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Kirsten, I totally post from my phone, too.

I finally caught something. I'm all achy and cold. I went to bed before the kids last night.
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Sara, I'd prefer to wash my hair twice a week. But something is going on with my stupid hair, so it's every other day now, and still doesn't look good the second day.

I post from my phone and from work. Cause I'm productive like that
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Dp
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Heartbeat was 156bpm. (I'm totally having my boy again. =D)
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I'm serial posting now... does anyone else have a kiddo that is scared of everything? Just off the top of my head, a short list of things that terrify Jasper (as in bring out the crazy, screeching newborn cry of horror): baths, his potty, mommy or daddy leaving the house, remote control cars, rough housing, and those little rides at the mall that rock up and down. This is a variation of normal, right? 

 

I also love how he is scared of everything and is very reserved in public, yet given the opportunity he will run away from me without looking back. eyesroll.gif

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Heartbeat was 156bpm. (I'm totally having my boy again. =D)

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Nice heartbeat.

Amanda, I'm sure it's a variation of normal. It's the opposite of Shay - he's all over anything that moves or makes noise, but totally ok.
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Amanda - the being scared of everything phase is shockingly normal.  You wouldn't believe how many toddlers I've met who suddenly are afraid of everything.  It sounds like it's not exactly fun for you but I pinky-promise it is normal, normal, normal.  Don't know a hair-washing solution (ha ha), I'm not totally happy with my "no-poo" thing right now...

 

Nicole - yay! And the single-in-Spain fantasy sounds pretty normal to me, especially as a 24-year-old with baby #2 on the way.  I don't mean to say there's anything negative about that! Just that I totally understand why you'd be having thoughts of a carefree life with nobody else's needs to meet.  Totally get that.

 

Sara - I love what your dad said.  Thanks for sharing that.  I also love your thoughts on what it means to be true to yourself day-to-day.  Sorry you're sick, I hope you feel better asap.  How's the job situation?

 

Poor KJ has had diarrhea for 6 days now! Ugh.  She had it starting on Sunday, and had a fever too.  No fever since Monday, and the diarrhea is s-l-o-w-l-y getting more solid, but it's still remarkably gross.  And (eeeew gross warning) it's super light in color, kinda cottage cheese consistency, and smells just awful.  I'm guessing it's so light cause she's been eating very light-colored, mild foods (???).  I left a message with the ped so hopefully she'll get back to me today.  But KJ is eating fine (just super boring BRAT diet stuff), nursing a ton, drinking water.  She's also behaving normally, but she's very tired (but she's also been waking up to poop a bunch at night).  My poor baby.  Hope she's better soon.

 

Oh, and NOT PREGNANT, but my period is a week late.  My periods have been SUPER regular my whole life, and also super regular ever since I started bleeding again at 10 months PP.  So the last 5 have been right on time, and now it's a week late?  Multiple negative tests, so that's not the answer... what gives?!?

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Amanda - my DD was like that. The worst was the vacuum cleaner - it would take her over an hour to calm down if someone made the mistake of turning it on anywhere in the house. She's a classic Highly Sensitive Child, and for this I am so glad. I am also highly sensitive, so I understand the joys and terror of high sensitivity. Anyway, she is less scared of things now - once she was old enough to rationalize a bit. Though she is quickly entering the overactive imagination phase of being scared of things. 

 

Oh, I thought I would have a few moments on the computer, but I was wrong. Oren's climbing and breaking things.

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Nicole - yay! And the single-in-Spain fantasy sounds pretty normal to me, especially as a 24-year-old with baby #2 on the way.  I don't mean to say there's anything negative about that! Just that I totally understand why you'd be having thoughts of a carefree life with nobody else's needs to meet.  Totally get that.

 

Poor KJ has had diarrhea for 6 days now! Ugh.  She had it starting on Sunday, and had a fever too.  No fever since Monday, and the diarrhea is s-l-o-w-l-y getting more solid, but it's still remarkably gross.  And (eeeew gross warning) it's super light in color, kinda cottage cheese consistency, and smells just awful.  I'm guessing it's so light cause she's been eating very light-colored, mild foods (???).  I left a message with the ped so hopefully she'll get back to me today.  But KJ is eating fine (just super boring BRAT diet stuff), nursing a ton, drinking water.  She's also behaving normally, but she's very tired (but she's also been waking up to poop a bunch at night).  My poor baby.  Hope she's better soon.

