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post #181 of 499

I missed so much I think my brain just dumped the first 15 posts I read because I haven't finished my first cup of coffee yet. 

 

Abra-  I got my cycle back way earlier, but had crazy baby fever right before also.  Crazy baby fever.  Followed by me demanding my husband get a vasectomy because my logical brain and my hormomonal brain were fighting and I knew which one I wanted to win.

 

Re:  potty- I think Jaimee is right on.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting potty learning as soon as a child is ready, but I have never seen full success before 18 months in any kids.  I think I have potty learned....probably 15-ish kids.  Boys tend to around 2.5 and girls tend to a lot earlier.  Kids with emotional or sensory problems around 3-4.  ODD was accident free by 18 months, but that is not the norm at all.  Most kids continue to have accidents until at least 2.  It takes dedication and patience, and a regression is very normal.

post #182 of 499
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Originally Posted by seraf View Post

Abra, the only built in is the bookcase the TV is on. The TV can move, but Sara wants the couch to point straight at it. Like we can't turn our heads. The desks and toy boxes can all move.


Sarah, how many arm chairs do you have?  Here are my thoughts.  I have no idea if these will work in your space:

 

IDEA #1:

 

1.  Can you use one of the toy shelves for the TV, and use the built-in shelves for toy storage?

 

2.  Against the wall where the dining table is, put the TV on one of your toy shelves (if that would work).  Put the couch in front of the TV, but not too far from the TV.  Arrange side chair(s) at 90 degrees to the sofa to create a sitting area.    Anything you cold use as a coffee table or end tables?

 

3.  Where the toys and chair are, use that area as a "mudroom" area.  If you have a bench you could put under the window with some boot trays, that might be nice for sitting and getting dressed/undressed for outside.

 

4.  Move the dining table to other side of the room.   

 

 

IDEA #2:

 

1.  Same as above.  Can you use one of the toy shelves for the TV, and use the built-in shelves for toy storage?

 

2.  Against the wall with the big window, put the TV on one of your toy shelves (if that would work).  Put the couch in front of the TV, but not too far from the TV.  Arrange side chair(s) at 90 degrees to the sofa to create a sitting area.    Anything you cold use as a coffee table or end tables?

 

3.  Keep dining table as is or rotate it 90 degrees and move a little away from the wall so it is in a more central position.  

post #183 of 499
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Sarah... kitchen storage... we bought an island to put in the kitchen at our first house and it also worked well at our second house, both which did not have their own built in islands.  It worked well as additional counter space, which we used not just for food prep, but also for storing our knife block, kitchenaid mixer, flour/sugar canisters, etc. and in the cabinet on the island we could fit all our baking dishes and in the drawers all our kitchen linens.  So it was super helpful in that regard.  We bought it at World Market.   There are also rolling microwaves stands that can be storage units or those wire shelving units available at Lowes that aren't too expensive, work well for pantry items, and can double as herb drying and seed starting racks!  Space saving ideas are readily available online like magnetic knife strips, magnetic spice container strips, built in spice racks on the sides of cabinets, pot/pan hanger over the island, mug hangers/paper towel hangers under the cabinets, etc.  Check out Ikea and The Container Store for ideas and see what you could DIY.

 

I would definitely experiment with moving the large furniture around.  Maybe try it out for a few days and then move it into another location before you all get to used to the way things are and feel like you can't change things (at least that's how I get).  Maybe try the futon the other direction in the middle of the room, breaking up the dining area and the living area, but still allowing a large pathway for an open feel.  The TV could go against a different wall if you have a stand for it, opening up those built ins for books and toys.  Maybe the table could go in the corner to open up that area a bit more and make room for some additional shelving or cabinets?

post #184 of 499

Pottying...  For DD, she was using the toilet reliably by 2.5 years, and by that I mean able to use toilets outside of the house and stay dry at night.  But she was able to use the toilet at home during the day by 2 years.

