Weekly Chat Thread - March 3rd through March 9th - Page 3 « Back to Group Discussions

[Tear78]

Woefully behind nd I need sleep after the day I had, but just want to say the few comments I can remember after reading...

Jodie, seriously cute baby!

Beautiful, I'm really jealous of you going fishing. What kind of fishing? . I guess the upside of living in a frigid climate is the bulky jacket hides my belly when I want it to. Sorry about the rude comments!

Granola, good luck tomorrow! May the karmic forces work with you! Thanks for asking about me -still pregnant. . That part of her sig is from dd's birth.

Afm, my grandpa is dying. he lives an hour and a half away and I'm struggling emotionally over whether or not it's a good idea for me to go. It's been a long day. He's on comfort care and its a matter of time. Even though he's 94 it's really hard.

[sunshinelove]

I'm sorry about your grandpa, Tear . I can understand feeling torn over whether or not to make the trip right now. Maybe get a good night's rest and see how you feel about it tomorrow? You'll probably feel more clear-headed when you wake up.

Granola--what an incredibly miserable excuse of a person . I hope she gets what she deserves and the kids can live in peace soon!

[Tear78]

Thanks, sunshinelove. . You're right, I really needed to sleep. I'm going to see my midwife today and ask her what her feelings are n going, as far as I know he's still hanging in there.

[babytoes]

Jodie... Your boy is super cute! I love all the infant pictures... swoon!

Tear, I'm so sorry about your grandpa, maybe you can get over to see him today, although I would also be nervous about trekking out of my area! 

Granola... What goes around comes around, honey. Karma takes no prisoners. Even if she doesn't get what she deserves today, take heart that at some point, it will come around and slap her... albeit pretty damn hard too! Hugs mama!! I cannot imagine the stress your under!

[scruffy too]

Granola - I really hope today goes well for you.  DP's ex has come up with a couple odd excuses to go to court throughout my pregnancy - all non-court issues that don't reflect well on her.  I've often wondered how this pregnancy would be different if I didn't have the stress of DP going to court every couple months...  They were supposed to go last week, but finally managed to talk like adults and avoid it.  It was over a week long day camp over spring break, of all things!  Geesh!

Tear - sorry to hear about your Grandfather.  A loss at any age is still a loss.  I hope whatever decision you make today is the right one for you.

BabyToes - you're still posting... So I guess you're not in full blown labour?  Hope you're feeling well!!!

I woke up and have a touch of the cold!!!!!!  It's hard to swallow.  Today is my last day of work, so I'll get plenty of rest from here on.  I'm frustrated and stressed that if I go into labour this week, I won't be 100%...  But since I really think it won't be this week, I'm trying to remain thankful that I'm sick now and not next week.

[babytoes]

I'm really trying here ladies... I don't want to be bummed out because I'm a measly 4 days overdue, but it's soooo hard!!

DP says I shouldn't let it bother me because its like being bummed out that my horoscope didn't come true .... Humph!!! What a brat! He is right though... We all know EDD are just like horoscopes, just an idea tossed out there! 

Everyday is so long, it feels like it takes forever to get through one. This morning When I dug myself out of bed I was saying "Please baby, please, today is a good day baby, come on out. Mamma is so tired, and you're so heavy. Please baby, please" Than I started to pray "Please God, Please!" 

I have never been overdue so this is double hard. But I have always had a push to get things started and this time I really want to let my body do it. Holy crap it's hard though! My midwives said they want to do a NST next Monday if I'm still preggo, that would be 10 days over. UGH... I know, it's a week from now. But it feels like I'm not doing anything other than growing this baby. I had lost my plug last week, and had a tiny bit of show on Friday night, but other than feeling very crampy... Nothing! I know crampy is good, but it's still useless without consistent contractions. Which is where I'm lacking. I have contractions, all day, but they're random and never follow a decent pattern. POOP!!! 

Thanks for letting me rant... I just need to get that out.

Oh yeah, I had to add in here... On Sunday I was at the grocery store and this older lady said "WOW!!! YOU'RE ABOUT POP!!!" with her eyes popping out of her head... I was so annoyed by her comment I looked her straight in the face and said (just as loud as her) "God, I FREAKING hope so!!!" And walked away... Stupid people.   