 

Oh, and NOT PREGNANT, but my period is a week late.  My periods have been SUPER regular my whole life, and also super regular ever since I started bleeding again at 10 months PP.  So the last 5 have been right on time, and now it's a week late?  Multiple negative tests, so that's not the answer... what gives?!?

 

Every time I drive by an adorable bungalow, I imagine living there alone with maybe a cat. It would be so clean, and I would read ALL THE TIME.

 

Sorry about KJ! Jasper is going through that, too. On Tuesday, the first day, he literally stunk up our entire house. It was awful. 

 

Lots of things can effect your period, especially stress and illness. Any of those going on?

 

 

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Amanda - my DD was like that. The worst was the vacuum cleaner - it would take her over an hour to calm down if someone made the mistake of turning it on anywhere in the house. She's a classic Highly Sensitive Child, and for this I am so glad. I am also highly sensitive, so I understand the joys and terror of high sensitivity. Anyway, she is less scared of things now - once she was old enough to rationalize a bit. Though she is quickly entering the overactive imagination phase of being scared of things. 

 

Oh, I thought I would have a few moments on the computer, but I was wrong. Oren's climbing and breaking things.

 

 

Interesting... I'm always saying Jasper is my sensitive little boy. 

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OMG... I closed the MDC tab the other day and forgot to open it back up until now and holy crap what a conversation we've been having!  I don't even know where to start!

 

Kirsten... thank you for sharing with us.  I have no advice, but just ((HUGS)) and big respect for you facing your feelings.  I hope you can find answers soon.

 

Katie... sounds like KJ might have rotavirus.  It's usually one day of vomit and 10ish days of diarrhea and not just any diarrhea, but the most horrific smelling diarrhea you've ever encountered.  Breastfed kids tend to handle it fairly well, though there will be a ton of uncontrollable poop running down the leg incidents.  Blech.  If you're cloth diapering, I suggest bleaching the diapers when she's done.

 

As for your AF, like Amanda said stress, travel, illness, strenuous exercise, and diet change can all affect when you O, thus affecting when AF arrives.  What this means is that it can be totally normal to have late O and thus late AF, but it can also mean late O and what seems like a late BFP...  keep us posted!

 

Abra... you're shipping the puppies by airplane?  Wow, how much does that cost?  I feel for you not being able to be in your own space and do your own things.  I hope your dh feels better soon and your IL's let you leave!

 

Amanda... Avery bursts into his hurt cry when the olders turn on one of their talking books.  We all think it's funny, but clearly he does not.  I think some things just trigger a visceral reaction.  Hopefully they will out grow it, but like Kirsten said, he could be a highly sensitive kid.  Have you read that book The Highly Sensitive Child?  There are some good tips in there.

 

Nicole... you hardly look pregnant!  I guess craving green foods instead of fast food has been good!  Or maybe it's because you're having a girl!  :)  Are you going to find out the sex?

 

Sarah... sorry you're sick!  Seems like you've managed to avoid most illnesses.  Hopefully it will be a quick one and that'll be it for the season.  Glad to hear the boys are settling in the new house better.

 

Okay, I know I missed some things, so I'm going to post and go back and look...

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Joanie...  I'm so sorry to hear how sick you still are.  It's been my experience that antibiotics, while making you no longer contagious after 24 hours, really need the entire course to kill off the infection and it can take a full week longer than the course of meds to actually clear you up.  Are you on a 10 day course?  If so, you could be looking at another week and a half of congestion that slowly improves.  I would imagine once enough of the congestion clears, the pain and ringing will subside. I know how much that sucks, though.  I've been there with the ear infection once as an adult and numerous times with sinus infections.  There was a point where I thought I would never breathe through my nose again and I would never sleep well again.  ((HUGS))  Spring is around the corner!!!

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Kirsten, I think their is something special about having a 3 yo and 1 yo. I went through a major identity crisis when my kids were that age. ...I just remember feeling like I had no identity at all... that I had made my entire life about raising babies, cooking, cleaning, taking care of everyone... I had no identity outside of that. Not that you feel this way, just that I can relate to the identity crisis. 

