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post #61 of 120

Wow, so much stuff going on!  We are all obviously FAR too busy to have babies.

 

Granola - irked.gif on your behalf.  That sucks with the custody over your DSD.  But I'm glad things are nearing a close for you.

 

Raingardenmama - I hope you are able to work things out and stay home with your baby as much as you can. 

 

Writermama, I hope the zoloft does good things for you.  Being depressed at this stage of things is just a bad idea.  Take your comfort where you can.

 

Lightforest - it's hard to function as normal.  Make that impossible!  Do what you must but slack off on whatever you can.  Pizza for dinner is a good thing. winky.gif  How old is your LO? Old enough to pour cereal?  A week of nothing but cereal isn't going to kill her.  Or your DH for that matter.  I am ordinarily a big traditional foods/everything from scratch kinda person but I'm not ashamed to admit there's a box of cereal in the cupboard and frozen waffles in my freezer now.  And I don't know what your finances are like, but honestly, the $50 I spent on housecleaning the other day was worth it three times over.  It's not just about having someone else do your work, it's about how much more relaxed and happy you feel when it's DONE. 

 

chocolatechip - your dream means that your subconscious totally SUCKS at understanding how time works. lol.gif  I had a bizarro dream last night where I had a baby - a girl, but that wasn't important - and she could talk, and I just couldn't get over how convenient it was that I had this baby who could actually *tell* me what she wanted.  Mostly it was "I'm hungry" and then I was able to tell her how to nurse more effectively.  LOL.  Control freak much?

 

AFM I had the busiest day EVER today and here it is 9 pm and I'm not even a complete basket case.  This morning I had to pick up a box of chicken from the butcher, then I had a chiro appointment, then I rushed home to bag and freeze the chicken, throw dinner in the crock pot and take the dog out for a quick pee, then I had to accompany DD's class on a field trip (ok that was just fun, and I didn't have to, but I wanted to because field trips are JUST as fun now I'm a grownup as they were when I was a kid) then I had to pick up some tea and goodies, come home, finish dinner, sort out the kitchen, have the rest of the strata council over for a meeting, serve & eat dinner, and then our doula came over for our final meeting before stuff happens.  She just left, DD had another weird little barfing incident, I stuck her in bed and I am finally done for the day.  I think the chiropractor did some good - I am nowhere near as sore as I usually am after a day like that.  And I am tired - but it's only just hitting now. 

 

Oh, and I had a text AND an e-mail today from two separate people asking me if I'd had my baby yet.  irked.gif  Really?  I'm only 38 weeks. 

 

Tomorrow is less hectic but my sister is arriving.  I am totally going to take advantage of her fully functional self and make her walk my dog for a few days.  But I suspect I will also be chauffeuring her around a lot.  Thursday is unfortunately looking a lot like today, but on Friday I get to have a haircut and I'm looking forward to that.  Then on the weekend I'm going to schedule the baby in, because it would just be really convenient.  I'll do a Buko and make up a little countdown, that seems to work really well. lol.gif

post #62 of 120

Oh man, I couldn't sleep and got up around 145. I meant to have a snack and tire out reading online, but I just thought I'd look up some info on zoloft (I took one before bed) and it is now 4 am because I am freaking out about the birth defects associated with this drug. Yikes!! It is a category C. I am totally confused as to why my MW wouldn't have mentioned this when she handed over the prescription and why I was so stupid to just take it. I think I was hopeful that it would help and tired of worrying about, well, everything. I am NOT taking it anymore. So that also sucks because I will just keep feeling like this...I've never had PPD and I hope that I don't thins time around but from what I've read major birth defects and/or respiratory issues can happen by taking it in the third trimester (a 33% increased chance of breathing problems at birth in one study). 

post #63 of 120
Hugs, writermama! I'm sure one pill, one time, won't be enough to cause harm. I'm upset too that it was prescribed to you. I hope you're able to feel better without it! hug2.gif

Thanks everybody for thinking of my grandpa. He passed away last night peacefully with family around him. I am so thankful that I made the trip over and got to hold his hand and tell him I love him hours before he died. I would be so upset with myself now if I hadnt. It still doesn't seem real, and I definitely don't feel like going into work now for my last three days, but here I go. I suppose three days isn't that long. Sigh... greensad.gif
post #64 of 120

Tear, I am so sorry about the big loss in your life. Hopefully taking some grieving time after you are finished working in a few days will help you process it so that you can focus on birth peacefully. 

post #65 of 120
Writer- I agree with Tear that a small dose will do no harm, and very strange that your midwife didn't discuss the medication with you in greater detail so that you could both weigh the benefits and risks together.
Keep in mind that "c" means they don't know for sure one way or the other, so they must not have had enough research to come to any conclusion, even the bad ones.

