We give out water mostly too, because like smokering was saying most drinks are nutritional garbage. However, I also do children's tea or milk. Depends if the child is staying for a meal or if it's a quick visit. Cordial/juice/junk drinks are only for birthdays.
I was thinking about this last night and another thought came to mind.. Some people are just cheapskates (not due to actual financial struggle, but because 'more for me is always better') and have a greedy mentality. I would like to believe my own words about them struggling financially, if the dad hoarding a pizza to himself didn't constantly toil in my mind. I don't know what to think now. He could just very well be a professional tightass. Who knows.
P.S I know someone like the above and going to his house is an activity that is delayed as much as possible. Very uncomfortable.
I hope the counsellor getting involved doesn't impact on this little girl in a negative way.
And about the scolding, I also remember my BBF and I were scolded by her mom at a sleepover once. We were 16 at the time. We were being loud and acting like a pack of fools and she had get up early for work the next day. Boy, did we cop an earful!