 

One trick that helped us big time for using public toilets was to carry around a little pad of Post-It notes in my bag.  I stuck one on the automatic toilet flusher sensor to keep it from flushing automatically while I was helping DD wipe and get dressed.  When we were done, I would have her either leave the stall or cover her ears, and then I would flush it.  The sound of the toilet flushing really scared her, especially if it came as a surprise, and that set us back a bit in getting her 100% toilet trained (i.e., able to use toilets outside of the house).

 

I think a couple of things will factor in to when I still start working with B.  We are going on a trip this summer, so I will wait until we are home for a good stretch.  Also, I will want to plan to be home-bound (i.e., limited errand running, playdates, etc.) for a bit to give him a chance to get the knack of it.  If we can all manage to stay illness-free, that will help too!  And no out of town guests.  We almost always have people staying with us, so I will need to block off time on the calendar so I can focus on getting him to the toilet.  If it is warm enough that he can have no pants on, that would be a plus, too!!!! 

 

Based on my experience with DD, if I was able to devote a week to nearly 100% focus on the toilet, she picked it up really quickly and didn't regress.  I am hoping for the same thing with B, but boys are different, so we'll see. 
 

post #185 of 499
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Originally Posted by ZippyGirl View Post

 

Based on my experience with DD, if I was able to devote a week to nearly 100% focus on the toilet, she picked it up really quickly and didn't regress.  I am hoping for the same thing with B, but boys are different, so we'll see. 
 

Yeah, not sure if it was a boy vs. girl thing or just a difference in temperaments, but it really took Austin a long time to be consistent.  He'd have weeks of doing great and then suddenly have accidents daily for a week.  Back and forth, back and forth until it just seemed to click on day and he started taking himself and not wanting any help. Now we just have the "peed a little before getting to the potty" situation every now and then.

post #186 of 499
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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

Yeah, not sure if it was a boy vs. girl thing or just a difference in temperaments, but it really took Austin a long time to be consistent.  He'd have weeks of doing great and then suddenly have accidents daily for a week.  Back and forth, back and forth until it just seemed to click on day and he started taking himself and not wanting any help. Now we just have the "peed a little before getting to the potty" situation every now and then.

 

IME there is a definite difference in boys vs. girls.  Of course there is always the wild card child, though.  There are physiological and emotional differences in almost all boys and girls, and girls usually just seem to be physically and physiologically ready to commit to learning before boys.

 

I think the absolute BIGGEST obstacle most kids face is their parents, and the need for consistency.  It is absolutely easier to just throw a diaper on a kid when your tired or busy or going out.  You really have to make time for it, commit to it for a week or two, revolve your life around it.  Some parents just cant seem to figure that one out.

post #187 of 499
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

I think the absolute BIGGEST obstacle most kids face is their parents, and the need for consistency.  It is absolutely easier to just throw a diaper on a kid when your tired or busy or going out.  You really have to make time for it, commit to it for a week or two, revolve your life around it.  Some parents just cant seem to figure that one out.

 

I know that is going to be a difficult thing to get across to my DH. His schedule and awake times are so inconsistent, and that always translates into frustration for me over how he parents at any given time. I'm going to have to be on his case a lot to keep on top of potty training when the time comes...

 

Thanks for all of the insight from everyone, btw! I have a better idea of the direction to go in now. I think we'll take this really slowly and gently encourage Sora to direct us.

post #188 of 499
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

 

Thanks for all of the insight from everyone, btw! I have a better idea of the direction to go in now. I think we'll take this really slowly and gently encourage Sora to direct us.

 

Good luck!  It is not nearly so daunting for me doing this for a second time.  It's just one of those things:  Walking, talking, going on the toilet, riding a bike, reading, etc., etc.  Generally speaking, everyone eventually gets there!!!! 

post #189 of 499
My oldest was PT at 19 months. That meant, to me, no more than an accident a month, home or away (even at water tables, our last hold out). He is a boy. He did have to wear a diaper at night until we figured out his wheat sensitivity.

My daughter had a couple of accidents a week from 14-17 months? Then an accident a day for 3 weeks and then she was dry forever after except when antibiotics gave her explosive diarrhea once at 2. So I consider her to have been PT at 18 months.