[RainGardenMama]

So sorry about your grandpa Tear. I wouldn't know what to do either.
Granola- hope all goes well today, thinking of you.
Scruffy- I hope resting as of tomorrow will help you nip the cold before it gets too awful!
Baby toes! You poor thing! I am sending labor vibes your way. I hope you get some action soon!

Anyone's partner getting weird about $?
DH just started talking about how poor we are going to be and had me nearly in tears. He has a horrible attitude! Infant care is so expensive if I work and then obviously not working means we 'll have much less income. Sigh.

[chocolatechip]

maydaymom, so good to hear from you! Glad things are going well with the new little one. 

GranolaMama, hope things worked out today. That woman sounds unstable and crazy - so sorry you're still having to deal with her.

Tear78, big hugs for you. I hope your grandfather has a gentle exit, and that you get to see him before he goes. I also have some long-lived family, and while I do think it helps to know that they lived big full lives, it doesn't make it any less sad when those lives end. 

Scruffy, hope you get healthy quickly! Maybe it will just be a quick cold.

babytoes, I hope that baby comes soon! In the meantime, I think your response to that woman was AWESOME. It was both true, AND maybe made her think a little more about what she says to pregnant ladies in the future!!

Anyone who's thinking about trying that foot scrub - I have to say I've kept the leftovers in the shower, and have been using it on the rest of me the last couple days, and not only does my belly feel super soft, it hasn't been itching at ALL!!! It seems to get way more moisturized with the olive oil scrub than with anything else. So that might be worth a try too. 

Oh! And I had a dream last night that we had a baby girl (and we don't actually know what it will be). ??!? It was a very odd dream, in that I suddenly was in a room with my baby, and another woman who also had a baby girl. And I couldn't remember anything between what happened yesterday (in real life) and what happened that day (in the dream). And the woman told me my baby had been born on her due date, which she said was *July* 29th (rather than March 29th), and that everything went quite well, though it was too bad the baby didn't wait until Feb (??) 9th, because then everyone would have been here (my mom and a friend are both coming into town on March 31st/April 1st). So I'm kind of fascinated by the fact that I dreamt it was a girl, and had these other facets I've been thinking about involved in the dream too, but then there were those parts that didn't make any sense.

So it probably doesn't mean anything, but if I were required to make a prediction at this point, I guess I'd say baby girl born on her due date with no complications. Watch me dream about a baby boy tonight. 

[writermama12]

c.chip, DH made a scrub last night (with salt instead of sugar) and rubbed my feet while I took a bath with DS2. Great idea! I can't believe he went for it. I did have to convince him and promise I'd wash my feet really well beforehand. Thanks!!

[chocolatechip]

Originally Posted by writermama12 

c.chip, DH made a scrub last night (with salt instead of sugar) and rubbed my feet while I took a bath with DS2. Great idea! I can't believe he went for it. I did have to convince him and promise I'd wash my feet really well beforehand. Thanks!!

Awesome!!! 

[LightForest]

Aw babytoes, I hadn't seen you posting in a day or so and I was TOTALLY convinced that you'd had your little girl! You have a right to feel some frustration given all those promising labor signs!

I'm at 39w3d now and have NO labor signs to show for it, unless you count some piddly BH. Bla! I actually took DD for a walk (about 1.25 miles total, all in the snow) in the midst of a snowstorm this morning. The snow was nice and crunchy, so no slippiness, and I held on nice and tight to the stroller the whole time! DD kept sticking her head and hands outside of the stroller rain cover to eat the snow - super cute.

I've been feeling pretty short tempered with DH lately - he's expecting me to function at my regular level right now, and I honestly just don't have the energy for it all. I feel like he's "forgetting" that I'm really really pregnant, and I so wish he'd just give me more props for the things I AM still doing! He's at least agreed to take DD to her little parent-child class tomorrow, which will allow me the "luxury" of going to a midwife appointment without my toddler for the first time this pregnancy. Of course, he'll probably end up staying at work super late tomorrow night to make up for taking the morning off. I seriously just can't wait till Friday when his last big work commitment is completed and he can truly unplug from work (well, mostly at least) to be here whenever the baby makes its appearance.

[SlimP]

BabyToes, I was wondering about you too! The wait is hard but enjoy your last few days pregnancy as baby will come when you're both ready. Ha, I would have loved to have seen that lady's face!

