March 2013 Chit Chat - Page 17 « Back to Group Discussions

[dashley111]

OH Amanda, that is hilarious and awful.  Im sorry!  I hope your feeling better today than you did yesterday.

So, I am a complete ass.  A goof friend of mine came over yesterday and told us that they did a CT scan on her 16yo son and found a 6 cm mass on his lung.  She said everybody was acting like it was a big deal, and since it was under half an inch she didn't understand why.  So of course like an ass, without thinking about the implications or being more thoughtful of my words, I said: "Well, 6cm is a bit bigger than that- and inch is around 2.5 cm I think."  She literally just turned around and ran out of my house crying.  I apologized later and told her I should not have brought it up, and we talked a bit.  But still...I feel responsible for the moment she realized it was kind of a bigger deal than she thought...and I feel awful about it. 

[Jaimee]

I'm sorry that sleep is so awful right now, Amanda!  Sleep here is sucking the big one as well.  Avery is falling asleep ridiculously early and then wakes up at his normal bedtime and stays up until midnight.  Then he proceeds to roll around, moan, wake up to nurse, potty, nurse, repeat all.freaking.night.long.  I dumped him on dh this morning at 4am b/c it's spring break and he can deal with it for a change.  Uggggghhhh...

Ash, this may sound callous, but someone had to tell her.  I mean seriously, didn't the doctor impress on her the seriousness of the situation?  Or at the very least convert from metric to inches?  I feel awful for your friend... seems like a lot of cancer is popping up in kids right now... or at least that I'm hearing about! 

[seraf]

Oh, Ash, how awful that your friend didn't know to begin with. That really does sound like the doctor failed to communicate something. Awful all around.

Amanda, can she ride a scooter? That can keep up decently with slow bike ride. If A isn't riding comfortably by summer I will either convert her bike to a trike so she can travel with us or I will get a tag along kind of thing. I'm a terrible person and I just rode with her on my bike until last summer when I was off bikes for the babies. In the meantime, I'm trying to get her on two wheels. She's motivated and we've been outside practicing everyday in below freezing weather. O learned by coasting down a slight hill until he had the balance. He took about 3 sessions. I'm probably going to take A's petals off like this site suggests.

[TalkToMeNow]

Good idea, Sara. She can ride a scooter, but she rides slower than I walk. She is afraid to go fast. Plus, the rules that came with the scooter say don't ride on hills, and it is VERY important to follow the rules. That's my Mabel. 

Dd2, however, barrels down hills like she has a death wish. Scares the crap out of me. 

[seraf]

What kind of scooter? I am afraid to go fast on the razor ones. The steering wobbles something crazy. Has she tried riding the bike like a scooter? So right foot on left pedal and hands on where they would normally go? I used to love to ride like that as a kid (I used to also ride with a friend on the other pedal and we would bounce to pedal. My kids are so same by comparison). A can't do it yet, but she is also slow on a scooter. Maybe because her balance is still poor.

[Becky Wheeler]

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Edited by Becky Wheeler - 3/22/13 at 4:39pm

[jill the pill]

I haven't posted in a while guys because I have been so crazy busy trying to make plans for building our new house.  I didn't read back very far but I hope you are all doing well and I will try to get back into the swing of things! 

How much are all of you still nursing?  Audrey still wakes up 2 or 3  times at night but doesn't nurse much during the day.  I even stopped pumping at work.  I don't think I'm producing all that much anymore since she doesn't nurse for long and always asks for more.  

[Abraisme]

Ash, that sounds like a very honest mistake.  I hope that her son is going to be okay!

Coralie still nurses all the time.  I'd say 2-4 times at night and 4-6 times during the day?  I dunno, I don't keep track really...

