Hi everybody. This is my second post on mothering.com and I need some help. DD is nearly five years old. She's been somewhat sheltered in that she is not around a lot of children. My husband and I are not very close to our families (long story for another page) so she does not have the usual hang out with cousins other kids in the family kind of thing. We've done mommy and me classes before and we do a lot of activities but those activities are usually just me and her or me, her and her dad.
Her issue is not learning but when she's in a structured setting with other children. She is all over the place. She'll sit and participate when she's interested but usually goes off and plays or doesn't want to follow the instruction. She says she rather play. We've discussed with her and she understands the difference between play time and serious time. After she doesn't listen she'll tell me she knows she's supposed to but wanted to play. This is frustrating because she's going to start K in September.
Could she have an issue? If so, what could it be and how can we deal with this. I spoke to her doctor and asked her what she thinks. She told me she thinks Melissa seems "distracted" sometimes but any child would be after sitting in a doctors office for hours. She told me my DD is the only child who sits in the office without screaming and crying. I get compliments on her behavior all of the time but when it comes to sitting in a classroom or doing activity a and listening and following the instruction something goes awry. The doc told me most evaluations find something wrong and considering this is the only issue I should take a wait and see approach. She's not five yet and her behavior is probably because she's a bit socially immature.
No offense to anyone who feels differently but every child I know who has been evaluated, they find something wrong even if it turns out to not be legit and write the child a prescription for some drugs.
Any opinions please.