I have worked 70+ hours a week over the last three weeks, no OT and lieu time is a maybe at best. I've gotten a thank you but not from the people who matter. Corners have been cut to meet deadlines and I will probably be held responsible. I've been intentionally overbooked while having no say in scheduling or deadlines and meanwhile been held responsible for maintaining a server and training a new assistant.
I keep thinking to myself this is what I get for taking a 'career' job. I invested 6 years working in my field before DD#1 was born and went back after mat leave because of a ridiculously good salary offer. I spent the next four years working a job not a career but I made good money and kept my foot in the door while getting a sweet deal on hours, paid mat leave and then a part time schedule after DS. After 8 years with that company I was laid off just over a year ago.
My industry is in tough times and I was ready to move on but within a week my current company offered to create a position for me. They said straight up it would be 50 hours a week and at a pay cut over my old position which was 32. I said yes anyway because my boss is "the best"...sort of a House/Devil Wears Prada scenario. The personalities and office politics have been very difficult but until recently the hours worked out to more like 45/week so I could manage - barely.
Anyway now I like my job but I just wish I had it 10 years ago, when I didn't have bigger priorities and a huge daycare bill making a decent salary into minimum wage. I'm not the breadwinner in our family. I originally made the decision to work outside the home when we really needed the money and I wanted a career in our family that didn't involve my husband's shiftwork, but he got a promotion a year ago and that's not a factor anymore.
I feel like I have spent *years* paying my dues and I will still end up working retail. We don't immediately need the money I make but my job does pay for long term security. Of course it's worth it to be a better wife and mom but it still sucks.