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[stormysky]

Alaskanmomma, you scared me. When I opened that post on my ipod, I thought you had given birth!

[Greenlea]

No nursery here either. DS1 co-slept until 5 mths and DS2 co-slept until 12 mths.  We only have a 2 BR right now, and the boys are together in the one BR, so baby will be in our room for a while.  I remember when I brought DS1 home from the hospital, DH and I were going to bed and I put DS1 in the cradle next to my bed and tried to sleep and it just felt weird not being right next to my baby.  I did get over that initial feeling eventually and he would sleep PT in the cradle though.  I am lucky in that my mom & MIL both extended breastfed & cloth diapered so I really don't get any grief over that.  I tend to not let people's comments about how we choose to raise our kids get to me. To each their own - I'm not going to change my ways for them anyways, so I don't let it bother me.

I went through my NB stuff over the weekend and its getting me super excited for baby. Only 8 weeks (hopefully less) to go. I need to clean out 1/2 my dresser to make room for baby's things (as we don't have room for another dresser) and still need to get my cloth diaper stash ready, but I feel mostly ready for baby (other than getting the van but we're working on that).  We went for a hospital tour yesterday and oh.my.gosh I am in love with this hospital. I was a little worried as since my last birth was a homebirth, I wanted this hospital birth to feel as "homey" as possible. Everything for baby is done in the room, including PKU & hearing tests.  If baby needs to go to the "nursery" for any type of emergency its a private nursery room where I can stay at too - not a large nursery with tons of babies in it.  Also the birthing tub in the room looks awesome and has jets for relaxing - something I'm definitely going to utilize.

How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

Unless we change our mind when we meet him, we're going with either:

Theodore Keith Spencer <our last name here>

or 

Theo Keith Spencer <our last name here>

I'm not a huge fan of how the two middle names flow...but Keith is my grandfather's name, and Spencer is my husband's brother and best friend. So, the sentimental reasons outweigh the awkward two-middle names thing.

I'd prefer Theodore, but both DH and I don't like the meaning of the name. But just Theo, one could argue, is derived from the Germanic roots instead of the Greek - and would mean "Leader of the People" which we're fine with. I'm willing to ignore the meaning of the longer name (which is from the Greek). But it was really bothering DP. He said we can decide for certain when the time comes.

And Teddy would be a nickname.

[1babysmom]

We have never had a nursery either. Even if we had a room in the house to so it (or heck, a SPACE in a room! LOL) we wouldn't. Baby sleeps with us for ~2 years, and then the kids share a room anyway.

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

I don't have any. Not one. And it's bothering me a little bit. I know some names I like, but... none of them seem like the name for *this* baby. 

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 


How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

I love all your choices! Especially Olive & Amelia were on our list!

Maxwell is super cute too!

The name we've chosen for this baby is Mira Klaire

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

In other news, we're going to go get our marriage license sometime this week.  I'm excited, and a little nervous. I have to call to find out for sure, but I was reading online that a lot of places don't do JofP weddings anymore because of budget cuts, so I'm a little worried about if none here do them, where to go, since DF is Buddhist, and I'm (mostly) Christian, he doesn't think we could have a minister do it, since it would be inter-faith or whatever. So I'm really hoping that we can find someone to do it.

Find a UU minister. They'll probably be more than happy to officiate. UU congregations have no set doctrine or dogma. We're atheists and belong to our local UU church for the community. 

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Bummer.

So, Calgary had a few warm days and now we're getting pounded by a winter storm that may leave us buried under almost a foot of snow. We had planned on going to the pool as a family (I have my pretnatal aqua fitness class on Sunday mornings, and thought it would be fun for ManDork and MiniDork to tag along and play while I work out). But it looked pretty iffy outside, so we called to see if the class was cancelled. Nope.

