying (coat hanger was stolen by 2 year old who then put it on the floor as I'd unloaded the previous load).  It's hurt so bad it's had me lying down all night :(  I feel like my pelvis has been broken into a million pieces and hope I can walk without Dh's support soon! I need a walker at this point.

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Lindsay, Camprunner, I am sorry for your recent trials. May you (C) and your mother (L) heal well.
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I forgot to say thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers. Today has been better for the most part. Lots of distraction.  I'm sure there will be lots of ups and downs if life continues to take me down this path.

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Lindsay, so sorry to hear about your mom! Praying for you and your family! 

Camprunner, I hope you're okay! I've been pretty clumsy lately! Pretty sure that's normal! 

 

I have been SO ready to have a baby since about 30 weeks... now that I'm right at 36 weeks, I'm not so antsy about it anymore. Of course I'm excited, but I guess I realize how big of a change it's going to make and I'm not jumping the gun anymore. He can come when he's ready, but I'll enjoy these last few weeks with just DH and I. Not to say that I won't enjoy him when he gets here!!.. I just want him to be happy and healthy and I'm not pushing for him to get here any earlier than need be. 

His room is almost finished. Even though his crib will probably be used exclusively for nap time and I'll just use his room for diaper changes and storage.... as if every diaper will be changed on the changing table, he's my first and I felt like I just *needed* a nursery so bad. Here's the [almost] finished project: 

 

Please excuse the awful maroon carpet. We have plans to eventually change that, but we are waiting on it. 

 

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^^That looks like a great nursery! And don't worry, I changed my babies all the time on the changing table in their room. It was easier on my back than doing it on the couch or floor. Plus since I did cloth, I could just put the dirty diaper right into the bin next to the changing table.

 

I ordered my belly wrap today. I got a bengkung. I was going back and forth on which one to get (between that, the Squeem, and the Belly Bandit) and after realizing how much I need to slim down for my sister's wedding to fit in the bridesmaids dress, I went with the bengkung. I think I'll ask for a 'script for a c-section one at the hospital though too, so I have a slimmer one to wear out. I should get my bengkung in 2 weeks according to the website, hopefully they are right as I'll be 38 weeks by then. 

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How fun Bambi!

 

If we had a room to use as a nursery, I'd be setting one up too! It will have to wait until we move, which is no huge deal since Teddy will sleep in our room for now anyhow. I'm getting excited about moving - but antsy to find out WHEN and WHERE we are going. DH got on the wait list for Cincinnati (which we expected) and we probably won't see much movement on the list until mid may. We're hoping to hear from Toledo tomorrow (knock on wood) because the rumor is that they take about two weeks to notify post-interview, and that notifications go out on Thursdays. But Calgary (his top choice) doesn't notify until May 14th. So even if he gets in at Toledo, we won't know where we're going for sure until the middle of May. I really want to be closer to my family, but the Toledo tuition is SOOOOOOO much more expensive than Calgary, and it's a 4yr program vs. Calgary's 3yr.

 

Greenlea, I went with the Belly Bandit, mostly because I got it in one big order with other things (like the Shrinxx hip shrinker thingy) and wanted to be able to combine shipping. It ended up blowing up in my face though because I got charged a RIDICULOUS fee on delivery. Then, after the fact, I looked up some reviews of customer service from this company (One Step Ahead) and saw that I'm not the first person to get hosed by their shipping policies. Oh well.

 

It's a beautiful day today. I even have the porch door open a bit. It's almost 50F. <3   I hope it stays nice from here on out, but in Calgary, you never know. They say if you don't like the weather in Calgary, just wait ten minutes.


Edited by IronMam - 3/27/13 at 10:16pm
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I am soooooooo ready it's driving me crazy.  I keep reassuring myself that no matter what I shouldn't still be pregnant in another month (hopefully not! LOL).  But still, 3 and 4 weeks feels like ages....it's like starting all over again!  I am upset with myself for feeling this way, as each pregnancy I swear I'm going to get better about being content at the end.  