Tear78, the circle of life seems ever more poignant when you're pregnant. It is so hard to lose a grandparent, especially when their great-grandchild is about to arrive. I hope it's a peaceful end to a long life x

Granola, yeouch she sounds like quite the biatch but I doubt she'll pull the wool over the courts eyes. And yep, karma is a wheel, she will reap what she's sown at some stage.

Raingardenmama, I think the financial worries are common for partners.....for mine at least who almost had a breakdown during my last pregnancy. He said from the start of this pregnancy he wouldn't allow stress about money to get to him this time. Things can get tight at times but they will work out. Happiness is priceless x

ChocChip, v interesting and detailed dream!! I guess you'll find out soon enough anyway

LightForest, only piddly BH for me too, even if losing mucous plug isn't for sure, it would at least make things a little more interesting. Partners do forget what a long hard journey pregnancy is sometimes. Maybe he's just anxious himself and will cop on to your reality soon!

One of my Facebook friends commented that I obviously hadn't popped yet and I got dozens of 'Likes' and comments as I hadnt felt the need to announce my pregnancy there. Not that I don't appreciate the best wishes, it's just that I now feel the pressure of being overdue from my extended circle instead of just family and friends. Sigh. Feeling super tired today after a few days of feeling great........is that a sign??

[hikingfortruth]

Sending lots of loving vibes to all of you! Maybe its the moon affecting all of us.

[writermama12]

LF and Slim, Nearly nothing felt for several days in a row for me. Well, just infrequent BH and swelling sore breasts. Began feeling pretty down like yesterday I think or maybe Sunday and it just keeps going. Crying on the way to my MW appt today, then broke down like a busted dam. I was bawling. But I got really nice MW today and she hugged me and held my hand and talked to me for like 30 min. She also prescribed me some Zoloft and gave me some numbers of good therapists for pregnant women in the area. I had my first cervix check to see if a sweep might help. I don't know that it means anything but I was 1 cm, very soft but long and posterior. Not very favorable but she did a little stretch and sweep to see if it might help. I feel emotionally exhausted and physically poopy, mildly depressed and like I don't want to talk to anyone. Yuck. I hope this goes away.

[cabbitdancer]

Oh, Tear, I'm sorry about your ailing grandfather. I hope you get a chance to see him again before the end and that his passing is a gentle one.

Here's hoping things pick up for you soon, babytoes!

I hope things went well for you today, Granola.

raingardenmomma, I'm the one in this partnership who worries about the financial impact of another baby. I hope it's just a temporary omg-baby-on-the-way kind of thing for him.

I may have to try the scrub. My mom wants to go for a pedicure some time this week. We'll see how that goes... I'd like to get someone to clip my toenails. I can't bend to clip them myself. ;)

Kiddo was dancing until late last night, and I wound up not getting to bed until 1 am, and then got up at my usual no-school-day (snow day, today!!) time of 9:30 and I'm still not as tired as I would expect myself to be. The amount of stuff I've gotten done today is more than I'd get done in a whole week for the past few. It's AMAZING. I feel productive and energized. I hope it lasts for a week, at least, so I can get some things done! :D

[scruffy too]

 Writer - I'm sorry you feel poopy.  I'm glad your MW was able to listen and provide support.

[sunshinelove]

Scruffy--i hope you feel better soon! Fresh ginger tea works great for me whenever i feel a little ill.

Babytoes--i'm sorry you're feeling so miserable!! Hopefully your prayers will be answered tonight or tomorrow

Writermama--uggh, depression is horrible, especially while pregnant . Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy. Be gentle with yourself

AFM--lots of back labor yesterday but of course it fizzled out by the time i went to bed. I actually started to think that i was experiencing the real thing, though, which shows how strong they're getting.

[GranolaMama09]

Babytoes I'm so sorry sugar!  I hope things start progressing soon.  And BWHAHAHAHAHAHA I LOVE your comment to that woman! 

Scruffy Uber suck for being under the weather.  You're right in thinking it's better to get it out of the way in a fashion before baby arrives but still, being sick (especially this pregnant) is no fun.  Whohoo for the start of maternity leave!  Hopefully it lets you get enough rest to kick the ickies quickly and be 100% when baby arrives!

