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Weekly Chat Thread - March 3rd through March 9th

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Chat away!!! :D

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Writer - You look amazing in the photo you shared from your surprise shower!!  What incredibly thoughtful friends you have!!

 

Last night, at my MW appointment, she brought all her supplies to leave at my house.  She went over everything that was in all her bags while I was hanging out with the acupuncture needles in my legs.  It was a little surreal!  Almost like this is actually happening!!  I'm 38 weeks today, but "plan" on going a couple more weeks.  My mom arrives in 11 days, and after that, baby is welcome to arrive (shades of Buko, or what!?? LOL!)  LO is a little lower, but going down slowly, not all the way yet.  I haven't been hungry this week, and so my eating has been spotty, and now I'm holding a teensy bit of water in my legs.  MW says it's nothing to be concerned about, but to try extra hard to eat enough protein. 

 

DP has the sniffles and his throat is all scratchy.  I told him he needs to get better ASAP!  I'm not worried about my immune system (it's always been great, and even better throughout this pregnancy) but still!! 

 

I didn't get much done yesterday - went visiting twice - which is good for me, but bad for my ever growing to-do list.  I hope today is productive! 

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I'm 38 + 1 today, so almost the same timeline, scruffy! I'm honestly a little surprised this baby is still hanging in there. I have had SO many complications that all pointed toward her coming early, and have had so many pre-labor signs for the last 2 weeks. All week my husband has said that I would have the baby yesterday (3/2), which obviously didn't happen. I made him take me out for a date to make up for it. ;) It ended up being a ton of fun, and distracted me nicely from the whole not-having-a-baby thing!

 

Now I just want my uterus to make up its mind! It contracts all the time 24/7, but ironically enough since the baby dropped 2 weeks ago my contractions have actually on the whole been much more mild than before. For the last day or two, though, they've been pretty strong, but not baby-bringing. I've been having timeable contractions for so long now (I think more than 10 weeks?) that I largely just ignore them, but whenever they start increasing in intensity (which they did steadily all day yesterday) there is a niggle in the back of my mind wondering "is this it"? Which, of course, it never is. At this point I've just consigned myself to the fact that I will likely be pregnant for the rest of my life, and that when I do finally give birth my (big) baby will be at least 10 pounds. blush.gif I also find myself bizarrely hung up right now on the idea that for some cosmic reason I will only be able to give birth on a Saturday, since that is what I have been picturing through this whole pregnancy. So with every Saturday that passes baby-less, I find myself mentally resigning myself to another full week of nothing happening.

 

I also find myself playing weird games with murphy's law. Like yesterday I thought, "I should probably put some towels in my car in case my water breaks when I'm out sometime." (I have polyhydramnios so water breaking is supposedly going to be epic.) But then I found myself thinking, "No, I can't do that, because if I'm prepared for it it will never happen, right? And then I'll NEVER have this baby! So I'll just take my chances with getting drenched in public."


Rational thought? I think that disappeared around week 36 ;)
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cindy, your positive attitude cracks me up. You won't be pregnant forever! I hope you are holding your happy baby soon, and congrats to your body on taking such good care for so long beyond the odds!

scruffy, my immune system has been great this pregnancy too. Weird, cause I thought i twas supposed to be the other way around. (knocks on wood). I hope your DH gets better soon and you avoid catching it! smile.gif

afm - fine-tuned my birth plan today. Packed some essentials for a birth bag. Through searching for my labor positions folder, I found the detailed log my mom kept during my loooooong labor with DD. luxlove.gif SO much fun to read! love.gif I hope I get to use those positions this time. orngbiggrin.gif
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afm - fine-tuned my birth plan today. Packed some essentials for a birth bag. Through searching for my labor positions folder, I found the detailed log my mom kept during my loooooong labor with DD. luxlove.gif SO much fun to read! love.gif I hope I get to use those positions this time. orngbiggrin.gif

 

Whoah.  That makes it feel so real, doesn't it?

