My ds will be 4 at the end of April. I am hoping that he will wean in the next year, but I'm trying not to push him. He nurses when he wakes up and then before bed. If he asks during the day (which he does, most days) I refuse. I don't refuse in a mean way, I just matter of factly say that he can have milk in the morning and before bed. Lately he has started asking a little more aggressively. He also asks whenever we are around men (our doctor, the chiropractor, his OT). I always refuse unless it's morning or night, those are the only times I am willing to nurse him. He has been nursing two times a day for over a year. In the last few months when he is nursing in the morning (when I am snoozing) I have to ask him over and over to not rub my breasts and grope me. I say things like, "Stop please, I do not like how that feels!". He also will nurse on both sides and then ask to go back to the first side again. When I refuse he cries and his feelings are clearly hurt.
I have been handling all of this fine for the last few months, but he has started touching my breasts, pushing his face on them and making nursing sounds, he talks about my breasts alot. I really feel kind of disgusted with his touching me all the time, especially because I feel like I have been extremely clear that this is unwanted touching. I am feeling angry and kind of used. My husband is also upset that my nursing relationship with my ds is turning in this direction.
We have tried talking to him about respecting people's bodies. I have left the room telling him that it makes me angry, and I have also sent him away. I am not sure how break through to him without weaning. I would love some advice because I am really feeling awful about this and don't want to hurt his feelings.