A kid who is still having accidents is potty training in my book. Not potty trained. I considered them to be done when I quit carrying spare undies.

Thanks for the living room thoughts. The table has to be away from the wall, we need seating for 6. I used to live here, so I've had this living room rearranged several times. I never had to contend with a TV. I think it should go in the dumpster. She just put it on the shelf because we could theoretically cover it there. I don't want to look at it all the time. Haha, maybe we could stick the back out the window like an air conditioner. There are also 2 more tvs here that we have to get rid of.

I like the mud room idea. That is a room we lost when we moved. There are coat racks and shoe shelves over there.

The kitchen has a peninsula, so an island won't fit. I'll have to shoot another video after I clean in there. There are 2 doors on one wall and a door and 2 windows on the opposite wall. The windows are so close to the other walls that cabinets would cover part of the window. It's just a weird room. The peninsula is weird, too, but there was no storage or counter space without it.
post #190 of 499

My boy potty trained faster, sooner and TONS easier than my girl!!!

post #191 of 499

Can I get some protein suggestion for a nut-allergic lactose intolerant child who does not like meat and only eats egg when its baked into things?  Bettie has been living on Kale and Annie's Bunny Crackers.  Im not ashamed of that Im just thinking she needs variety, lol.

post #192 of 499
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Beans?  My kids all eat beans plain or with noodles and veggies.  Tofu?  Or are you anti-soy?

post #193 of 499
Does Bettie like beans? My boys love beans. Refried, chili, chickpeas, hummus. There are some Dutch pancakes that are almost all egg. Baked meringue with very little sugar? Soy but butter or sunflower butter? Whole grains have a decent amount of protein. We really like baked polentia. You can make polentia with mullet or quinoa, too. Quinoa is a great protein, but it's hard for my guys to eat. Tofu. Lentils go with beans, but red lentils can be mixed into sauces. Chickpea flour in anything you're baking, but I like something called besan omletts. I'll see if I can find you a recipe. It's like, chickpea flour, peas, tomatoes, salt, baking powder and water. And fried like pancakes.

I'm going crazy with my dietary restrictions. I can't imagine yours.
post #194 of 499
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Oh yes, quinoa!  You can find recipes for quinoa muffins, freeze them and just take them out as you need them.  Quinoa fritters with egg, baked.  Tortillas, crackers, home made waffles (I make large batches and freeze, then just toast in the toaster) with soy nut or sun butter, yes.  I was also going to suggest little fried pancake type items with veggies, egg, etc.  Hummus!!   Yes.  Great ideas!

post #195 of 499
Those are a ton of great ideas! Thank you! I have done most of those things before but sitting here in this situation...I just start feeling whiney and overwhelmed and pitiful and my mind blanks. I need to quit feeling so sorry for myself :/

We have more allergy testing on the 20th, but for now We are avoiding soy and seeds. I haven't been label checking for soy, just avoiding the most obvious (soy milk, tofu).
post #196 of 499
I get you, Ash. I know there are lots of great wheat free dairy free things I can eat but I still really want pizza. Not fakezza. And sometimes it makes me pouty.
post #197 of 499

Oh yes. I don't mind vegan pizza in the slightest it's that damn gluten-free "crust" that makes me ragey.

post #198 of 499
There are a ton of pizza options that are gluten free around here! Even Dominos has GF pizza. We get Dominos when we get pizza because they are 100% nut free and have safe crust. We just get B breadsticks.
post #199 of 499
The fake cheese isn't as satisfying.
post #200 of 499
Kitchen storage: a shelf above doors and windows for lesser used kitchen things, and a narrow shelf just below the cabinets for more frequently used things displayed attractively in thrifted canning jars. We had zero drawers in our previous kitchen, so we had our cutlery in mason jars (sense a theme?) And the big utensils in crocks in the counter. The plan was to eventually hang the jars of cutlery under the cabinets by one of those bars with the S hooks. Cup hooks and those little shelves that go inside the cabinets to make full use of the vertical space inside cabinets. We used to have the smallest kitchen in the universe, and I am a kitchen things collector.
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