Tear- big hugs, reading that you were there with him and got to say goodbye brought tears to my eyes. I am so glad for you that you got to be there. I hope you can take it easy at work these last few days.
post #66 of 120
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Granola- we crunched the numbers and though if I work full time and send the baby to daycare ($1,000/mo!) we will still make more, even considering the extra costs of gas, convenience food, clothes, etc. BUT the emotional cost is huge and I think we are leaning toward me working part time for a while like I arranged initially with my employer, but when they want me to stop working PT from home and return FT to the office I will quit.
I like working and am resourceful, I will figure out a way to supplement our income without daycare until baby is 18 months old, at least.
How will you know when the judge signs off? Do they call you or send you something? You must be so relieved it is over! I hope you get the doctor you want. How horrifying to know something so awful about the other doctor who could possibly deliver your baby. I would be pretty anxious. Are you still feeling "birthy" at all?

 

 

Rain, I absolutely understand this sentiment.  It makes me so sad to know that I have to return to work at all with this little guy.  While incredibly comforting that work is going to give me enough time for DP to finish school for the semester so that baby never goes to daycare, it still just breaks my heart.  I'm glad that your DH seems to be coming around a bit and understanding the emotional cost!!!  Are you crafty?  Maybe you could make things and sell on etsy?
Presumably, DP's lawyer will contact him and let him know when sending the final bill for the case.  In the meantime, we just check our state's case net and see if any new docket entries have been entered.  I'll be very relieved when it's completely signed off and my divorce is signed off!  My state won't allow a woman to divorce if she is pregnant so we are waiting patiently for baby Oliver's arrival so that my ex and I can file.  However, we have no property, no children, etc.  We were married all of two months before we realized we'd made a colossal mistake.  Lol, but DP was looking at rings last night.  ;)  It's bothered him quite a bit that we're having a baby out of wedlock but that we're both technically married to other people.  He is ecstatic that we're both almost legally cleared of it! 
I am feeling incredibly birthy which terrifies me.  I tell Oliver everyday as much as I love him and want to hold him with my arms, we missed the chance for him to come early and need him to wait until at least Sunday now for his safety and mine.  Lol, plus DP is wobbling on the name so we need time to solidify that too!  I love my OB and I realize she has many patients and thus can't always be in town when they're close but we have made it VERY clear from DAY ONE that we absolutely could not and would not use her partner as well as explaining our reasons why.  I am slightly annoyed that she would take a trip to South America this close to birth for me given that knowledge.  BUT, I don't know the details of the trip or why.  I've noticed she's gone at least once a month there and she is foreign so perhaps there are legal reasons or philanthropic reasons.  I'm just trying to stay confident that it won't happen before she's back.  Power of positive thinking right?

post #67 of 120

Tear I'm sorry about your loss.  I am very glad you were able to make the trip and tell him goodbye though!  hug2.gif
 

post #68 of 120
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Oh man, I couldn't sleep and got up around 145. I meant to have a snack and tire out reading online, but I just thought I'd look up some info on zoloft (I took one before bed) and it is now 4 am because I am freaking out about the birth defects associated with this drug. Yikes!! It is a category C. I am totally confused as to why my MW wouldn't have mentioned this when she handed over the prescription and why I was so stupid to just take it. I think I was hopeful that it would help and tired of worrying about, well, everything. I am NOT taking it anymore. So that also sucks because I will just keep feeling like this...I've never had PPD and I hope that I don't thins time around but from what I've read major birth defects and/or respiratory issues can happen by taking it in the third trimester (a 33% increased chance of breathing problems at birth in one study). 


While your MW should definitely have discussed it with you, it may be a situation where the potential risks (especially this close to birth) are lesser than the potential benefits.  I have to take Advair twice daily plus a rescue inhaler often.  Both can potentially cause significant birth defects and I've had to take them since first trimester.  It terrifies me that a medication I needed to take could damage my child.  I would suggest calling your MW and discussing your concerns about the medication.  What was the dosage?  A lot of the studies are done on women taking significantly higher doses than you were likely prescribed.  It's also the 'best' depression medication to take while breastfeeding so maybe your MW had some thoughts in that arena.  So many hugs sweetie.  Call your midwife and talk to her about everything and see what the recommendation is and why.  hug2.gifhug2.gif

post #69 of 120

Thanks Granola, I will.

