She's started getting concerned about what clothes she has and what clothes she wants. I don't mind her being interested in her appearance, and I'm OK with us making some choices about clothes and how much we'll spend. I want to make sure I discuss this in a way that presents my concern that her appearance not become too important to her where it overshadows her other qualities, without downplaying her understandable and age-appropriate interest in fashion and looks.
What are some good ways to discuss appearance with daughters while helping them to grow up to not see appearance as their most important defining characteristic, but while being respectful of their interest in appearance? I feel like this is a balancing act.