Well, it SHOULD have been. We almost got stuck on the entry ramp to the highway and ended up coming home. DH didn't think we'd be able to get home after another hour of snow. I'm really annoyed. There are only 5 classes total and now I've missed one. Plus we get the city's subsidized recreation prices, but I'm only allowed to apply the discount to one registration p/year. I really think they ought to have cancelled the class and given us a rain check for a later date. It's not fair to ask a bunch of pregnant ladies (or ANYBODY for that matter) to chose between getting the class they paid for or risk their lives on these roads.

I may bring it up next class and see if they will offer a solution of some sort. I mean, it's not like I just decided to stay home. We tried to get there, and almost went of the road going 5 miles an hour.

I think we are getting the snowstorm you had. We are in MN. I didn't really beleive them it would snow because all of last week they were saying it was suppose to be above freezing all week so I figured it would all be rain. NOPE! It's blizzarding.....  We have a meeting tomorrow evening and it is suppose to still be doing this then so I am hoping they will cancel it.

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Family stress, WHOA. 

My dad is still sulking/"not over" that I deleted his very dismissive and negative post about cloth diapering he made on my facebook page. 

Nothing I can do, he needs to get over it. Darned if I'll be apologizing for removing the rude comment, despite that it may have "hurt his feelings". 

How do you get over this stress that you can't do anything about? 

Cause right now it's kind of dominating my horizon.

Why does he even care about cloth vs. sposies? That's always been one of those things I just don't get. If you think cloth is "yucky", than don't use them, and if you want to use them...do it haha! I'd tell your dad he can post what he wants on HIS Facebook, but in yours? No.

I totally agree. Why.do.they.care??? I try to not be too outspoken or overly open about what we use or do, etc., with our kids/family/beliefs/whatever so I really don't get when someone drills you for personal info and then gets all grossed out or offended. YOU ASKED! AND IT DOESN'T EFFECT YOU!

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

I find that older family members get "defensive" and consequently VERY negative about anything you plan to do that is different than what they did... My aunt for example only breastfed her kids for 6 weeks. She found it isolating and preferred to set them in a bouncy seat and "prop" up the bottle so she could clean *eye roll*
Anyway, so anytime I talk about breastfeeding she laughs at me and says "right ok, we'll see how long that lasts..." RUDE! But I think hearing me be so excited and passionate abt it makes her feels guilty for not trying harder to make it work for her!

Older family members are so weird about this stuff. My cousin was EBFing her daughter and her daughter was smaller than average. Well, of course everybody was talking behind her back about how the baby wasn't getting enough to eat. It turns out that her baby had a hole in her heart and a kinked aorta and shouldn't have lived beyond a few days and the problems were never caught until she was 8 months. I hope all those nay-sayers felt really dumb.

Also, my mom had a pretty smug look on her face when I finally did start bottle feeding my daughter. Like, 'I knew you wouldn't/couldn't do it.' So supportive (NOT).

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama 

Thanks for sharing your experience! That is definitely the way my parents, especially my dad, can be. His way is obviously the right way- after all, he's older, and has more experience! I'll see, just wait.

Yea, I think I'm going to rock some worlds between my parents and my MIL with the whole cloth diapers, breastfeeding, babywearing. I actually remember my MIL once saying that it was a problem that my husband wore his first daughter too much! I wonder if it's a generational gap that just can't be breached except by seeing us go through these things and see how it works for us.

Oh we are def gonna be rocking worlds too! Lol everyone is already horrified we aren't doing a "nursery" cuz we want her in our room longterm. We have a crib and aren't exactly sure how our sleeping habits will look whether her in her crib in our room or just in our bed... But either way we know we want her with us! We get laughed at for that all the time! But I've lately been responding to blatantly rude comments with "well all I've been through to grow this baby and then I will labor and push her out! Ill decide where she sleeps! And how she eats! But thanks " lol they usually shut up after that! Lol

Oh, I just can't wait for the comments and looks of terror if I have a successful UC. It will be super funny! DD moved into her new big girl room and I turned the little tiny bedroom that was the nursery into a playroom and DH's grandma was all, "But won't you need it for the baby!?!?!?!?!" She was clearly certain I had forgotten I was 6 months pregnant and that babies obviously need there own room immediately after birth. I told her that the baby would be sleeping with us for a while and then sharing a room with sister when she was old enough.