Jaimee, Coralie has also been sleeping like crap lately too.  I have no idea what the issue is, as she has all her teeth and she's finally over the 2 week cold that we all just had.  She's also been known to take that EVIL 7:00pm nap that will keep her awake way too late.  This week we have been working hard on schedules.  We have been waking her up in the morning (or she'll sleep unitl 9:00am+) and keeping her naps shorter and as early as possible.  While she is going to bed earlier (8-9:00), she's still waking up every 20-45min and needing me to comfort her back down.  Mostly it just seems that she doesn't like to wake up alone (before we come to bed).

Also, how does one tell the difference between eczema and dry skin?  Both Olivine and Coralie are covered in a very dry looking rash that started when we got to Nebraska.  Coralie doesn't have it under her diaper line and it's worse on the parts of the skin that rub (thighs, belly, etc).  I keep applying natural lotion, but it doesn't seem to help much..  

Edited by Abraisme - 3/22/13 at 6:52pm

[Autumnshades]

Eli's completely weaned. He night weaned a long time ago, and gradually lost interest in his day feelings. He was down to mornings and nights, then started to cry when I tried nursing him in the morning and eventually did the same at night (freak out crying) I tried to offer him more opportunities to nurse, but he got upset every time. I make him hemp milk, which he has during the day.

Becky did you figure out the shipping thing?

[TalkToMeNow]

Sonja, I am so jealous. Seriously. I'm at a place right now where I am wondering why I even started nursing. And this is from a mom who nursed her first for almost 4 years!! I can not take nursing all night anymore. I am going to lose my mind soon.

[seraf]

Becky, sorry, no ideas.

Abra, is it red? Red, flaky, dry skin is what we see in our kids with eczema. For our kids it's both dietary and environmental. Certain diapers and soaps make it worse but foods are the biggest. I'm guessing you didn't change your diet, so maybe look at environment?

Jill, S nurses when I come to bed and about an hour before we get up (I didn't nightwean, this is just his usual non-sick pattern). He nurses at both ends of naps and a few other times a day. Boy loves to nurse.

[LunaLady]

Becky, the post office has flat rate shipping boxes, will the item fit in one of those? They have international flats rates.

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by Abraisme 

Also, how does one tell the difference between eczema and dry skin?  Both Olivine and Coralie are covered in a very dry looking rash that started when we got to Nebraska.  Coralie doesn't have it under her diaper line and it's worse on the parts of the skin that rub (thighs, belly, etc).  I keep applying natural lotion, but it doesn't seem to help much..  

It's this freaking weather.  It's so cold and so dry.  If anyone has even remotely sensitive skin, it's been rashing, cracking, bleeding.  I have fissure all over my hands that get worse when I've been outside- even wearing gloves.  I can barely wash dishes or clean anything- even changing the wet laundry- my hands crack.  Avalon's hands are off the charts dry, cracked and bleeding.  Her teacher has sent her home with multiple bandaids all over her little hands b/c they've been bleeding at school.  They have that awful soap and dry paper towels.  She's a clean freak, so she scrubs her hands, too. 

There isn't much to be done other than avoid excessive washing/wetting of the skin and keeping hydrated (both with drinking water and with oils on the skin).  I bet it will clear up when the weather turns.  But just to be safe, you might do a little detective work regarding detergents, soaps, etc. b/c if it's worse where clothing is rubbing, that could be a sign of contact allergen.  Maybe their clothing and bedding are getting washed in something new?  Or not getting thoroughly rinsed?

[Jaimee]

Becky, what was the question about shipping?  I missed it and now your post is deleted.

Jill, Avery nurses about 3 times during the night, in the morning, mid-morning, for nap, after nap, mid-afternoon, and then cluster feeds in the evening.  It's not awesome.  I'm feeling very touched out and done with nursing.  With the molars (which are almost totally in) he's been clamping down and irritating the crap out of me while nursing.  He's also lazy nursing at night so it takes like 10-20 minutes for him to get the letdown and have his fill.  I'm getting really frustrated.  I'm ready to nightwean, but he doesn't seem anywhere near ready and with the teeth and another round of canines to go, I just don't see it happening unless dh can totally take over during the summer (he'll have more flexible hours).  At this time with Austin, I was pregnant with Avery and my milk was diminishing and his interest along with it.  I was so sad at the time that I was weaning so early and now I don't think I'd mind if my milk started diminishing...  (not due to pregnancy, of course).

