DW and I are in a great place now and she is being incredibly helpful and supportive. It took a couple weeks for us both to get here though. Being our "first rodeo", I think we both didn't realize at first how intense it was going to be right away. We got our BFP early and then kind of tried to go about life as usual. I felt like it was too early to start asking for help with certain things, and I think it didn't occur to DW to be as proactive yet. Then we had a good talk a couple weeks ago and I said, "I think we both need to realize that this is happening now." Since then she has stepped right up, helps with some of the cleaning that I used to do, checks on me in a non-condescending way about my food & water intake throughout the day, and is very flexible about our plans, understanding that on any given day (or at any given hour) I might just need to lie down. And I've tried to be better about communicating how I'm feeling and what I need. I feel incredibly fortunate.
John16n33 - Do you have a good support network where you are now, since you can't be around DH for a while? I can imagine that must be a challenge to be apart during this time. I hope your appointment went well yesterday.
gray - That is wonderful news that you are feeling a rebound. Your strategies for moving forward sound excellent.
ciga - Yes! The 2nd tri will be so sweet for us because it will be timed with Spring! I cannot wait for it to be warm enough for me to open the windows in my house. Some fresh air will be so good for me.
echo - I think the provider instinct can be so strong for some parents during this time. DW and I have wanted to move back to our home in New England for a while now, but it all depended on her ability to secure a job up there. In her profession (higher education), the interview/selection process takes months. So the whole time we were TTC and for the first few weeks of our pregnancy, she was also on pins and needles about her applications. She just found out last week that she got her first choice position, so we will be moving back home this summer. Her mood has improved so much, as has her joy and helpfulness about the pregnancy, because she can now feel good about her ability to provide for us all in in the area where we want to be.