 

Am concerned about the possibility that I might be getting a yeast infection....I haven't been nursing during this pregnancy so it's harder to gauge my body's level of systemic candida (lots easier when thrush is so obvious), so I'm basically working blind here, but I birthed DS with a YI and I believe it contributed to all sorts of issues with him since he wasn't well colonized from the birth. (dental issues, some digestive issues, some skin issues, and of course....months and months of thrush to no avail!!!).  So I'm not messing around and am treating it accordingly.  Usually I'm a straight to Monistat sort of girl (because I'm not going to take the time to experiment) but since if it IS a YI it's in the early stages- I'm not even itchy or dry feeling...yet- I'm doing garlic cloves up there as well as coconut oil suppositories mixed with probiotic powder.  Also upping my Candex and probiotic intake.  I sort of wonder if birthing at the tail end of a monistat treatment had some adverse affects on DS as well, so I figure I'd MUCH rather a baby come out through coconut oil and probiotics, even if there is a little yeast left, than chemicals. LOL

post #450 of 527
Had my 36 week midwife appointment today(half way through the week haha!) baby is VERY low, she said she'll be surprised I go much longer. We talked about the ideal birth, complications, etc. today and DH was so out of it, playing on his tablet, not paying attention, etc. when he would talk, he was a complete moron. Ugh. I let him know how he behaves is embarrassing to me(this is the way he acts more often than not) so he got all pissed off and went to bed instead of grabbing us dinner like our plans were...so I'm stuck eating a freezer burnt hot pocket since I have to go grocery shopping. So pissed off >greensad.gif
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Thanks everyone.  I'm getting better from my fall. It was rough going last night and this morning. DH was literally have to support my weight as I walked but tonight I cleaned our bathroom and everything seems good except getting in and out of bed and rolling over.  I probably won't be squatting when I have this baby unless things improve a lot!  Even the acceptance issues are getting better very slowly.  That part will take some time.

 

In other news, I'm not ready to have this baby. The pregnancy has gone by so quick that most of the time I don't even feel the excitement and anticipation :(  In a lot of ways I think it would be good if she was actually a little late. Plus our house still needs to be a lot cleaner.  Tonight I was thinking that the baby  can't be born until I can clean my house but I wasn't sure I'd be physically able until after she was born and then started cleaning the bathroom so hopefully I'll get it all cleaned up.

post #452 of 527
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

Had my 36 week midwife appointment today(half way through the week haha!) baby is VERY low, she said she'll be surprised I go much longer. We talked about the ideal birth, complications, etc. today and DH was so out of it, playing on his tablet, not paying attention, etc. when he would talk, he was a complete moron. Ugh. I let him know how he behaves is embarrassing to me(this is the way he acts more often than not) so he got all pissed off and went to bed instead of grabbing us dinner like our plans were...so I'm stuck eating a freezer burnt hot pocket since I have to go grocery shopping. So pissed off >greensad.gif

Alaskanmomma, I am sorry about your dh. I had to almost take my dh by the scruff of the neck and shake him to knock him out of the panic/denial loop he was creating for himself rather than supporting me. I explained that the only only only job he has right now is to be my rock and support, my loving partner andhis continued trajectory was undermining what I needed from him. So, all that just so I could get him to come to bed rather than panic about painting the guest/baby's room. Mind you, I'd been having strong BH eery five minutes for hours that night.

He has gotten better since that talk.

I say "no" and "stop" a lot more now. Everything is through the lens of "will this move us towards our birthing time?" Perhaps a disappeared tablet and a frank discussion with your dh will change things for the better? And by discussion, I mean list of demands regarding your expectations for his behavior and how it will now support your needs. Might not work with your dh or your own style but I am grateful it worked for us.

