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[katiecornflakes]

Welcome to all the new mamas!!

My mom comes into town tomorrow. I am so excited to tell her! Check out the card I made for her. I think I'll have to wait until the kids go to bed to give it to her since we aren't telling them yet and she'll probably freak. She gets in at lunchtime so it'll be a long afternoon!

[Sleepymama]

Wow three boys... I know a couple of families with three boys and while it wasn't necessarily what the moms wanted, now they can't imagine it being any different. I have one of each but I have some really strong reasons for wanting desperately another girl--mainly because autism runs strongly in my family among boys (my son has it) and I want my daughter to have a sister so so badly so she can have someone to share the experience of growing up with their brother. I wanted a sister really badly (I have 2 brothers, one also with autism) and I want to have two girls with a strong relationship. They are going to need each other. I lost a baby at 11 weeks before I had my 2nd and I am convinced it was a boy and had a heart defect also since it stopped developing at 9 weeks which is when the heart fully forms. So of course I'm convinced now that I can only have a healthy baby if its a girl. I have a sinking feeling this is a boy though based on my symptoms. I'm trying not to obsess about it though. The Xs and/or Ys are already there and there's nothing to be done about it now!

[katiecornflakes]

Hapersmion- I just saw on the other thread that you delivered at the farm! I'd be so interested to hear about that.

Sleepy - hugs. It's so hard not to find reasons to stress about all of this. I am sending you lots of healthy baby vibes!

[Sienna-forever]

I love the card katie!

[SparkleMaman]

Welcome Hapersmion!! I have two friends with 3 boys each who say they love having 3 boys also. Neither was so convinced when they delivered baby boy #3, and both had hoped for a girl. I do think personality is more important than sex, as you said. That said, that your BD timing assures you a girl!!

Katie What a sweet card!! I love it. Can't wait to hear about your mom's reaction!!

Sleepymama It is hard not to be consumed by worry, especially given your experiences. Also sending you happy, healthy, sticky baby vibes, mama!!

[SparkleMaman]

So I am looking for some input. I have my first official OB visit and scan April 9, I'll be almost 10 weeks. Still on the fence about my provider and birth hospital. My OB has changed hospital affiliations since my DD was born and I am unsure what to do. I am not sure whether to stay with my longtime OB/GYN, who I love, trust and feel super safe with who delivers at a birth hospital I'm not so excited about (really small, no NICU) or switch to a new CNM who I've heard lovely things about who delivers at my birth hospital of choice (with an awesome Birth Center separate from Labor and Delivery and a level 3 NICU). Having been a nurse in L&D, I know it's the nursing staff that makes your experience. But I also really love my current OB. I hope to decide by April!! Thoughts?

[Sleepymama]

Sparkle, in your situation I would probably go with the hospital you're most comfortable with. Unless you really don't like the CNM in which case I'd stick with the doc. The hospital policies make a big difference in your comfort. I think your OB would understand.

[katiecornflakes]

Sparkle - That's a tough one! I think I would interview the CNM and if I liked her I would do that. The hospital makes such a difference. A freestanding birth center is such a great option. It's hard when you like your provider, though. You might find you love the CNM, though. I loved the switch to midwifery.

Hapers - Do you think you'll have an early scan? I just read an interesting study about placental location being predictive of gender on 6-8 week scans. The physiology doesn't really make sense to me but its interesting. Ican find it for you if you want.

Hope everyone is having a great Sunday! Waiting to pick up my mom so I'm excited.

[Vaquitita]

 I had just planned out and ordered stuff for next year right before I found out I'm pregnant. Now I wonder if I should rethink it, simplify. We do a Charlotte Mason style HS, mostly following Ambleside Online. I guess as long as we get the basics done, we'll be ok. I'm worried we won't get outside much. Also next year my oldest has to do STAR testing for the first time.

hapersmion- I can sympathize! I am worried about having 3 boys too. Based on timing, I think we have a good chance of having a girl.