Writermama I am sorry sweetheart.  I had bad PPD with my DD and have antepartum this time around.  I'm hoping it doesn't develop into PPD again.  UGH.  I'm going to start eating chia seeds to see if that helps.  However, I was prescribed Zoloft for my PPD and it REALLY worked and quickly.  I will be honest, coming off of it was the worst thing I've ever experienced but I took a 50mg dose everyday for nearly 2 years which was a major part of it I'm sure!  I'm not trying to scare you or anything but I wanted to share my experience.  I was so scared when I started taking it because I didn't have any anecdotal information about it.  I hope it helps you as quickly as it helped me.  Many, many hugs.  Depression BLOWS.

Tear I'm sorry about your grandpa.  I hope you were able to reach a decision that you are comfortable with.  Many, many hugs for you as well.

Sunshine I feel you on the frustrating not going anywhere contractions.  I hope they develop into something for you soon!

Cabbit Whoot for extra energy!  I hope it keeps up as long as you need it to get your list done! 

LightForest Same here.  DP and I are both pretty short tempered with each other lately.  Hopefully things improve for you and DP soon.

RainGarden I'm sorry you're DP is stressing about money.  We've had a couple of fights over it ourselves.  Which way costs more?   Especially when you factor in daycare extras (food, diapers, etc.  Whatever they require.), work clothes for you, extra gas, wear and tear on a second vehicle, etc. 

ChocolateChip Pregnancy dreams are just weird!  It will be interesting to see if you do deliver a girl on your DD!

AFM - I CANNOT go into labor before Sunday.  My OB is in the Dominican Republic until Saturday and the other doctor in the practice nearly killed DP's son from her incompetence.  I'm scheduled for section at 5:00 p.m. Monday and my parents get here Sunday evening.  DP will be officially divorced 30 days from whenever the judge signs off on the agreement reached today which will hopefully be this week.  The judge ruled that a deadbeat that shares DNA with DSD has more claim than DP who has been that girl's father her entire life.    Ugh.  But at least it's on the record and she can't change anything anymore or pull her BS without legal consequences.  I'll be incredibly happy when it's DONE and he's 100% divorced.

[RainGardenMama]

Cchip- when I was pregnant with DS had a couple of dreams about him. Initially I dreamed he was a boy and then that he was a boy with blonde hair and blue eyes. It seemed ridiculous because DH is Afro-Cuban- brown eyes and black hair and I have dark brown hair and brown eyes. Welllll DS had gorgeous blue eyes and is blonde, so I don't know, sometimes I think we don't give our dreams enough credit, although I don't think they translate LITERALLY. Hehe

Lightforest- my DH can be quite similar, when I am feeling evolved I am able to take it as a compliment at how capable he finds me. But this morning I almost cried when he asked me why he would bathe DS 2 nights in a row, this just one day after a doctor told me I have slipped a disc or two and he says WHY when I ask for help? I was upset but took a deep breath and asked for help again. Sheesh.

Slim- I am looking into every feeling I have, searching for signs! Hoping feeling tired is one cuz then we'll both be in labor at any time!

Writer- did it feel good that the MW understood the urgency in helping birth along and went ahead with the sweep? Sounds like a comforting appointment

Sunshine- I was fooled yesterday by lots of contraction and back labor! Seems to be going around

Cabbitdancer- I do plenty of my share of worrying!! But, I had sort of an epiphany when it occurred to me that we have been through hardships and come through brilliantly- financial and otherwise. Things always have a way of working out, so I am trying to keep that in mind. I guess DH didn't have the same epiphany
That sounds like some fantastic nesting energy!!

Granola- we crunched the numbers and though if I work full time and send the baby to daycare ($1,000/mo!) we will still make more, even considering the extra costs of gas, convenience food, clothes, etc. BUT the emotional cost is huge and I think we are leaning toward me working part time for a while like I arranged initially with my employer, but when they want me to stop working PT from home and return FT to the office I will quit.
I like working and am resourceful, I will figure out a way to supplement our income without daycare until baby is 18 months old, at least.
How will you know when the judge signs off? Do they call you or send you something? You must be so relieved it is over! I hope you get the doctor you want. How horrifying to know something so awful about the other doctor who could possibly deliver your baby. I would be pretty anxious. Are you still feeling "birthy" at all?

[cabbitdancer]

Big hugs for you, writermama. Depression sucks, in more ways than one. Hopefully, things will get better, with the prescription, with the therapy, and with baby's eventual arrival.