Hope that was helpful/made sense.
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Bambi, I think it looks great! The colors are very nice as well. Blue and brown are great boy colors :)

 

GreenLea, what does a wrap do post partum? I didn't hear of those until I posted here.

 

IronMam, that has to be frustrating having to wait. I hope he gets the one you all want!

 

1babysmom, hopefully everything is OK. doesn't sound fun to get a YI during pregnancy.

 

AlaskanMomma, I would be upset as well.

 

CampRunner, its never fun to fall, especially while pregnant! Hoping your still doing alright.

 

 

I had my last OB appointment today! BP was good, babies heart rate was great. The Dr didn't understand why they wouldn't schedule my c-section for tomorrow. I told her b/c medical card wont pay for it before 39 weeks, which I wont be til Saturday. She said she hates that they do that to moms. So 5 days, she will be here :D

post #454 of 527
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Originally Posted by JennJenn84 View Post

what does a wrap do post partum? I didn't hear of those until I posted here.

 

I forget which post we had a discussion about it.. but anyways, wrapping/binding can do a couple things, including providing support when your abdomen feels all mushy and out of sorts after delivery, and can sometimes help your waist and hip area return  to "normal" size/shape.  Since you're having a c-section, I bet you can ask the hospital for one, if they don't hand one to you already... since it's supposed to help with incision support. 

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I'm so sorry LindsayLou.  I hope your mom recovers well.  hug2.gif

post #456 of 527
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

Had my 36 week midwife appointment today(half way through the week haha!) baby is VERY low, she said she'll be surprised I go much longer. We talked about the ideal birth, complications, etc. today and DH was so out of it, playing on his tablet, not paying attention, etc. when he would talk, he was a complete moron. Ugh. I let him know how he behaves is embarrassing to me(this is the way he acts more often than not) so he got all pissed off and went to bed instead of grabbing us dinner like our plans were...so I'm stuck eating a freezer burnt hot pocket since I have to go grocery shopping. So pissed off >greensad.gif

that's great that Calliope's on her way!!! but so sorry to hear that about your dh... add me to the list of those frustrated with their dh's.   

Last night after I finally got the kids asleep, I headed downstairs to start my work, and passed dh heading up to go to bed. He's like, "what's there to do?" Oh, only 2 loads of laundry going, dirty dishes everywhere, all the toys and stuff need to be cleaned and disinfected (we're still fighting off illness and pink eye) garbage has to go out to the dumpsters...   and would you believe he kept on his way up to bed? As if he thinks I summon little elves to clean the house every night.  And since he's asleep by the time I finally lay down, I'm missing all my opportunities for all that sex to help the cervix business.... ugh. and he cannot be woken up either.  not for me, not for a crying baby soon. But.... he'll wake up for his iphone! irked.gif  I'm hoping he'll step up once the baby's here.  

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So a couple of updates from me....

 

I was talking to my sister and trying to finalize her plans for coming out to help around the birth of our LO, and she announced that she is now expecting too!  She is about 5-6 weeks.  I'm so excited!  Kind of bad timing for her, since she will be moving in with us while her DH does his federal officer training (4 months) plus his stint at another state park (an additional 4 months) before they can go home.  This means that she won't get to see her midlife, who she loves.  I think we can hook her up with our midwife here for the first 4 months.  No idea where they will be for the second 4 months.  If it is on this side of the country, there is a chance that she will have her second home birth in our home.  Did I mention how excited I am?!  So after I recover from birthing this LO, I can help take care of my sis!  joy.gif

 

A little less exciting, but kind of funny.  At our last appointment the u/s tech did growth measurements, in addition to checking on baby's heart.  Baby is measuring average, but his/her head is measuring about 2 weeks ahead!  It sounds like this is a Jones baby after all!!! (MIL informed me when I was preg with DD that the Jones babies have large heads.- WTH?!)  bigeyes.gif  ROTFLMAO.gif  Still a big head should be easier than a hand by the head, like DD, right? redface.gif  and then after I birth the head the rest should be really easy, right?  Oi!

