My 3yo has been potty learning for a looong time. Too long. Several months of encouraging using the potty and trying to get him to "get it". He has been in undies all day except naps and night for 2 months now. Yet he never initiates a potty trip, generally refuses to go when we ask him if he wants/needs to, and wets his pants often. He doesnt' usually say he wet, I have to figure it out by behavior or wet clothes. I'm really frustrated with the lack of progress. He does sometimes agree to go and has a tiny wet spot, or says "am I wearing underwear?" which makes me think he knows when he needs to go. Yet he almost never wants to go and kicks and screams if I try to force it. Once there, he will sit and pee/poo til he's done.
He usually lies if I ask him if he's wet when he is. We have never punished accidents or shamed him or anything so I don't know why.
He can go 4-5 hours without peeing on a good day, or sometimes has a couple of accidents in a 2 hour period. I have tried regular trips, but he screams and won't sit on the potty.
We have tried tons of praise, rewarding successful trips with treats.. I don't know what else to do. It's too cold here in the winter to go naked.
Is it possible at 3 and 4 months old to NOT know when he needs to go? Does he jsut not care enough about being wet to bother going?
Any ideas to help him along? I'm stuck between risking accidents in the car/out/at friends, or using dipes which would be undoing progress.