With DD, I had a babyshower after she was born. She was 8 weeks old I think then. DH's aunt was horrified and very confused as to why I was still breastfeeding her..... She is 8 weeks old not 8 years old! And again, why does this worry you?

[BaileyB]

Oops I totally missed that there was another page to read through.

I have been having some anxiety lately every time I look at my calendar. I will be 33 weeks on Friday and it is freaking me out quite a bit. But then I have days where I am all gung ho to have her. Even though this baby was planned and is def wanted, this whole pregnancy I have been having moments of wondering if I really do want 2 kids or not. I mean, I know I do but I think I am just nervous to go from 1 to 2. 1 has been so easy. I think physically I am ready to be done with this pregnancy but my brain needs a little bit more time to process having another.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

Oh, I just can't wait for the comments and looks of terror if I have a successful UC. It will be super funny!

After our first UC everyone thought it was an accident (I had a MW for a few prenatals for that pregnancy....but she was 3 hours away....). It was so funny, when we went to church 2 days later the pastor was telling everyone how "the midwife didn't make it so L (hubby) caught the baby..." and everyone gasped an turned and looked at me like I was only there by some miracle!

Anymore people don't really comment on our choice to continue UC'ing. I usually get a few "are you having a midwfe this time" questions, but anymore with all the midwifery law changes around here it is easier to say no (because I probably couldn't get one if i wanted to!). I think a lot of people just think I am irrespobsible and over confident just because I have had a couple successful UC's. oh and it is often voiced that people are "so glad" DH and MIL have been here for the births an that FIL is available if needed. It IS a huge blessing to have these incredibly knowledgable and experienced people available to support me, but I hate the implication that without them I (or baby) would surely die or something. Especially since I birth pretty much completely on my own anyway.

[cagnew]

No nursery here either. We use a co-sleeper. When the baby is older and we are all ready, he or she will move in with either the girls or DS. It's funny because when all is said and done, a newborn really needs very little. The HUGE money-making baby industry has successfully made most women think that babies need a bunch of crap. Sadly, I think that deters people from having children when they otherwise might- they think it's way too expensive. 

A friend of mine is coming over to do the Webster technique on me. She said her chiropractor taught her how to do, so I am going to give her a try before I start begging a professional to do it. I'm 34 weeks and I just want to be as pro-active as possible getting this baby to go head down. I am going to let my chiropractor (who doesn't do webster) try accupuncture, and keep doing all the spinning babies stuff.

We might have a boys name, but so far no complete girls name.

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

Oops I totally missed that there was another page to read through.

I have been having some anxiety lately every time I look at my calendar. I will be 33 weeks on Friday and it is freaking me out quite a bit. But then I have days where I am all gung ho to have her. Even though this baby was planned and is def wanted, this whole pregnancy I have been having moments of wondering if I really do want 2 kids or not. I mean, I know I do but I think I am just nervous to go from 1 to 2. 1 has been so easy. I think physically I am ready to be done with this pregnancy but my brain needs a little bit more time to process having another.

Me too, at least the mental stuff. Physically I'm doing OK and I'm NOT ready to be done since I know this is the last time I'll get to feel little kicks and wiggles and stuff. It's so weird. Sometimes I just turn to DP and say "there is a PERSON...INSIDE me. How weird is that?"

[JennJenn84]

Add me to the list of ready to be done! I am 35 weeks and 2 days today and sooooo over it! Every day for the last 2 weeks, I have had at least 3 BH's a day. Its gotten to the point that at work, I don't think I can work very long. I have to work 4-12 toniiht and that's going to suck! I am going to see if my Dr will give me a statement that I need my hrs reduced (I am down to 3 days a weeks as is, but my body just can't handle the long hrs.) I only have 4 week left anyways. I need the money obvisouly, but in this case not only my health, but babies is more important. I just hope my boss doesn't give me crap over it.