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40+2 weeks here... Ugh. I have never gone overdue. The strange part of it all? I'm okay with it, I don't feel overdue, if that makes sense. I feel like it's going to be a couple more days, and I mentally and physically am fine with that. I'm pretty comfortable still and I really don't mind this pregnancy. Although... I really really want to meet her! I think that's the one thing that is making me impatient, I just want to see her, cuddle her, and look into her eyes... But I know it will happen soon, and that I won't be pregnant forever! 

 

At my appointment on Friday I really thought long and hard about what all of you (and DP) said. I didn't get checked by my mw's and I haven't done any other induction stuff. I went and walked around the mall for about 4 hours on Friday. I had a tiny bit of bloody show, just a few streaks, on Friday night. But, other than that, nothing is different and all seems to be the same. My contractions/braxton hicks (at what point do they become contractions? I would think when they are definitely doing something positive) feel pretty productive now. They push right into my cervix and encompass my entire uterus, so I know they're doing something. They feel good, and every time I have one, I think to myself that this is my body working to get me opened up before the big show starts... 

 

My parents have been here all  weekend, and the boys are with their dad. So it's been nice and quiet. It'll be quiet all week too, so I think that once we have some real alone time, I will have this baby. Thats what I'm feeling.

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Cindy - I had the EXACT same thought about towels in the car.  It's a good idea, but if I do it, I totally won't need them.  I don't have excess fluid but the car is fairly new with cloth upholstery and it would really suck to soak a seat with amniotic fluid.

 

I'm also procrastinating on getting a waterproof cover for our bed for the same reason.  It feels like if I'm a little bit unprepared, the baby will come sooner.  lol.gif  You're right, rational thought ceased to be a consideration some time ago.  But you are closer than me and no doubt will go any time.  That baby'll fall right out of you.

 

Babytoes - good luck - I'm sure it will be any day (hour?) now...

 

Scruffy and Tear - I thought that pregnancy was supposed to make your immune system more vulnerable as well, but it's totally the opposite.  Normally I get every cold that comes into the house (whether via DH or DD) but this year DD and DH have both had a couple bouts that I haven't suffered from at all.  (Not that any of us is particularly bad - I think DD has missed maybe 2 days of school this year due to colds? DH seems hit harder than normal with 2 colds back-to-back recently but he's still up and around, he doesn't do that "man cold" thing I keep hearing about.)  I talked to my sister last night and she said she was the same way - totally bulletproof on the viruses during pregnancy.  Weird.

 

Back to my closet purge... haven't found any treasures yet, boo...

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Cindy and Spughy- Maybe the opposite is true! I finally put the waterproof cover on our bed and my water broke that night! Just saying... smile.gif
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Spughy, I am laughing out loud and glad I am not the only one! I keep thinking about doing something to our bed too, or to the couch, since I alternate between them and sleep about half of each night in each place right now (repositioning helps me get back to sleep when the contractions wake me up about every hour). I'm not even sure what I'd do, though. I don't have a waterproof cover, and it seems like towels might just be woefully inadequate!

 

VYM - well, maybe I'll have to do that, then. ;) I'm certainly impatient to get this show on the road! I have loved every minute of this pregnancy but my body is wearing down big time in every way.

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I'm also a member of the mind tricks club... Thinking "what if my water breaks while we're out? should I carry an extra pair of pants around with me just in case?"... Then doing a double take and intentionally NOT taking those precautions, trying to be all cool and casual about the whole situation.

 

But we DID put a waterproof mattress cover on the bed during our cleaning spree yesterday. At this point I don't want to lose any sleep worrying about my mattress staying dry  2whistle.gif

 

I also finally finished one of the little romper/overalls I knit for the baby. So cute! I'm finishing up the i cord on a matching hat right now. Feeling very motivated to complete another (slightly larger) romper and a sweater as well. At that point I will have zero knitting works in progress, which is a very very rare thing for me. It'll be nice to think about some new projects then. I've been trying to use up all the odds and ends of yarn I have around - baby socks and hats are the perfect use for that. It's exciting to be having a cold weather baby this time around, because I do love knitting teeny baby things.

