Originally Posted by lyterae
Annie - As the others have already said trust your instincts but Ben is almost 25 months and just started talking. Colors, numbers, and letters aren't even on the radar right now. :)
I got a positive test today, slightly terrified! We haven't decided when to tell Becca/make it public.
Yes, I wanted to chime in on that. I know Tenley is the young end of the babies here, but even at her age, I hear about other babies who are making appropriate animal noises, or pointing to the right colors, or counting, and know what their names look like, etc etc. And I read that and scrunch up my face and go Really?!?! But I can honestly say I have put NO effort into -teaching- her any of those things either. She knows that puppies are fun. She knows that her dress is pretty. She knows crackers taste good, and she can lay her head back in the bath. The rest of it? Meh... eventually she'll start picking those things up, but I'm not worried if she can't say her alphabet and count to 20 by the time she hits 3, you know? Obviously, I totally see your concern, and why getting the information is a good thing, even a really good thing, and why it would be on your radar more, because you're watching for Noonans, but honestly it doesn't sound like she's really off the development chart. She's just developing in other ways, and eventually those will slow down, and the other things will take over. A balancing act, I suppose.
YAYYYY Lyterae! We will certainly celebrate with you!
Originally Posted by akind1 Almost like explaining why some people choose to eat meat. It's not entirely the same, but for people like yourself that hold vegan ism as a strongly held belief, maybe that works as an analogy.
Theo is back at birthweight and I am back in pre pregnancy jeans! Woot!
I like that way of describing things, especially since it's something she'll be familiar with. This is how mama does things, but there are going to be other people out there who believe and/or do differently, and that's ok, as long as we're all respectful of one another.
Whoot indeed!! I'm still not really back in prepregnancy jeans. lol
Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes
re:religion I just don't know it's necessary to explain much other than the basics to the kids since we aren't religious at all. N and I have been having good talks lately about it. She was asking why ppl go to church and what they do there, and after i explained it she said she wanted to go someday. I said that's totally fine if she chooses to do that. She asked if I would go with her, and I said I might, but I don't think I'd enjoy it much b/c it's just not what I personally believe. That I've already been many times and it didn't feel right to me. But she's open to make that choice and see.
Just lots of really good talks with her lately. She's really having some deep thoughts, especially about life and death.
I suppose I just feel odd b/c ppl are starting to do easter things and then ask why I'm not explaining the holiday, and passover, and all that. Do I feel I should? No. But I just wanted opinions b/c I wonder if it's something I'm ...idk....obligated to explain? Does that make sense?
I don't think it's something you're 'obligated' to explain at all. That said, it might be helpful for her to see it from an 'outside' view almost. Like- this is what we celebrate. Some people believe this story that .... etc etc. We don't believe that, but that's why some people celebrate this holiday. Here in our house we do --- eggs, and a bunny etc. You could also go over some of the Pagan traditions too, which might help explain more about how some of the symbolism ties together, but I'd take your cue from her and see what she's interested in hearing. For her, it might be ok to just say "Some people who are christians celebrate Easter as the day when they believe Jesus (died/rose from the dead/etc however you think you can explain it without freaking her out). We don't believe that, but it's a really fun day to celebrate spring and new life, and have the easter bunny bring us treats!" And that might be all she needs, end of story, for another year, or two years or so. You're not withholding information if you do that, you're just waiting for her to come to you with the questions before you confuse her with information she's not ready for yet.
bah, feel like I'm talking in circles. Long day! lol
Originally Posted by lyterae
With Nora and holidays/celebrations I would tell her what they are celebrating and why and explain why your family does or does not. So I don't think you're obligated to explain to her, but at the same time if she's asking quesitons why wouldn't you? Becca and I still have similiar conversations and for a long time it was very straightforward, we don't do x because of y. She'd say okay and wander off to play again. It was never a big deal to her, except Halloween beecause she wanted candy.
Yeah, that. lol
Originally Posted by AnnieA
Aaaaaannnnnd the stomach bug is back. My poor sick duck!
Oh no!! Poor Ava :(
There's been a really really nasty bug going around here. Knock on wood we haven't gotten it yet, but so many families from my parenting group have, and it seems to be lasting an avergae of like 4-5 days of heavy puking, diahrrea, keeping almost nothing down to the point of listlessness. One of the mamas is at the point of going in to get an IV for her two year old. And it's just spreading like wildfire. I've never known this many people -this- sick at the same time!
Long day today. The leader of the babywearing meeting couldn't come because her son was one of the sickies. So another mama and I "led" the meeting, which then breaks off really quickly into basically everyone being like 'Heelp heeelp help me helppppp!" lol. I helped people with Bobas/Ergos/Becos for three hours barely stopping to take a breath. At one point I looked over and Tenley was gone, and I found her AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS! Kind of like "oops, I climbed up here, but now I don't know how to get back down to mama..." She was wlaking around the landing basically talking to herself. SMH!!
Oh, but she's SUCH a big girl now! She was the oldest of the 'babies' there, at 15 months, and oldest after her was 2 years old, and next was 3.5 and then a couple 4 and 5 year olds. She wanted to play with them, but then kept walking over to the babies and getting smiles on her face, and reaching out to pet them, and then squealing with delight and being so happy with herself for being gentle. There were about a dozen babies ranging from 3 weeks to 5 months, and then a few between 6-9 months. She was in love! lol I told her if she starts sleeping through the night, she can have a baby. lol