 

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Eugh you are the first person I have ever seen say that!  And I feel that way all the time, and I feel bad about it. 

 

That is great insight.

 

Okay, this identity conversation...  Amanda's sentiment is something I've talked A LOT about with other moms.  Ash, I feel like just about every mom I've ever talked in depth with has echoed Amanda's feelings to some extent.  I feel this way pretty much now and I think it's largely a function of having really little ones that consume your life.  Once they get more independent and head off to preschool and full time school I literally felt my life lightening and opening up.  Then I got pregnant with Avery.  Yes, this is a huge part of why that news made me sob.  I was just starting to feel like I could venture out into life again and do things I wanted to do when I got the news I was resetting my clock.   But what I took away from that experience was that it does happen.  There does come a time when life opens up again and it's really not that far off. 

 

My identity is almost 100% mother.  I'm mostly fine with that.  I don't have a ton of angst about my missing career.  But I do have cravings for outlets- ways to use my other skills, forums for recognition, and endeavors that feed my inner most self.  I can fully admit to people what I like to do- I'm not embarrassed about anything that makes me who I am.  But finding the time to do any of those things and do them completely and do them well is the very frustrating part that makes me feel broken.  The utter lack of sleep for the past 7 years combined with the massive amount of illness I've had to endure in part because of that sleep deprivation and in part because of the many, many moves we've gone through, have made these things even more frustrating.  Every time I get back into a rhythm of running, I get smacked down by a month of continuous illness and super crappy sleep.  Every time I pick up a project it gets derailed by something else.  This is the really tough part for me.

 

Just today I heard mourning doves calling outside and it reminded me of Tucson so intensely that I couldn't breathe and almost started crying.  This is not the first time this has happened to me.  Usually I think it's because I miss Tucson and wish we were still living there.  I loved it there.  But today after mulling over this conversation and my reaction to the doves today, I think I realize that it's much deeper than that.  Tucson is the last place that I was ME.  It's where I had my last real job.  It's where I was last free to pursue hobbies in my free time.  The last place I was logging real miles.  I miss Tucson, certainly, but I also miss the person I was when we lived there.  So when I find myself not breathing, listening to mourning doves cooing, I know that something is missing in my life.  I am not content.  In fact, I would say I have been downright miserable often since I became a mother.  But in between those moments of discontent there are moments of pure, unparalleled goodness.  And I know that the seasons are changing and life will swing up from here.

 

I just keep coming back to the fact that our society doesn't support families.  We aren't a village anymore and it takes a village to raise kids the way those of us in this group are striving to do.  And because of that lack of support we struggle, a lot.  And we have to fight within ourselves what we feel is right and what we can physically and emotionally handle.  Some of this has to do with age, some with experience, and some with circumstances both before kids and in our current situations.  But if all of us in this group lived near each other, we could all help each other, share the burden of work and childcare, and assist each other in our endeavors.  My dad was here last month and I had a very real conversation with him about how I wanted him and my mom to live near us.  Like in the same city and possibly on the same land if we decided to move into a more rural area.  We're starting to have that same conversation with dh's parents.  I've been really soul searching off and on as my brain power will allow and realizing that life is about surrounding ourselves with as much joy as possible, pursing things that bring us joy, and attempting to bring this joy to others and the earth.  I want my parents and dh's parents to be close to us so that they can help with the kids and there can be joy between all of us in the day to day and into the next seasons of life.  I want them to be close so we can help them when they get older.  I want my kids to see the cycle of life and realize that we are all in this together, to be a part of each other's joy, and help each other through the tough times.  So for me, I can feel myself moving toward a life that is defined by the day to day work of family and homesteading and attempting to get my kids and my parents and in-laws and maybe some friends to be a part of this village along the way. 

 

Hey, Anthea, maybe I want to be Ma Ingalls, too!  thumb.gif 

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Not finding out the sex, I don't think. I have until April 15 to decide. smile.gif If we do end up finding out, no one IRL will know. My parents are seriously hating on all the names we picked out, so I'm just keeping it a secret to avoid listening to their judgmental talking.
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Katie, our boys' poo looked just like that. What I've found online is that the poop gets pale when the stuff is passing through too fast to be absorbed properly. Our boys took a week and a half to get back to solid stools. They each lost a pound. Oh, and if she's been nursing a lot more because of illness, maybe that affected your cycle?

