I do allow DD to stay at other friends' houses so I guess I don't know what to tell her about why she can't stay next door.
Edited to add: I am sorry this was too brief! I typed this out on my phone. I should have waited. Anyway, I guess I was wondering in general how people feel about sleepovers when there is an age difference that starts to get into "tween" v. pre-teen and teen. Secondly, how people deal with older siblings. I am thinking of general things like shows or movies that get chosen and that sort of thing.
Now having said that, in this particular case, my daughter's friend is ok when they are playing together, but when the brother is around, the sister and brother tend to gang up on my DD. During the daytime, the boy plays with his friends, but when they are at home for the night, he wants to play with the girls. I had some rather bad experiences when I was a pre-teen myself and I admit this has an affect on my thought process.
Finally, I don't think there is the same level of concern in their house about supervision. The kids' live with their grandmother, the mom works a lot and is out a lot. The kids are very used to being on their own.
I am just sort of sussing this out and stay open-minded but I think in the long run I am not going to be comfortable with DD having overnights with kids 2 and 4.5 years older than her. I am not placing a value judgment on this family at all, just stating things for clarification. I just am not sure it is a good fit for DD.
Edited by MoonJelly - 3/1/13 at 1:32pm