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Originally Posted by Cali2SC View Post

So a couple of updates from me....

 

I was talking to my sister and trying to finalize her plans for coming out to help around the birth of our LO, and she announced that she is now expecting too!  She is about 5-6 weeks.  I'm so excited!  Kind of bad timing for her, since she will be moving in with us while her DH does his federal officer training (4 months) plus his stint at another state park (an additional 4 months) before they can go home.  This means that she won't get to see her midlife, who she loves.  I think we can hook her up with our midwife here for the first 4 months.  No idea where they will be for the second 4 months.  If it is on this side of the country, there is a chance that she will have her second home birth in our home.  Did I mention how excited I am?!  So after I recover from birthing this LO, I can help take care of my sis!  joy.gif

 

A little less exciting, but kind of funny.  At our last appointment the u/s tech did growth measurements, in addition to checking on baby's heart.  Baby is measuring average, but his/her head is measuring about 2 weeks ahead!  It sounds like this is a Jones baby after all!!! (MIL informed me when I was preg with DD that the Jones babies have large heads.- WTH?!)  bigeyes.gif  ROTFLMAO.gif  Still a big head should be easier than a hand by the head, like DD, right? redface.gif  and then after I birth the head the rest should be really easy, right?  Oi!

 

My daughter was nuchal presentation (hand by the mouth) and my son was 10lb.  It took 2.5hours to push her out and less than 10 minutes to push him out! 

 

I want my sister to be pregnant!!

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Originally Posted by Cali2SC View Post

So a couple of updates from me....

I was talking to my sister and trying to finalize her plans for coming out to help around the birth of our LO, and she announced that she is now expecting too!  She is about 5-6 weeks.  I'm so excited!  Kind of bad timing for her, since she will be moving in with us while her DH does his federal officer training (4 months) plus his stint at another state park (an additional 4 months) before they can go home.  This means that she won't get to see her midlife, who she loves.  I think we can hook her up with our midwife here for the first 4 months.  No idea where they will be for the second 4 months.  If it is on this side of the country, there is a chance that she will have her second home birth in our home.  Did I mention how excited I am?!  So after I recover from birthing this LO, I can help take care of my sis!  joy.gif


A little less exciting, but kind of funny.  At our last appointment the u/s tech did growth measurements, in addition to checking on baby's heart.  Baby is measuring average, but his/her head is measuring about 2 weeks ahead!  It sounds like this is a Jones baby after all!!! (MIL informed me when I was preg with DD that the Jones babies have large heads.- WTH?!)  bigeyes.gif
  ROTFLMAO.gif
  Still a big head should be easier than a hand by the head, like DD, right? redface.gif
  and then after I birth the head the rest should be really easy, right?  Oi!

My LO's head measures THREE weeks ahead!! LOL. Ds was the same, though. I pushed him out in 2 quick pushes (less than 2 minutes) and seriously we had no idea how large his head was until we meaured it (15.5"! My girls were 13").

Gotta say though, 15.5" was still bigger than my friends babies (2 of them) heads and nuchal hands combined! LOL
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I'm going nuts today! DH has me under strict instructions to NOT check his e-mail so he can be the one who gets the (potential) admin e-mail first. But he's at work, so he can only check from time to time.

 

There's no way to know if he actually *will* hear anything today. But I am still going batty waiting and wondering. He's going to call the second he gets news. He called earlier this morning about something else and I about had a fit when I heard the phone ringing. lol

 

DD and I are going to bake lots of cookies today. Hopefully that will serve as a distraction. We're going to make choc. chip (which I'm craving) and Snickerdoodles (which is DP's favorite). That way, if he gets an acceptance today, he has cookies to celebrate - or if he doesn't hear anything, or gets bad news, he has cookies with which to drown his sorrow. :)

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