 

I'm 39+1 today, and did a nice bike ride for groceries in the morning (only about 1.5 miles). I have a cargo trike, which is awesome because it's so stable (handy in our icy Chicago winters!) and I can haul literally hundreds of pounds with the thing, but it DOES take more effort to ride than a regular bike, even on a good day. Today of all days, my back tire slowly deflated on the ride home. It was so bad that I had to switch bikes with DH and ride his single speed cruiser (which I usually avoid at all costs because I just don't prefer the ride), but it was SO much easier getting home on that thing. DH had a hell of a time on the trike full of DD and all the groceries. But it was at least validating to realize that there WAS a problem with the bike -- for a while I was thinking that I must just be really preggo and out of shape!

 

scruffy/tear/spughy - that's fantastic that you've avoided the germies these past months! being sick AND pregnant is really the pits! we were passing around a few different colds and flues at our house in the fall and early winter and it was the worst! i've thankfully avoided being sick since hitting the third trimester and i hope to keep it that way for a while!

 

babytoes - you're close - i just know it! i'll bet your body will totally relax and ease into labor once you feel like you truly have the house and DP all to yourself!

 

storygirlcindy - i think it's excellent that you've made it to 38+ weeks despite all the odds! this is the time in pregnancy where we all have to remind ourselves that we will not be pregnant forever! this is my mantra lately, in fact.

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Cindy - I was just going to get a shower curtain liner, one of those non-smelly ones (I think they're polyurethane? They don't stink and they don't crinkle.)  I did that last time, just put the shower curtain over the mattress, then I put a fleece blanket over the shower curtain and then a fitted sheet like normal.  It worked great - my water did actually break while I was in bed.  And we could do with a new shower curtain liner anyway.  They're cheap and reusable - if you don't need it for your shower, your kids can always use it as a slip-n-slide in the summer or you can put it down on the floor (or use it as a tablecloth) for especially messy art projects.

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Cindy - I was just going to get a shower curtain liner, one of those non-smelly ones (I think they're polyurethane? They don't stink and they don't crinkle.)  I did that last time, just put the shower curtain over the mattress, then I put a fleece blanket over the shower curtain and then a fitted sheet like normal.  It worked great - my water did actually break while I was in bed.  And we could do with a new shower curtain liner anyway.  They're cheap and reusable - if you don't need it for your shower, your kids can always use it as a slip-n-slide in the summer or you can put it down on the floor (or use it as a tablecloth) for especially messy art projects.


I totally agree, spughy. The shower curtain is the way to go if you can reuse it in your actual shower after.

 

This time around my bathtub/shower doesn't use a shower curtain. So I got one of those plastic mattress bags (that you place your mattress in to keep it clean when you move). They sell then at u-haul stores and other places that sell lots of moving boxes and packing tape and stuff. It was about $5. I was worried about the crinkliness, but I slept on it last night for the first time and it wasn't a big deal at all.

 

One other possibility -- I've always found those flat waterproof flannel pads to be really useful with kids (not just in the baby stage). I recently got 4 new ones at babies r us for about $15. Anyway, if you already have something like this to use with the baby you could also lay on it when sleeping.

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You guys are starting to make me think that i should protect my bed and my couch, the 2 locations you will most likely find me at these days. With DD, my water didnt break until i was in active labor so i think subconsciously i've assumed thats what will happen this time as well. Maybe i'll just wear a pad from here on out wink1.gif

Babytoes--i'm sensing strongly that your little girl will come within the next 2 days, possibly 3, but i get the feeling she'll be here before then.

I've been feeling restless and strangely energized the last couple of days. I've been compulsively cleaning and organizing plus i did my prenatal workout DVD last night (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000083C59/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/177-6052657-2189162). I really like this workout, i've tried several different ones and this one is the best mix of cardio, strength and stretching (all of which is not very taxing, more energizing than anything else). Anyway, i was doing the floor exercises when i felt a strange burning sensation, i think it came from my cervix, it lasted for about 20 seconds. It sort of radiated down my vagina, if that makes sense. Has anyone felt anything like this before? I'm hoping this means my cervix is doing productive things smile.gif
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I'm going with the shower curtain on the bed, too.  It's on my list of things to buy this week.  I have an older one, but I've cut into it for the post-partum pads I made and will use it to place outside the birth pool (with towels on top).  Then I will probably make a picnic blanket out of it.  Or a diaper pail liner.  Or both.