[jjh5351]

Originally Posted by SparkleMaman 

So I am looking for some input. I have my first official OB visit and scan April 9, I'll be almost 10 weeks. Still on the fence about my provider and birth hospital. My OB has changed hospital affiliations since my DD was born and I am unsure what to do. I am not sure whether to stay with my longtime OB/GYN, who I love, trust and feel super safe with who delivers at a birth hospital I'm not so excited about (really small, no NICU) or switch to a new CNM who I've heard lovely things about who delivers at my birth hospital of choice (with an awesome Birth Center separate from Labor and Delivery and a level 3 NICU). Having been a nurse in L&D, I know it's the nursing staff that makes your experience. But I also really love my current OB. I hope to decide by April!! Thoughts?

Being that this is my first- take this for what it is- I would go with the hospital and staff I was most comfortable over the OB. I am terrified that ill be in labor and my OB won't be available for some stupid reason so I want to be most comfortable in the hospital ill be at and assume that I am in the best hands possible if my doctor can't be there. That's how I chose my hospital and OB clinic since my gyn doesn't do OB! Also the staff at the OB clinic I chose is highly recommended by so many people I know. Word of mouth generally means a lot. I know it's a super difficult decision for you so I know you'll make the right choice! Do what feels right

[Kamiro]

Love the card :) I hope it was a wonderful reaction!

My bro has three sons - its been a blast. I had 3 girls and he 3 boys..(now 4 girls)...

I have a hfa child also...I worry about fragile x if it is a boy and autism...but I know the joy of a child with a learning difference so I know we can handle it and our arms and hearts are wide open. Yours are too, Sleepy. *hugs*

Started to feel some great excitement today.

Husband bought me a 10 foot long red couch today. Its gorgeous...Can't wait to have all the kids climb on it for movie night or something. We get it tomorrow, its gorgeous and it cost $20 ..total steal.

Hope you all are feeling better. I am still tired, but going to do a major house clean out this week...

[mamaecho]

We have three boys and LOVE it!

[SparkleMaman]

Thanks for the advice/thoughts about providers, Mamas!! I made an appointment to meet and interview the CNM I am interested in going with in two weeks. So, we shall see!

Onemoreontheway Aw! What a sweet DH you have I wish I could motivate to do some major cleaning, it's really needed here. Too tired and nauseous still. I'm hoping the queasy feelings head out soon. I am going on a class trip with my 8th graders in a month and cannot imagine an 8 hour bus ride feeling like this!!

Katie How did your mom react? Did she love the card?

Wishing everyone a great day!!

[katiecornflakes]

My mom loved the card and was very happy! It's been really fun having her here. We are on an overnight trip currently. DD is asleep in the room they let us check into early and the others still aren't ready (grr) so I am sitting in the hallway! Lol. I made DH run to get me food. My mom and DS are checking out a museum. We go to an aquarium tomorrow. Excited! Still feeling pretty good here. Tired and occasionally nauseous but generally pretty good. Which of course freaks me out!

[maggiemay81]

I saw my GP today, and my ultrasound for 20 week scan is booked! Wow, starting to feel real again! 6weeks3 days!!! Nauseous, and super tired the last few days. We are also getting walloped with some lovely winter weather, despite the calendar saying it is spring! Blah. 

My 10 month old also stood on her own today…. didn't take any steps but I fear that is coming soon!!! Oh my!! 

Question- I love my chamomile mint loose tea…but reading about herbal teas online has made me a bit nervous to have it…. what do you all think?