 

BTW, anyone know about Chapsie? She hasn't been on here in a while...at least I think so. Did I miss something? Did she have her baby too?

post #70 of 120

RainGardenMama, that's amazing that you actually dreamt about how your son ended up looking!

 

Granola, fingers crossed that labor holds off until Sunday! Good luck finishing up the divorce saga...

 

Spughy, I love your dream!!! Way to communicate with that baby! Heehee!

 

Tear78, I'm so glad you were able to see your grandpa, and that he passed away with people who loved him around him. Hugs to you, and I'm sorry for your loss. 

 

I had a bit of a breakdown last night. I really don't feel like I've been all that emotional during this pregnancy. But I posted that silhouette picture of me on Facebook because I liked it so much (I haven't posted many pregnancy pictures there), and my friend who took it also posted a different but similar one, and there were a ton of really nice wonderful comments, and all of two of the "wow, are you having twins?!?" variety. But for some reason last night I just couldn't handle those two, and ended up needing a long cry-and-vent, that I think took my husband rather by surprise. Even if I know that people don't mean anything mean by it, and that I "shouldn't" take it personally, it all sinks in a little, you know? And it's so hard to maintain a fairly positive body image in this society to start with... I know that for the most part people really aren't judging, but it's hard not to feel judged. irked.gif Ugh.

 

On a happier note, midwives are coming over for the home visit today!!!

post #71 of 120
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Thanks Granola, I will.

 

BTW, anyone know about Chapsie? She hasn't been on here in a while...at least I think so. Did I miss something? Did she have her baby too?

I'm so honored that I've been missed.  :)  Love you guys!

 

I'm still here, still pregnant.  I've been super busy (and tired!) and haven't been on the computer that much lately.  I've been trying to keep up with most of the posting here (so exciting that babies are coming!).   Working a lot at the hospital, and trying to get all my certifications finished (neonatal resuscitation, CPR, etc.) before the baby comes.  Not very good timing that they are expiring about the same time I go out on "maternity leave."  (haha, it's in quotes, because, as I've said before, 6 weeks of short term disability does not a maternity leave make!)

 

Also, my bedroom/bathroom where I intend to labor and birth is totally ripped apart right now.  My DH has been working from right after dinner until midnight every night to make it nice for us (we had to take out some exterior doors, install windows, build a closet, put in a new floor, and completely redo the bathroom).  So, to support him, I've been taking over meal planning, shopping, all cooking, childcare, laundry, etc... whereas, before, he contributed a lot to that stuff.  So, my time online has been cut way short.  I've also been SLEEPING A TON lately.  I think my body is really slowing down.  I was supposed to meet with my neighbor last night at 8:45pm, and I fell asleep at 7:30.  My husband was in the back room, hammering away and didn't notice!  My DD climbed into bed with me and fell asleep and my DS turned on a netflix kids show.  Haha.  I didn't wake up until 10:30, totally missing my meeting.  Oh well... I hope she understands!  

 

In other news, the baby has dropped, lots of BH.  I'm 38 weeks today, and hoping baby stays put until the house is in order!  

 

Around here, the weather is beautiful!  The sun is shining, the snow is almost all melted, and the birds are chirping!  It's springtime!  It makes me so happy.  :)    

post #72 of 120

Chapsie, so glad everything is good, though busy! It sounds really busy, but you seem to be super pregnant lady. wink1.gif Keep up the sleeping - great way to be rested when the time comes for labor!

post #73 of 120
Chocolatechip--i'm sorry the comments caused you pain hug.gif i can understand why that would bother you. When i was pregnant with DD, people (including my own mother) kept making comments about my size and how there might be twins in there (i knew there wasnt). It was hurtful and made me feel self-conscious. I wish i knew witty comebacks for people like that but i dont. Blah, people suck sometimes...

Chapsie--wow, it sounds like you've got a lot on your plate! You're probably feeling anxious about the bedroom and bathroom being ready when you give birth (i would be). I hope it all gets done in time and you can relax and enjoy your newly remodeled space wink1.gif.

Writermama--that would anger me, too, about thr zoloft angry.gif She should have at least discussed the risks with you before she prescribed it! That is scary. I would definitely bring it up with her.
post #74 of 120

Wow, Chapsie! No wonder you haven't been seen on here much! :D

 

*hugs to Tear* So glad you got to see your grandfather before his passing and that it was an easy one, surrounded by family.