Jaimee, homesteading is a whole other special kind of exhausting. Good luck.
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Minecraft. What levels do your kids play on? How much violence is there?
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Joanie, I think ear infections must be contagious because now I have one too. I feel your pain, literally!

Homesteading is a lot if work, but it's rewarding work and really keeps you busy. I can't wait until we have our own house and a little property.

Yes, we are shipping puppies. So far the puppies are going to CA, AZ, MO, and NY. Plus 2 people have come to pick them up from KS and CO! The plane ticket for the puppy is $210, plus a vet health exam for $80 and a crate for $30. I charge $350 for shipping.
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I just keep coming back to the fact that our society doesn't support families.  We aren't a village anymore and it takes a village to raise kids the way those of us in this group are striving to do.  And because of that lack of support we struggle, a lot.  And we have to fight within ourselves what we feel is right and what we can physically and emotionally handle.  Some of this has to do with age, some with experience, and some with circumstances both before kids and in our current situations.  But if all of us in this group lived near each other, we could all help each other, share the burden of work and childcare, and assist each other in our endeavors. 

 

SO insightful, Jaimee. I was thinking about this same thing earlier today and felt very sad... I know for certain that if I had the kind of supportive "village" of my dreams, then I would be able to parent the real way I want to. I've always felt like an old soul, and I rather dislike what our modern society has become. I mean, I'm pretty much the only person I know (besides my tech-illiterate mother) who doesn't get excited about new technology. I lean towards resistance. I like the way things used to be... Sure, many things are easier now, but at what cost? Maybe I'm just too nostalgiac and life has become really complicated. I like simple living. I'd give anything to have a homestead how you're talking about. Practically speaking, though, I don't know how I'd find the time or energy for it. My whole life, I thought my dream was to be a SAHM.... We figured out how to make it happen, and I was overjoyed! Then the dream turned sour with a lack of IRL social support... and I had to quickly give up the SAHM gig for my immediate sanity. I always knew the adage "it takes a village to raise a child," but it didn't mean anything to me until that very time last year when I was so lost, distraught, and alone in my motherhood journey... I don't know how I would've gotten through everything without our DDC. Several of my friends started having children recently, and I thought I'd finally find more playdates and social support in my future! Yay! *sigh* Nope, it doesn't appear to be the case (yet?)... They are too tired and don't seem to care to reach out for support themselves. They always cancel playdates. I know for certain that one of them is battling PPD and anxiety, and her husband is gone a lot for work, yet she just won't reach out (and I don't want to pressure her). I'm frustrated. I actually offer to bring other mother friends food and suggest get-togethers, but they could care less! I'm kind of rambling. I guess I'm just saying all of this because I worry that I'll be endlessly disappointed by a lack of mother friends IRL... All of the mothers I've truly connected with are the ones I've met online who end up living far away. It just sucks. The one time I met up with a few local moms from Mothering.com, we really didn't click at all and haven't talked since.

 

I just feel lonely. A lot. I want to be bonding with friends over our having babies! I waited for this my whole life! I love my alone time when I can get it, but when I'm parenting, it's like I have this instinctual urge to be around other people as much as I can. My body is like, "Where is your village?!" I have to remind myself constantly not to take it personally when friends and/or mothering acquaintances aren't initiating contact with me. Maybe I know too many self-involved people. It sure feels like that a lot.

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We totally just need to find some land and start our own village. I'd be there in a heartbeat.

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Oh, and thanks for the info several of you shared with me about ear infections/antibiotics. It calmed my nerves a bit. I'm almost done with my 10-day course of abx, so I'll just sit tight and anticipate my ear opening up in the next week.

 

In other news, my sister suggested a joint baptism to include her husband, baby (due in August), Sora, and my DH. Neither of our husbands were ever baptized, so it could be a neat idea for the daddies and children to do it together. smile.gif She was thinking they'd fly up from California and our mom would officiate the baptism, but now her husband wants to hold the baptism in Atlanta where he's from (and where his mother just passed away). I told DH that we may have to do a "destination baptism." LOL! Amanda, you could be the witness? ROTFLMAO.gif jk jk

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