[hapersmion]

Katiecornflakes - It was pretty great, especially for being at the last minute.  We went down there for our first visit three days before the baby was born, and drove the five hours there in labor (luckily, easy painless labor, and we had 13 hours to spare).  I was really happy to find them, since I hadn't been able to find any midwives in town who didn't say, "Go to the hospital and get a c-section!"  :P  Anyway, I think my birth story is probably still here somewhere... Yup, looks like it didn't disappear with all the site changes.  :)  http://www.mothering.com/community/t/589894/seths-natural-breech-birth-long

We aren't planning on any early scans, I generally try to avoid stuff that isn't proven safe.  Just in case.  :)  My husband really wants a later scan for gender, though.  That would certainly be interesting, if that connection turned out to be true - does it mean that the placenta's placement in the uterus is related to gender, or is it the placenta with relation to the baby, somehow?  If it's the first, I'd wonder if placenta previa is more common with boys or girls.  Hmm...

Thanks for the reassurances on the three boys issue!  :)  We'll figure out a way to enjoy whatever we get.  Too late to worry now!  :)

I'm not an herb expert, maggiemay, but I think I've heard things about chamomile not being safe?  I'm not sure, though.  Mint should be fine, of course.  I just bought a box of echinacea tea right before taking my pregnancy test... and now it's just going to sit there, since half the people say it's safe and half say the study isn't big enough.  *shrug*  Maybe the boys will drink it, they like tea.  Or at least they like to have me make tea, and then they run off and leave it there.  :)

 

[JonesiesGirl]

Maggiemay, I've heard things about camomile possibly not being safe as well. I used to drink tons of it but now I have at most 2 teabags of it a day (brewed in a large pot, not for the full time suggested on the box). I've read recommendations not to have it at all, and I've also read recommendations that any herbal teas bought in stores wouldn't have an effect. I really don't believe it is harmful, but I think that cutting back is a reasonable compromise. I am still drinking lots and lots of mint tea and rooibos tea, and nettle tea sometimes. I avoid most other herbs because some of them are either unsafe during pregnancy or I just haven't done the research. 

[Kamiro]

Originally Posted by maggiemay81 

I saw my GP today, and my ultrasound for 20 week scan is booked! Wow, starting to feel real again! 6weeks3 days!!! Nauseous, and super tired the last few days. We are also getting walloped with some lovely winter weather, despite the calendar saying it is spring! Blah. 

My 10 month old also stood on her own today…. didn't take any steps but I fear that is coming soon!!! Oh my!! 

Question- I love my chamomile mint loose tea…but reading about herbal teas online has made me a bit nervous to have it…. what do you all think?

I will say that even herbal teas especially FOR pregnant women have the warning about asking your DR before taking. I have also read about chamomile, but to be honest I think having a cup or two a day is not going to harm you. The down side is that if something (God Forbid) does happen to this babe, you'll always look back and wonder if it was the chamomile tea. So it is one of those things you need to make peace with.

This is the part of pregnancy I hate. Modern medicine/knowledge turns us all in to gigantic worry warts over stuff that is more than likely perfectly safe. Its way more dangerous to get in a car to go to the grocery store than drink a cup of tea...kwim?

[Kamiro]

I have been drinking enough water for the first time this pregnancy. I bought a Brita filter (better than nothing though not ideal) and after running the water through that and chilling it I transfer it to a 2 gallon food safe container (mine use to have animal crackers in it). Then I infuse it with 2 long sprigs of fresh rosemary and a few lemon slices. After a few hours it starts tasting so delicious and after over night. mmm.

Just one of my favorite drinks. If any one is having a hard time getting water or wants a way to spice it up, try this. Let me know what you think!

[katiecornflakes]

Hapersmion - what an amazing birth story!! So inspiring. The farm isn't too far from me and I would really love to see it. I have PTSD from DDs shoulder dystocia and I'm in the medical world so going off the beaten path is hard for me, but I might go to visit the farm just to see. I think I'll regret it if I don't.

Maggie - yay for booking the scan!

Onemore - yum that water sounds great! I have been doing lots of "bubble water" with lemon. Love it!

All I've done this week with my mom here is eat! So much for trying to curb first trimester weight gain. Lol. But we have had a great visit.