Originally Posted by nattery
I look young for my age and I get the rudest questions inferring that I am a teenage mom. NOT that teenage mom's deserve to be asked these questions either. It was really opened my eyes to the crap they have to go through and the instant judgements people make. (I'm 29 and married by the way but people have guessed I am as young as 17, including other 17 year olds... which can make teaching high school difficult at times ;) )
Oh, nattery, I feel your pain! A bit OT, but I often sub, so the students will think I am the "new girl" and try to let me know I shouldn't be writing on the board, or I'll get in trouble! Then they're like, Oh. I still (pushing 40 & 4th prg) get asked the type of questions you listed. My favorite at-school experience happened while waiting in the hall for another class to finish & vacate, so I could enter the classroom (without disrupting them), the principal walked up behind me & said, "Are you out in he hall bc you're in trouble?" (I thought he was joking; actually I was taking a pic of a flyer advertising a play while waiting) I turned around, chuckling a bit at his "joke," and he said, "WHAT! And you're on your phone!" I CANNOT imagine his reaction if I'd also had a baby bump at the time!
We also get the "was this planned?" ATT, and even with a tone, as if we -shouldn't- have planned another baby. Not only is our intimate life NOYB, but, neither is our family size... right?
I've heard comments (not questions) from one person, bordering on torturing my dd... a lady at church kept telling her our baby is "a rotten boy" (bc at the time dd wanted a sister-- she has 2 brothers, although now she can't decide which is better, she's so excited). I countered gently with, idk, our timing is more like for a girl, I think, but we're very happy about this baby either way. She never let up, oh no! rotten boys come in threes, & this one is another rotten boy! (BTW, this woman has 2 boys of her own & I have 2 boys of my own. Mine are nothing like "rotten" & I don't think hers are, but maybe she is that unkind a mother, that she thinks hers & thusly all boys are rotten?) DH & I were about to confront her privately re her hatefulness to our family about this baby when suddenly it stopped, so maybe someone already said something to her?
Not a normal preg question, but w DD, a male nurse began a line of personal & inappropriate questions including my phone number... then when my husband & boys came in the room, backpedaled, using the excuse that he thought I was a young (single?) teen mom! ...Oh, no, what were you asking, I still think you should repeat that in front of my family! As if it would be ok to take advantage of a young teen mom who was a patient under his care?!
I think I answered the "What are you having?" question once with, "Twin lambs... well, actually our ewe, Misty, is -having- the lambs... WE'RE having a baby." Lambs just seems like a more appropriate answer to the "what is it" question! Or puppies or watermelons, LOL!