(Edited to add that I also felt many comments were judgmental, and was very uncomfortable with that. I do not argue that they were intended to be so, but that they came across that way.)
In any case, I completely understand your feelings about having a daughter. My first is a girl, and I cannot express how delightful I find her. I look back now, and it seems impossible to me that I was ever disappointed that she was a girl (I had a strong boy feeling, boy dreams and could not get the idea that I should have a boy first out of my head -- I grew up with a big brother and that's the order I expected for my kids). But my DD is an amazing little human being -- bright and funny and sooo opinionated! I love her in a way that alarms me with its intensity. She takes up so much of my heart, and I deeply hope she and I will be really close, good friends for the rest of my life.
In fact, this time around, I was disappointed that this baby is a boy! I was sure it was a girl, and have really had to wrap my mind around it. I had all these fantasies of my two girls playing together and being such sweet sisters to one another, and now it's going to be a very different experience.
That doesn't mean I don't look forward to his arrival, and to getting to know my son (!! That word seems fraught with meaning !!), but it's not what I had pictured. I am certain it will be beautiful, just different.
Edited by cmu204 - 4/19/13 at 7:38pm