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

It's so weird. Sometimes I just turn to DP and say "there is a PERSON...INSIDE me. How weird is that?"

YES! Sometimes I find myself thinking... That's not a PERSON moving around in there! NO WAY! Maybe my bowels are just acting up LMBO!

Or I think... It's just a baby... Not like a PERSON! Like a little babe that won't eventually be a grown child... My mind is doing crazy things the closer I get LOL

[omphaloskepsis]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

Oh I love Gwendolyn, Amelia, AND Olive!! So, so cute! I'm set on a girl's name (Beatrice), but I'm still going back and forth with a boy's name. I'm not feeling really stressed about it, though. I think if it's a boy, he'll probably just either wait a day or two for a name, or it will be really obvious right away which name is *his*. Either way, the baby won't care, right?? lol...

[bmcneal]

I had an appointment today.  Everything looked good.

I asked him about my platelets, since the other OB said they were really low. He checked and said, "Oh, I just skimmed right over it, because they're in normal range now. Which is a little abnormal, because you're pregnant, and they're going up." He didn't seem too concerned about it, just mentioned that it can cause excessive bleeding. But the count went from 114 to 136 since the last OB tested, and that was in October, so I think I'll be okay? I hope so.

[alaskanmomma]

Thanks everyone <3 Those pictures always get to me, but I think with being SO close to having the baby and just the fact that sweet little baby is my wild 3 year old sent me in this huge emotional roller coaster lol. As much as I'm wanting her to stay in for at least 5-6 more weeks, I'm super anxious to get the ball moving. 

Add me to another one of those without a nursery! We have a gorgeous bassinet, but well, we'll see how long it's used lol. Both kids had a pack n play or bassinet but ended up bedsharing with us. I -do- want to use the bassinet more often than not, but with a demanding newborns nursing schedule and 2 other little kids, we'll see how long it lasts before I just plop baby on the boob and fall asleep. 

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

How are you guys on names? We have a short list of either Gwendolyn, Amelia, or Olive. I'm leaning towards Olive and DH is leaning towards "whatever you want because I know you're going to change your mind once its born anyways" LOL.  For a boy I was set on Maxwell but am changing my mind once again and I need to come up with a list I like.

I love Gwendolyn and Maxwell, too cute! Calliope is definitely our first name, but I go back and forth with Meadow and Mila for a middle name. I love both! 

[TIFF4NY]

Argh.... Yesterday I had very obvious hiccups right down near my cervix and now they are up high under my right boob. Does that mean she's turned? I hope she goes back down if she has. I really don't know how to tell for sure. 

[velveeta]

Originally Posted by TIFF4NY 

Argh.... Yesterday I had very obvious hiccups right down near my cervix and now they are up high under my right boob. Does that mean she's turned? I hope she goes back down if she has. I really don't know how to tell for sure. 

Even an experienced MW can't know for *sure*. Those hiccups can be deceiving, as can punches or kicks...

I hope your baby is still vertex. My third child was undiagnosed breech. This pregnancy, my baby was breech until 35 weeks. If you suspect breech, maybe you'd like to have your healthcare provider offer an opinion and depending on confidence, confirm or not via u/s.

At this stage, there are still many interventions available. Webster, moxibustion, hypnosis, homeopathy...

Of these interventions, chiropractic Webster technique can be used effectively whether you know the baby is breech or vertex. In other words, Webster creates an optimal environment for a vertex baby, but won't encourage an already vertex baby to turn breech. I highly recommend it!

Good luck!

[MountainMama15]

Don't forget spinningbabies.com for optimal fetal positioning. Can't hurt (turn baby the wrong way) and might help!

I find the hands and knees position and inverted hands and knees relaxing.