[Abraisme]

Thanks for the tips.  I think it's probably dry skin, as they both started to get it when we got here and it is super dry.  I haven't changed my detergent in years, so it's probably not that.  If it doesn't go away soon, I'm going to dig into diet more..  Both my girls still have dairy and very occasionally wheat.

[seraf]

Jaimee, sage will help dry you up if that's what you really want. My supply tanked after the winter holidays and stuffing and I had to work to bring it back up.

[TalkToMeNow]

Jaimee, Avery sounds a lot like Jasper right now.

My dd2 and I get bad skin in the winter. Thick, cracked, bleeding. Sucks. Tons of lotion around here.

Ok, I have a daycare q I need advice about. I thought I had made a decision, but I wasn't thinking of working full time. We just got notice of a space at the Reggio Emilio school my work subsidizes. So our choices are J goes 8-5 there since I have to take him (its near my work) or stays at the lower quality daycare, but only go from 7:30-3:30. So like two hours less a day? Plus, he'd have to commute with me, which is an extra 20 min each way. Thoughts? I'm being ridiculous, right. Spending an extra 2 hrs at home with dh isn't a lot, right?? Pardon my silliness. Just confused again!

[Jaimee]

Sarah, yeah, I thought about that... but I would feel guilty.   If it decreased due to something out of my control, I would have to be okay with it.  But if I actually caused it... ugh.   Balance, balance, balance...  I'll wait until these teeth finish up and see how things are.  I wouldn't mind nursing if it were just reduced!

Abra, different washing machine, though, right?  So maybe an extra rinse would help or double checking the amount of detergent that is appropriate for that machine.  If it's an HE, that could be the issue.

Amanda, honestly, at this point, I would go for the awesome school.  What would he be doing with your dh for those 2 hours?  Like really?

[Autumnshades]

I have been having tons of trouble with dry skin too - my hands are horrible.  It doesn't matter what lotion I put on them, what oils/what frequency ... they stay dry and cracked.  It is the weather and water combination for me - I have been washing my hands more frequently and since we don't have a dishwasher my hands are even worse because I am constantly washing dishes (I know I should use gloves, but I break more things if I use them - dont ask lol).  It sucks greatly.  I think Eli has the same issues.  I changed our laundry soap because I thought it was something that was affecting his skin on his legs, dry patches too - but even after changing to Nellies it is still the same.  I took him off wheat/grains and it didn't make a difference.  It is always worse in the winter for me, so I am assuming for now, that it is the same for Eli. 

Eli is totally miserable today :(  He was up a million times last night, I woke up with a nose bleed from the dry air at 6am this morning ... and I am exhausted.  In addition to that, I was draining the water out of the pasta and the entire pasta spilled into the sink :( yeah, great eh?  I was trying to cook while Eli is napping.  

And Abra, I totally know about that EVIL 7pm nap!  Eli is all to prone to them.  I found that if he naps around noon, he doesn't nap at 7pm unless he has a really crappy day.  

[TalkToMeNow]

Sonja, have you tried one of those mainstream dish soaps that claim to renew your hands?? Lol. I know they are junky, but might help... My favorite hand cream right now is not at all natural. It's a Shea butter cream from Bath and Body Works. It helps, at least until the next time I wash my hands.

Jaimee, he doesn't do much with dh. I mean, they play, but it doesn't make up for the benefits of the new place. He can't start until June and we have to pay a two week deposit that does not count towards tuition. Sucky.

My cranky boy slept a bit better last night, but still not great. Dh's new idea is that he can do more night time parenting if he has a rocking recliner in the room to sit in with J. Hmmmm... Could that just be an excuse to get out of helping? Lol.