 

I'm frustrated today because I want to get a bunch of little things done, but don't have the energy.  But I'm a bit restless.  So I'm kinda wandering around the house, noticing everything that's dirty or needs doing and feeling overwhelmed. Not that there's anything major to do.  Oh well, 2 more days of work, then all the time in the world to finish the last minute tasks - LOL!

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I got a waterproof bed cover from amazon about a month ago... I really didn't want to risk ruining our mattress.

 

I am not carrying around towels or extra clothes though! haha! Like you sunshine, I have never had my water brake until I was active labor, so I guess I'm not all that worried... Watch my water brake this evening irked.gif!

 

Thanks everyone for your encouragement! It's nice to come on here and see all the pom poms of cheerleaders! My parents just left a few minutes ago... I'm glad they came, I don't mind them being here, but my mother is a total pain in my ass right now. She is so worried she's going to miss something (they live 2 hours away.) that she called me Thursday and said they were headed up, I told her NO you are NOT... Nothing was going on, there was no reason. The compromise was they came up Friday instead. I kind of felt like she was hovering over me all weekend, and now that they're gone, maybe I will be able to relax with DP. I think we may DTD later, since we never do while my parents are around (even when they've gone to bed and it's totally safe. DP says, nope!), and that may help ripen things up. 

 

Sunshine, I have never felt burning per sa, but twinges and sharp pain, yes... But I think we all efface and dialate differently and perceive it differently, so it wouldn't surprise me in the least if it was body doing something productive!

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Babytoes - GL mama!  I hope you get your wish and things ripen up for you!   ;)  I'm sure you'll have baby soon!!  It will be nice to be just you and DP I'm sure!

 

 

Lol, I 100% agree with all the other ladies!  Rational thought is long gone.  I've been so insanely restless and have even lost interest in sex for the most part (please understand that for me this is INSANELY weird).  It feels like baby is going to fall out when I go to the bathroom so I assume between that and the loss of my mucus plug that I dilated a little farther than I was at my last appointment.  I am just so.done.  This pregnancy has been really hard on me and I want to hold my little boy!  DP wibble wobbled on the name so now that's up in the air.  My OB is out of town until the day of my scheduled section.  My ex and I meet with our lawyer tomorrow morning.  DP and I meet with his lawyer tomorrow afternoon.  Tuesday is his final divorce trial and when the judge rules on whether or not we'll get his daughter back (surprise, surprise it seems the bio dad bailed again) and my last appointment with the OB's office before surgery.  It's also the anniversary of the day a friend of a friend lost her son to SIDS.  (Who named their next child the same as what we're theoretically using.  Superstition is messing with me on that one.)  Wednesday is the 5 year anniversary of finding out I was pregnant with my first miscarriage.  A bunch of other little things just make me feel like Murphy's Law will go into affect and baby will come this week.  My parents are standing by as are the parents of my ex to take DD once I have baby so no real worries there.  We'll have DP's son Wednesday and Thursday evening and have to get him to school Thursday and Friday morning but we can manage if baby does show.  All my baby projects are done although I seem to come up with more everyday.  I was *such* an evil stepmom today because I made the kids really help me clean the house.  Then DSS went back to his Mom's and DD asked to watch movies with me.  So we snuggled on the couch and watched Brave and Tangled.  It was so sweet and such a rare occurrence for her to ask something like that!  It's hard for me to realize that tomorrow is our last Monday before baby is born.  Seriously surreal!  I know a lot of us were due around this timeframe so I think we're going to start popping with quite a few more babies!!!!

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I am not carrying around towels or extra clothes though! haha! Like you sunshine, I have never had my water brake until I was active labor, so I guess I'm not all that worried... Watch my water brake this evening irked.gif!