 

writermama, when people/companies list the side-effects, they usually list ALL of them, regardless of how often they actually occur. Zoloft is quite probably considered the safest depression medication on the market for pregnancy and, if your depression is bad enough, it could warrant the need to accept some of those risks. I would definitely discuss your concerns with your midwife, though.

post #75 of 120
Oh Chapsie that would be driving me bonkers! GL getting it done in time!

ChocolateChip I am sorry you got some rude comments (whether or not they were intentional). Hugs


AFM Lady help us, I think we just changed his name from Oliver to Elliot..DP started to wobble wobble on me a bit ago and we finally had time to talk tonight. It would seem we are going to change it less than a week before his arrival! 0.o
post #76 of 120
Granola- I love Elliott, wonderful (but I love Oliver, too smile.gif
Chapsie- hope your little one waits for the renovations to complete
Cchip- people love to tell me how huge I am and how I look like I am about to burst. I hear ya.
Your photos are beautiful and I think you look amazing.
post #77 of 120

Tear- So sorry for your loss, it's good that you got a chance to visit and say goodbye.

 

Chapsie - I can't imagine having full out construction happening right now!  I have to move one table from one side of the couch to the other to get my living room 'birth ready' and that seems like a daunting task!

 

Writermama - I completely understand your fear about the medication, I've had to use my inhaler off and on throughout and some of the risks are scary, and it's a benefit/risk thing that's hard to make.  In my case not breathing properly was a bigger concern, but I think the advice you got here about discussing the risks and benefits with your midwife is the best route.  It is strange that they wouldn't have mentioned the risks, or that the pharmacist wouldn't have talked to you about side effects.  I had to chat with the pharmacist about my hemorrhoid cream usage before they would hand it over.  

 

Chocolatechip - Sorry to hear about the comments, I think some people don't really realize how big pregnant women actually get near the end.  I had someone comment in December (at 6 months) if I was due in a few weeks (she's actually pregnant now, and will soon realize how amazing our bodies are!).  My boss has been commenting on my eating habits through the whole pregnancy, and I've just started turning it around on him, "I'm eating for two, what's your excuse".  Not that that would work well on facebook, but it's helped keep other comments from getting too deep.  We're all entitled to a break-down every now and then too!

 

Granola - Not being able to divorce while pregnant seems like such a silly rule!  Especially when the baby isn't a product of the marriage in the first place.  It sounds like things will resolve themselves pretty quickly after the birth though, and it's sweet that your partner is already looking at rings.

 

AFM - DP's been away for work all week, and gets home tonight.  It's not a huge issue as I'm responsible for most of the meals and getting DS ready in the morning (DP commutes 2 hours each way for work), but it'll be nice to have him put DS to bed tonight, since I keep falling asleep in the chair after reading stories which effectively kills my productivity for the night.  It has been nice to have a few days with Jack alone, DP and I sometimes bump heads on how we interact with DS, so it's been a bit of a relief to just not have the snippy comments in the background, that and DS has been pretty good, so I haven't had much to worry about.  I did have to miss two meetings for work, my yoga class and my knit night, but there's always next week, right?

 

As I was leaving the house today with my arms full of backpack, snow pants, books etc. I had to stop to figure how I'm going to manage it all with a newborn in tow.  I'm sure it'll work out, but I think the reality of it all is starting to sink in.  I'd love for DP to find a job closer to home, but he has a great job with good pay and amazing benefits and it would be tough to find something even remotely equivalent here.  So I'm going to keep urging him to push for more flexible work arrangements (he can do probably half his work remotely), so that at least some of the time he's around to make dinner or pick up the kids.  

 

I have 4 days of work left and it's starting to get a little stressful.  I can't remember how I prepared to go off last time, but I don't feel nearly as organized this time around.  I still have piles of paper on my desk to deal, loose ends to tie up and boxes to pack.  I might have to come in on a weekend just to get some of it done without anyone else around.

post #78 of 120

Hi, Lovelies!  Sorry I haven't had a chance to catch up, but I figured I would at least share a couple of photos from L's first day.

 

Little Baby Girl L (The Artist Formerly Known As Buko), about 18 hours old...

 

 

 

It's funny-- she looks exactly like I thought she would!  Very, very much like my nieces (DH's brother's girls).  They even commented on it when they saw photos.

 

Although seeing newborn photos of me, I have to say there's a little resemblance there too...  Of course, all newborns look a little alike!

post #79 of 120

She's so yummy Buko!! Congrats!!

post #80 of 120

oh, she is darling!!!!!!! so happy for you.

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