 

 

lol.gif That's what I said, babytoes.  BE CAREFUL!  The declarations you make may come back to bite ya!!! hahaha!lol.gif

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Cindy - you are too funny!  This weekend I set up our co-sleeper and car seat, did the final pack on the hospital bag and put the waterproof pad down on the bed (not that my water will break as it was broken for me about 5 hours before DS was born).  Yesterday I ordered a wetbag, diaper sprayer and diaper detergent (the only thing I was still missing). I guess I'm on the opposite end thinking that maybe she's not coming because I didn't have EVERYTHING ready yet!

 

Babytoes - good luck!  I'm not quite 40 weeks - will be on Thursday. I'm ready, but I feel like I still have at least another week to go.  It's really DH, my mother and all of my co-workers looking at me like I'm going to burst any minute that is making me anxious. Although I am with you on the really wanting to meet baby thing.

 

Scruffy, Tear and everyone else - Yeah for you avoiding the icks.  I had a stellar immune system my first pregnancy but this time around between DH and I working at a high school and DS being in his first year of "public" care we have been nothing but sick. I've stayed healthier than the boys, but I still have something coming around every 3-4 weeks.  We are all sniffly right now and I know we need to get better before baby comes.

 

Sunshine - I've had a burning/tingly feeling in my cervix a couple of times but I'm not really hopeful that much is happening... I hope it means you are dilating though!

 

AFM: I have my 40 week checkup on Thursday and I'm debating letting them check for dilation (after my firm stance on not being checked...LOL) because I feel like I need to know SOMETHING.  I've been having BH pretty consistently for a few weeks and they get just a little stronger every day, but still nothing to bring a baby. I noticed last night that the heartburn is back and my nipples are sore (what's that about?) Not that checking for dilation is going to tell me baby is coming....

 

I am going to continue to turn down ultrasound until 42 weeks b/c I'm nervous that they will diagnose me with something like low fluid and force an induction.... (lack of rational thought or realistic fear?)

 

My MIL is coming to help me out with the housework and DS this weekend - she will be here on Saturday.  I don't feel like I'll have the baby before she gets here and I don't know that I would want to.  She's perfectly fine with not being part of the birth but she tends to be a worrier and it will be much less stressful for me if she's not around being underfoot and asking me questions during labor.  I think she leaves on the 11th and my mother flies in from Alaska on the 14th and is staying through the 1st of April.  As an ICU nurse, she's another person who doesn't need to be present during a normal labor and delivery.  On top of that, both had 2 c-sections so neither really knows what labor looks or feels like. So I guess that gives me a 3 day window in which to have Baby girl.... pressure much?  The good thing is that I've had the 12th on my mind since finding out I was pregnant, so maybe that really will be the day.

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This weekend, my pelvis has been ultimately tender. I dont even have to strain it and I get crazy zings and shooting pains. So last night I was dreading trying to get comfy in bed. I used a pillow pet and jammed the head in front of my pelvis and the sh oulder under my pelvis, this helped so much, I had no pain all night! Maybe this could help some of you.
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Granola - hope all goes well with the lawyers today!! 

 

EVL to all who need them!  Or to those that seem to be playing with the idea of maybe needing them soon...  winky.gif

 

DP has the dreaded man cold.  He called in sick to work today, which is very rare.  I'm not exactly the most sympathetic person at the best of times, but today I seem to be taking it personally that he's decided to be sick.  Before I left for work I asked him to do ONE thing sometime today - get the frozen water dish out of the chicken coop (will need to use an ax) and he looked at me with his sick eyes and said, "Honestly, I don't think I'll be spending much time in the chicken coop today...  sigh...  cough..."  For real?!?  This will take one minute!!!!!!  And it's not like I want him busting his butt - I NEED him to get better ASAP - now I'm fretting over going into labor this week and having him passed out on the couch for the whole thing.  There's a happy medium between resting and getting a few odds and ends done around the house and I'll be calling him later to check on his progress.  Ok, deep breath.

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